My husband is a Dorfkind. Two years ago we moved to the village he was raised in. Almost every month there is at least one party he attends and comes home like at 6 OClock in the morning absolutely obliterated. Than spends the next day just sleeping.He explains to me that is normal village life and everyone does it. That is how people are normally living and has nothing to do with alcohol problem. Thats their way of partying.My in-laws tell me the same. Is it true? Is that really a cultural thing? Or am i being gaslight.

I am sorry if my question is not for this thread.

Edit: He is in his middle Thirties. He is drinking every day 2 to 6 beers after work. Almost every week he is drunk (not fully wasted). Beer is like a water for him. He says it is not a big deal. He does that since before i met him (being blacked out drunk on parties). He was drinking occasionally after work but after moving here it got worse. I said i dont like how he drinks from the beginning and he said he can change that it is not a big deal. But he was just drinking at night while i was asleep.

Edit 2: OMG i did not expect my post to blow up like it did. Thank you to everyone for the support. I got so much useful information. Thank to all the professionals who wrote me how to try to help him realise.

I (25M) went clubbing with a german (24F) friend of mine and one other friend. We are really good friends and I've known her for a couple of months now. When we were at the club sitting down I asked her if she found anyone cute there which is a normal question to ask a friend imo when at a place like a club where you're dancing with strangers and there are people hitting on you and stuff. She laughed and played it off in the moment and I was like ok maybe no one.

The next day she texted me to ask me if we could talk about something, she came over and asked me about why I was asking this specific question. To which I said my friends ask me this too when we're out and I do the same sometimes, its nothing serious. To which she was like ok I figured, she then told me that this is something people don't ask their friends in Germany ever because to her this question in itself was something a jealous boyfriend would ask. She told me that people just tell their friends if they're interested in someone but their friends aren't supposed to ask them about it at all.

I told her I understood that and we are perfectly fine now and back to normal, it isn't even something that worried us at all but I am still thinking about this being a german culture thing so let me know if thats true.

I'm curious about the local trends in Germany that might seem unusual to outsiders like me. Like quirky fashion statements, unique dating customs, and intriguing food preferences that are distinct to certain regions or communities.

I'd love to learn more about these trends, whether they're related to fashion, music, love, food, or something entirely different. Are there any peculiar trends that have recently gained popularity in Germany? Perhaps something that's specific to a particular city or region?

hallo :) ich w20, arbeite seit Frühling in meiner Stadt an verschiedenen Obstständen. Das ist das erste mal, dass ich wirklich eine längere Zeit arbeite und mir ist aufgefallen, dass Rentner kaum bis garnicht begrüßen. Ich habe sehr wenig Kontakt zu deutschen Rentner, da meine Großeltern im Ausland wohnen. Ist es also normal dass Rentner einfach nicht begrüßen und einfach ankommen und sagen "a pfund zwetschga" und kein danke bitte sagen? (und dann beschweren dass die Jugend unfreundlich ist)

Wohne an der Bodenseeregion BW

edit: wohne seit dem ich 4 bin in Deutschland und man würde mir das auch nicht ansehen, dass ich eigentlich aus dem Ausland komme

I am 2 weeks into my Germany stay and attended a volleyball verein and my name is not very easy for Germans to say it seems. I remember when I learned Chinese, I got a Chinese name and that was easier. Should I just fuck around and have people call me Jannick or Hanz or Julian haha

Saw this thread in r/AskUK - thanks to u/uniquenewyork_ for the idea!

Brit here interested in German culture, tell me your takes!

This question goes to people who may go to church on Easter or Christmas but more for traditional reasons rather than actual belief but every month parts of your paycheck goes to the church (Catholic or Protestant). Why?

I'm curious if any of you Germans are genuinely completely indifferent towards the Euro tournament and football in general. I doubt many of you truly do not care at all but I'm curious to find out.

Als Kind hat mich mein Opa am Sonntagmorgen immer mit in die Dorfkneipe genommen, dort trank er dann ein oder zwei Bier (ich eine Cola). Um 12:00 war man zum Mittagessen wieder daheim. Wird diese Tradition noch gelebt ? Alkohol am Vormittag ist ja so eine Sache.

My partner and I were watching the video "A Video about Germany" from the YouTuber Jules and, in it, he starts talking about the German "Leistungsgesellschaft" and how the school system is a prime example of this, in that it puts a ton of pressure on kids.

This surprised me because, at least in my bubble, people have very low expectations of their children. Like it's borderline unkosher to expect your children to go to Gymnasium and complete their Abi. It's also not normal for kids to be involved with multiple extra curricular activities and these are treated as "hobbies" and not like a thing where you should achieve something. Even at my job, no one really tries to go above and beyond in any spectacular way and only people in leadership positions regularly work overtime.

Is this just my bubble? Do you think "Leistungsgesellschaft" still accurately describes Germany?

What stereotypes do U hate about Germany that foreigners (like I) get wrong or are convinced are true.

I'm not living in Germany or anything but I always liked the language. And I'm trying to learn it again for the first time since high school. I'm looking for a German podcast and I'm mostly interested in comedy, history, geography or culture.

I'm curious to hear your honest thoughts on this: what's one aspect of German culture that you wish you could change or that drives you a bit crazy?

Is it the societal expectations around work and productivity? The beauty standards? The everyday nuisances like bureaucracy or strict rules? Or maybe something related to family and friendship dynamics?

Let's get real here, what's one thing you'd change about German culture if you could?

From reading some of the comments on this subreddit, it seems like Japanese cars are considered bland and boring in Germany. As I understand it, when Germans think of Japanese cars, they think of stuff like the Toyota Camry Corolla and Nissan Juke. When I asked about this, it seems cars such as the Subaru BRZ, Nissan 370Z, and Honda Civic Type R weren't really thought of when considering fun or exciting cars.

So does Japan not really sell their more exciting cars over there? Is the German notion of a fun car that different from what Japanese automakers consider fun? Did I just happen to read the comments of the three Germans that thought this? Or is it something totally different?

EDIT: Apparently the Camry is not sold in Germany, so I'm changing it to Corolla

This is something that might seem very normal to Germans and you don't even think about it because it's so common but there are table tennis tables ALL OVER GERMANY! They are everywhere.

Right in front of my house there is one, I walk a few minutes to the next park: table tennis! A playground at school: table tennis.

Why is this?

Do you (any non Germans in here but also Germans) know any other nation where you see table tennis tables everywhere? You probably don't notice them or pay attention if you are German but if you are abroad and you start looking for them you will notice that this is a very German thing and other countries don't have them everywhere.

This really makes me wonder why? Was there some initiative in the 70s or something by some sport minster to build them everywhere because he was such a fan of table tennis just like the German Trimdich Pfad (you know outside gym equipment/ machines located in parks) which was an actual movement in the 70s or something.

It doesn't even feel like table tennis is popular in Germany or are Germans good at it? I know China is but here Germans play it at school when they are kids and never look back as adults or is it actually a popular sport Germans are good at. I mean they should be if you can play it pretty much everywhere.

Hello, I’m an older sibling in the Ukrainian family that lives in Germany, Thüringen.

In Ukraine people don’t really celebrate Halloween so I’ve never got a chance to experience “trick or treat”-ing. But when my family ended up in Germany, we saw that a lot of people actually buy decorations for Halloween and.. preparing to celebrate it?

So my two younger sisters (7, 10) keep asking me if “trick or treat”-ing is “real” and do I want to do it with them. They’re really exited about it but I’m not sure if it’s a thing here, like it was in back in Ukraine. I don’t want to show up with two silly kids in front of someone’s house asking for candies and then get pepper sprayed (that’s a joke but you know what I mean 😭)

So my question is.. do Germans have such thing as “trick or treat”-ing? I appreciate all the answers.

And why?

I clarify that I am a woman, I don't want this to sound like a complaint and much less am I saying that all people are like that, but recently dates with Germans are like let's walk in a forest, netflix 😒simple things and I don't see it as something bad, I like to walk, but the point is that I went out with a German and when I return home he sent me the bill so I could pay it, to which I am very surprised because if you invite someone out of courtesy you don't ask that person for money I I am a woman who can pay 100% on a date and sometimes I can pay 0% or sometimes I am 20% 80% I don't care nor do I expect them to pay me everything because I am not that type of woman. what I'm going for and this because I also know girls who have had this experience with Germans. Why are German men like that? ( not all) Please don't throw shi at me I just want to understand if this is common in men if it is part of the culture

Sooner or later, you get tired of living in a black and white world, where everything is divided into victims and villains. Are there any good films about the life of German people and soldiers during the Second World War?

There are over a hundred million people in the world who speak german, even more who understand it. Why are there relatively few internationally acknowledged german films or tv shows? I can think of a number of great german speaking films, my favoutites being those of Werner Hertzog, also great shows like Heimat but why are for instance french and italian films more often recognized in the canon on cinema? I think recently even the Nordic countries have had more film and media presence although the languages are relatively obscure and the populations smaller.

Hello everyone, what are the best movies and series produced in Germany, you can recommend them for me

Hallo, ich komme aus Amerika und lerne Deutsch, spreche es aber sehr wenig.

I'm sure some of y'all know about how chaotic America is right now and honestly… it's true. And I want to leave. ASAP. To me, Germany just keeps sounding more and more like the perfect place to live. Beautiful scenery, delicious food, rich history, am amazing environmental laws! (😍 your incentive and strictness on recycling is my wet dream, sorry not sorry) But of course it's probably too good to be true so I want to get the word straight from the horse's mouth. Personal experiences.

What is Germany REALLY like? The good, the bad, and the ugly. Politics, economy, religious views/tolerance included. I want to know if I'm just fantasizing about leaving America for a dream that's all grass greener on the other side or if it really would be beneficial to make the leap.

Danke!

Edit: Southern Germany is where I'm interested. Stuttgart or Munich area, close to the mountains. Hope that helps narrow in the sub cultures so yall can provide more specific answers 😁

Asking as someone who's from a country not very good at either of those things (Mexico) and where it's very common to see mounds of garbage on the street.

Did it start with kids at school? Were there any laws passed or giant campaigns promoting recycling? I know there are some things like the color-coded bins or the machines at supermarkets for returning water bottles.