r/Assistance • u/cocinamisfit REGISTERED • May 25 '23
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Can I get some birthday wishes?
It’s my son’s 12th birthday today and he just informed me that his biological babysitter decided it was more important to go out with friends and leave my son alone rather than celebrate with him. I’d like to show him that people do care and love him. I have less than a month before I will have full custody and things like this make me so mad. Especially when he was told that he couldn’t have a birthday party because it was too expensive.
For context: I live 6 hours away and am driving to stay with him for the next three days and sleep in my car because I cannot believe this father would do this.
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u/FirebirdWriter May 25 '23
If you can this might be worth getting before a judge as proof of emotional neglect. At 12 some places will also let a kid choose which parent to see and determine their own visitation. This is a hard betrayal to get over. I do like biological babysitter also. It's good. One of the things that still gets to me as an adult is the way birthdays were weaponized by my parents. I lacked a healthy or loving option. What you are doing is very important.
For the kid? Happy birthday! May your next one as you become a teenager be the most epic of birthdays and may you have endless cake and presents for all birthdays
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u/Dangerous_Variety415 May 25 '23 edited May 25 '23
Happy birthday, young one! Soon to be my birthday, too. I remember my 12th year. I'd like to share a little birthday advice with you. One day you may look back at your 12th year and recall how strongly you feel now, but I think what you'll remember most fondly is how the people who love you best treated you. Edit: Qualified upon reflection: Surround yourself with quality, choose wisely the company you keep. Everyone has worth, but not all will see yours and treat it with respect.
We don't all get the same blessings in life, but what matters is what you choose to do with what you've got. Take your gifts and grow them like seeds in a garden. If there's a goal you want to accomplish, put effort each day that you're able into working toward it. But, for now, try to enjoy your childhood.
Happy birthday!
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u/Noodlekiddo May 25 '23
Talked to some friends and we say happy birthday from Canada, from Russia, and from The Netherlands!
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u/wompwompo May 25 '23
Happy birthday!! 🎉🎂 🎈
Pokemon Go is the coolest! I'm still trying to reach lvl 40 myself
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u/SomeHoney575 May 25 '23
Happy Birthday to You
Happy Birthday to You
Happy Birthday Dear sweet 12 year old boy
Happy Birthday to You.
From good friends and true,
From old friends and new,
May good luck go with you,
And happiness too.
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u/wolfsblood2012 May 25 '23
Happy birrrrthdaaaaay to himmmmmm! Happy birthday toooo himmmmmmm!!!! Happy birrrrthdaaaaay, little duuuuuude!!!! Happy birrrrthdaaaaay tooooooooo hiiiimmmmmm!
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u/philistinecollins May 25 '23
Happy birthday from Canada! I hope you’re able to take advantage of some free birthday deals somewhere :)
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u/Ksuyeya May 25 '23
Happy birthday from Queensland Australia!! Sending koala hugs and kangaroo snuggles just for you xx
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May 25 '23 edited May 25 '23
Happy Birthday from Kentucky, USA young man! You’re stronger than you may think I’m super proud of you! Life can be tough sometimes but having a mom like yours makes it all worth while! You have someone in your corner that’s going to love you unconditionally and fight everyday to give you all the wonderful thing this world has to offer!
Always remember, take the high road, treat others as you would want to be treated, your word is BOND, but most importantly……LOVE YOURSELF and enjoy your last year as a Pre-Teen!
All of us Redditor’s wish you the happiest of birthdays my guy!
Edit: Mom, we’re proud of you too! Keep your head up and know that what you’re doing doesn’t go unnoticed! Judging by this post I feel like you’re the kinda mom i needed when I was his age.
Always stand by him, good or bad, and he will always do the same for you! 💚❤️💚
Again, I wish you all the best of days and send all my love and support from my family to yours!
It’s post like these that give me faith that we still have some good ones out here in this wind world!
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u/Lovelyelven May 25 '23
Happy birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉 I hope you have a great time & get to make some great memories with your mom 💖💖 You're amazing 👏🏼 you're loved 👏🏼 you're important 👏🏼 you're smart 👏🏼 you're wonderful 👏🏼💖
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u/AvarriannaRoxxzor May 25 '23
Happiest birthday big guy! 12 is a big one! You’re almost a teen! Make the most of the coming year, I hope it’s a good one 💜💜💜
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u/Some_Pipe9163 May 25 '23
Happy birthday kiddo! Twelve was such a great year for me growing up, but I hope it’s even better for you! I sincerely wish the best for you and your family in this upcoming month of change. May all the pennies you find be heads-up!
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u/tres_liebres May 25 '23
Muy feliz cumpleaños desde Argentina! 🎉🥳 I hope you guys have a lot of fun and quality time when you visit.
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u/asianstickingiitin May 25 '23 edited May 25 '23
Happy Birthday to your son! You are a great mum!
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u/Cmother4 May 25 '23
Happiest 12th birthday to your son and congratulations on getting coustody back!!!💜
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u/forlornthistle May 25 '23
Happy birthday! Being 12 is awesome! One year away from being a teen and you basically get to do everything teens can, but kids can too! I hope you have a phenomenal day! Soak up everything, find some adventures, and get into shenanigans.
OP- good luck on custody and thanks for being a positive parent!
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u/myreddit314 May 25 '23
Happy birthday , feliz cumpleanos! from South Texas, young man!! I hope you have a birthday as wonderful and special as you are. 💗
Mom, go to r/RandomActsOfCards! there's a whole bunch of sweeties that will send your young man a card if you ask.
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u/Professional_Bird_74 May 25 '23
What is a biological babysitter?
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u/Only-Ad-7858 May 25 '23
Happy Birthday to your wonderful son! Hope you get to do something fun to celebrate.
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u/cocinamisfit REGISTERED May 25 '23
We are going on a book shopping spree with money I’ve been saving! And he chose to go to longhorn for dinner and some Pokémon go!
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u/Mysterious_Hotel_55 May 25 '23
Happiest of birthdays to you!! Twelve is a fun age, almost a teen but still having all the innocent kid fun!!
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u/Kananete619 May 25 '23
Happy birthday, buddy! 12? You're almost a teen! Remember that you are meant for great things. Enjoy, little man!
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u/TurbulentBirthday236 May 25 '23
Happy 12th Birthday dude!!! Hope YOUR day is amazing! !! From Louisville, Kentucky!
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May 25 '23
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May 25 '23 edited May 25 '23
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u/uppercasemad Canadian Mod 🇨🇦 May 25 '23
We don’t make exceptions.
OP isn’t eligible to post a request. This isn’t a request. This is for emotional support only.
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May 25 '23
What a special day!!!! Get excited for summer break and (probably?) 7th grade! Keep your head up.. these are tough years but you have so much to look forward to!
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u/knoegel May 25 '23
Happy birthday from South Texas! Sadly I don't ride a horse to work nor do I wear cowboy hats and boots. I couldn't pull that off.
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u/M1r9f7i9sh May 25 '23
Happy birthday mate, from Adelaide Australia. I hope you get spoiled and can feel the love coming at you from all over the world. I hope you have a special day as special as you are
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May 25 '23
Happy birthday! Being 12 now means you’re almost 13! How does that feel? I remember being 12…one of the best ages for playing games and getting good at them!
You are so loved by your mom and by others. We are all glad you’re around! Enjoy your week. May your days be as bright as you are!
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u/oyuli May 25 '23
Happy birthday from Wisconsin, from myself and my three cats! 12 is such a fun Age; you're so close to being a teenager but young enough to soak up and enjoy childhood. You're gonna have a great year ahead of you buddy!! Stay strong and HAVE FUN!
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u/cecelee024 May 25 '23
Happy happy birthday little man! I hope he has a great day with you, mum. He deserves all the fun and love today 💕
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u/Straxicus2 May 26 '23
Happy birthday from California! PM me your address and I’ll send a card he can have when he’s finally yours full time.
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u/cherann76 May 25 '23
Happy Birthday from Alabama! Tell him we dont know him but we all love him! And good luck to you momma!
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u/cosybay May 25 '23
Happy birthday young man! Hope you have a great time with your mom on your special day. 🎂🍰🧁🍔 🎉 🎈🎊
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u/TabbyKatty May 25 '23
Happy Birthday from Texas!!! 12 is a big one! Good luck, I hope you have an amazing year!
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u/claudip55 May 25 '23
Happy Birthday from Florida! Enjoy your birthday. It is your day to celebrate!🎂🎂🎂
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u/StarKitty_79 May 25 '23
Woohoo!! Happy 12th birthday buddy! 🎂🎉🎈🎁🎇 Hope you have a wonderful day celebrating! You are important and you are loved! ❤️
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u/Wellthereyogogo May 25 '23
Happy 12th birthday, from Scotland! I wish you every good thing you wish for yourself!
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u/Infernal_Pharaoh May 25 '23
Happy birthday to him! No kid should have to deal with that, and congrats on the full custody! He needs to be with someone who will show him just how loved and amazing and worthwhile he is!
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u/cocinamisfit REGISTERED May 25 '23
Thank you! I am SO excited! I already have a summer of stuff planned for us. We’re going to have a party when he comes home
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u/anotherlilanon May 25 '23
Happy happy 12th birthday, wishing you lots of fun and happiness all the way from London 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
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u/Crimson0range_ May 26 '23
Happy Birthday to an awesome son!!! Wishing you a great day from 🇨🇦 Canada!
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u/owwmyhands May 26 '23
A little late, but happy birthday from South Korea, friend 🎉
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u/cocinamisfit REGISTERED May 26 '23
I don’t get him until tonight so it’s never too late :) thank you!!
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u/Outrageous_Tip6711 May 25 '23
The big 12!?! Whewwww what a great time! Wishing you the most amazing birthday for an awesome 12 year old! Sending you lots of love from NYC!!
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u/SpecialistBrave1944 May 25 '23
Happy Birthday!!!!!! I hope you have an AMAZING day! From Lockport, New York
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u/FullyRisenPhoenix May 25 '23
Happy birthday sweetheart! My birthday is tomorrow, so we are almost birthday buddies!! I hope you have a wonderful day and enjoy the time with your mama!! 🎂🎈🎉
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u/buzzybody21 May 25 '23
Reminder: this is an emotional support post. OP is not eligible to request. Thanks, and happy happy birthday to your incredible son!!