r/China • u/No-Use-1712 • 2d ago

咨询 | Seeking Advice (Serious) Need advice-I got scammed by a friend

Hello everyone,

I'm in urgent need of advice. I recently got scammed by someone I considered a friend from Hong Kong. Here's what happened:

  • My friend made up multiple excuses to borrow a substantial amount of money from me, totaling way way way over 70,000 HKD.
  • When I asked for it back, he gave me a cheque that couldn't be cashed.
  • He also sent me a screenshot of a supposed bank transfer, but I never received the money.
  • Despite my efforts to resolve this amicably, he continues to ignore my messages.

I'm currently in Shenzhen and unsure if the police can help in this situation. Has anyone here experienced something similar? What steps should I take to try and get my money back? Any advice on how to handle this situation legally or personally would be greatly appreciated.

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u/H1Ed1 2d ago

Damn. Doubtful anything can be done. Sorry to hear that.

Rule of thumb for lending money to friends is to never lend the money with the idea of getting it back. Lend it with the intention of gifting it. If they repay the debt, great. But if they don’t, you’re not caught out resenting them over it, or fully cutting ties over it. If the amount is too great for you to give it away without resenting non-payment, then you shouldn’t lend it.

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u/No-Use-1712 2d ago

Yeah I know, he just made up many excuses to trick me. What's done is done, I just wanna get my money back.

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u/Johnnyhiredfff 2d ago

You won’t. Move on sadly before you piss away lore time and energy. Consider this a life learning experience