r/BoomersBeingFools • u/ShawnandDaonteRSimps • 1d ago

“You’re talking about having a baby….”

My FIL is a “good boomer” most of the time. He’s rational. Understands SOME boundaries. Married one of my favorite people (also a boomer) after he and my MIL got divorced 10 years ago. So all this to say, I WAS SHOCKED TONIGHT when he went full Boomer on me.

I’m 36F who has been married to his son, my high school sweetheart, for 12 years. We have struggled with fertility. Tried foster to adopt. Broke my heart and me for a couple years when it didn’t work out.

We want to be parents. We are doing the fertility stuff now. I’m open about it. I gave everyone the warning that I’m on big hormones this Christmas, so if I’m more cunty than usual, tell me to chill or just sit me in a corner. Either will be fine.

I foster animals for our local shelter and have a special needs kitten who idk if he will go to the shelter for adoption or stay with me until I find him the right home personally. He might stay with me forever. That’s ok. I love him and my gut says he isn’t right and we just haven’t figured it out yet. Worried he has FIP (IYKYK).

I mention this at dinner and FIL says YOURE TALKING ABOUT HAVING A BABY!! THATS LIKE 20 KITTENS!!!! YOU CANT TAKE ANYMORE ANIMALS!!!!

I sharply respond that I’ve had a child before. I’ve loved her and would kill to have her back. And he doesn’t live in my house so he can shut the fuck up.

Instead of apologizing to me, he just says “this conversation is over” and walks away. End of the night. We left. Ugh.

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u/Fabulous-Routine2087 1d ago

Sending all the fertility vibes your way. When you get pregnant, may I suggest your animals be heavily featured in the announcement. 😈

Hoping your FIL’s marvelous sounding wife gave him an earful on when to stfu.

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u/ShawnandDaonteRSimps 1d ago

Oh I like that. Lil Hermie kitten will have a “Big Brother” bib on. Yass.

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u/Active_Collar_8124 1d ago

We put a 'big brother' bandana on our dog to announce our pregnancy to my inlaws.

"You're getting another dog!?"

They knew we were trying. They knew we sought fertility treatment.

I love my inlaws. They're good, generous people with mild boomer tendencies. Sometimes, they just don't get it.

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u/No_Philosophy_6817 1d ago

I had a kitty named "Hermie"! (Sorry, don't know why that got me so excited...geesh, I need less coffee) He found us when we already had one cat. They both were orange and white so my lack of imagination in the moment caused me to call him "Hermano" and Hermie, for short. They never really did much brother/sister stuff, more like they just tolerated each other. But, she was a huge, long-haired princess and he was a scrappy, little bad ass so....

Sorry to ramble but your comment brought memories of my sweet kitties to mind and gave me my first smile of the day. Thanks!

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u/PettyBettyismynameO 1d ago

Now I’m thinking of the arrested development hermano gag. 😂