r/BoomersBeingFools • u/ShawnandDaonteRSimps • 1d ago

“You’re talking about having a baby….”

My FIL is a “good boomer” most of the time. He’s rational. Understands SOME boundaries. Married one of my favorite people (also a boomer) after he and my MIL got divorced 10 years ago. So all this to say, I WAS SHOCKED TONIGHT when he went full Boomer on me.

I’m 36F who has been married to his son, my high school sweetheart, for 12 years. We have struggled with fertility. Tried foster to adopt. Broke my heart and me for a couple years when it didn’t work out.

We want to be parents. We are doing the fertility stuff now. I’m open about it. I gave everyone the warning that I’m on big hormones this Christmas, so if I’m more cunty than usual, tell me to chill or just sit me in a corner. Either will be fine.

I foster animals for our local shelter and have a special needs kitten who idk if he will go to the shelter for adoption or stay with me until I find him the right home personally. He might stay with me forever. That’s ok. I love him and my gut says he isn’t right and we just haven’t figured it out yet. Worried he has FIP (IYKYK).

I mention this at dinner and FIL says YOURE TALKING ABOUT HAVING A BABY!! THATS LIKE 20 KITTENS!!!! YOU CANT TAKE ANYMORE ANIMALS!!!!

I sharply respond that I’ve had a child before. I’ve loved her and would kill to have her back. And he doesn’t live in my house so he can shut the fuck up.

Instead of apologizing to me, he just says “this conversation is over” and walks away. End of the night. We left. Ugh.

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u/Economy-Diver-5089 1d ago

What a weird thing to say. A baby is an animal to him?

Clearly you have a huge heart and really care for those kittens, showing you’d be a great parent too. I hope the IVF goes safe and smoothly for you and you have the family you want!

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u/ShawnandDaonteRSimps 1d ago

I think he was trying to express concern about how we will have too much on our plate when we have a baby in the house. But god damn it. He went FULLY BOOM BOOM BOOMER in how he told me how to live my life, and wouldn’t apologize when I clearly told him to back off. hE wIlL DiE oN tHiS HiLl!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also, the “you’re talking about having a baby”… mother fucker I will birth one whole human child if it’s the last thing I do and I swear to whoever if you disrespect me while I’m on these hormones again you will know about the problems we have.

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u/Economy-Diver-5089 1d ago

Boomers gonna boom 🤷🏻‍♀️ either way, not his life! It’s your house and life, you do what you want! You know what you’re able to handle and are responsible enough to ask for help with the fosters if needed. Sometimes older people just cannot understand a way of life that they wouldn’t choose for themselves and it’s really annoying. My grandma is like this, always has to give her opinion even when it was never asked, or we tell her we don’t care to know what she thinks.

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u/PhDTeacher 1d ago

Sounds like the boomer brain worm got him in the right place.