r/BoomersBeingFools • u/ShawnandDaonteRSimps • 1d ago

“You’re talking about having a baby….”

My FIL is a “good boomer” most of the time. He’s rational. Understands SOME boundaries. Married one of my favorite people (also a boomer) after he and my MIL got divorced 10 years ago. So all this to say, I WAS SHOCKED TONIGHT when he went full Boomer on me.

I’m 36F who has been married to his son, my high school sweetheart, for 12 years. We have struggled with fertility. Tried foster to adopt. Broke my heart and me for a couple years when it didn’t work out.

We want to be parents. We are doing the fertility stuff now. I’m open about it. I gave everyone the warning that I’m on big hormones this Christmas, so if I’m more cunty than usual, tell me to chill or just sit me in a corner. Either will be fine.

I foster animals for our local shelter and have a special needs kitten who idk if he will go to the shelter for adoption or stay with me until I find him the right home personally. He might stay with me forever. That’s ok. I love him and my gut says he isn’t right and we just haven’t figured it out yet. Worried he has FIP (IYKYK).

I mention this at dinner and FIL says YOURE TALKING ABOUT HAVING A BABY!! THATS LIKE 20 KITTENS!!!! YOU CANT TAKE ANYMORE ANIMALS!!!!

I sharply respond that I’ve had a child before. I’ve loved her and would kill to have her back. And he doesn’t live in my house so he can shut the fuck up.

Instead of apologizing to me, he just says “this conversation is over” and walks away. End of the night. We left. Ugh.

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u/Davism62 1d ago

I’m not seeing the terrible in what he said. He knows you’re trying to get pregnant and you mentioned adding another stressor to your life, care of a sick animal. I mean yeah he can’t tell you what choices to make but i feel like this was a big overreaction on your part.

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u/ShawnandDaonteRSimps 1d ago edited 1d ago

GUYS! We found the boomer in the chat!!!!

So glad you were there and heard the tone and attitude with which he told me what I can and can’t do in my home.

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u/Davism62 1d ago

Not a boomer, not even 40 actually. Just saying it sounds like you have deeper issues with this person and you’re digging to find something to be upset about. Sure his opinion wasn’t asked for and you are entitled not to like it but you do sound rather c u next Tuesday-ish as you said you might in your post. Guess you don’t really want to be told when you’re acting that way like you said. My bad.

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u/1Pip1Der Gen X 1d ago

Meh... Boomer mentality, shifting to "I'm sorry you feel that way because you're wrong" and "you're a c-word."

You might be younger than me, but, buddy, yer a full-blown Boomer.

Shame on you.

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u/Davism62 1d ago

She’s the one who used the c word to describe her behavior and requested people let her know when she’s acting that way. I didn’t know having a difference of opinion made me a future boomer but okay. Lol hope your day gets better ✌🏻