r/worldnewsvideo • u/PlenitudeOpulence Plenty đ©șđ§Źđ • Apr 08 '21
Feel-Good đ He made her day
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u/hak8or Apr 08 '21
Dumb question, where does something like this end and cat calling begin? I am pretty sure that if you did this in, say, NYC when commuting home, the other person would be more pissed than happy usually. Especially if you were walking home or waiting for the train/bus.
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u/avidpenguinwatcher Apr 08 '21
I think a big part of it is in the way you say it and your body language. Also the fact that she's very safely in another car and not across the aisle in a dark Subway
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u/dwavesngiants Apr 09 '21
Exactly timing location delivery and of course swag
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Apr 09 '21
right... so subjectivity or you know if the person is snowflakey enough to care. I'm surprised he's not being chastised for not yelling "Trigger Warning!" before jumping into his swag.
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u/integrateus Apr 09 '21
I think it comes down to if the person being cat called is flattered or not.
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u/Deeliciousness Apr 09 '21
It's all about following rules 1 and 2
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Apr 09 '21
You mean:
Be attractive
Donât be unattractive
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Which as far as Iâve understood might sound like a stupid rule but has apparently more or less been scientifically proven or at least partially supported. Like literally women will think the exact same pickup line or comment will be creepy coming from an ugly guy and cute if coming from an attractive guy.
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u/Kitnado Apr 14 '21
This is not a pickup line.
The problem is that you think this is a pickup line. Stuff like that is what makes you creepy.
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Apr 15 '21
I never said it was.
The problem is that you didnât read my comment properly. Stuff like that is what makes your comment entirely superflouous.
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u/MickeyMalt Apr 09 '21
Itâs sad that you are almost 100% correct however you only listed half.
- Be rich
- Be not rich
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u/Rrdro Apr 10 '21
Yeah she feels safe unless you both happen to be driving to the same area and she thinks you are stalking her with your car.
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u/uhohoreolas Apr 08 '21
For me, it's a safety factor. If I'm walking in a parking lot and someone says something, I feel vulnerable, exposed, and unsafe because I'm not sure what the next move will be or how my response (or lack thereof) will be interpreted. If I'm in my car and he's in his, like in the video, I would feel much much safer and in control of the situation. Another factor is what is said. If it's about my body, 9 times out of 10 I'm uncomfortable. It's objectifying and often (at least for me) embarrassing.
Ultimately, everyone is different and different people feel comfortable with different interactions.
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u/adroberts91 Apr 08 '21
Proximity/safety but also the language. Saying someone is beautiful is generally acceptable because it carries a sort of respectful/graceful cadence with it but once someone says hot or says anything akin to an action like âwhatâre you doing tonightâ or something specific about a body part, thatâs cat calling. But just saying âhey youâre beautiful!â isnât necessarily bad or coming on too strong.
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u/LV2107 Apr 08 '21
There's a power element to cat-calling. It's hard to describe, but it's almost like we can tell when the intention behind the cat-call is mostly to make the cat-caller scare us a little. Like, they get off on making us uncomfortable. Men who "compliment" random women on the street do not actually think we're going to feel flattered, they enjoy the implied power imbalance.
Genuine compliments from sincere men are completely different. It also, as other said, helped that she was not in a vulnerable position. Note how she very quickly raised that window, she was preparing her escape before realizing it wasn't what she thought it was.
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u/Fulgurata Apr 09 '21
Good observation with the window. Even someone with a great attitude like her took a moment to get safe before laughing.
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u/Drewbus Apr 08 '21
Once it seems like it's going sexual
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u/Practically_ Apr 09 '21
Yeah. He said it a way that was obviously platonic and self aware.
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u/DontCallMeTodd Apr 10 '21
One clean, non-sexual comment, should be taken as kindness. Who doesn't like to hear a compliment with those terms in mind, about their clothes, hair, etc.
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u/yknowwhat Apr 08 '21
I think the humor at the end is what saved it, otherwise it would have been considered creepy. Still weird, but in the end he made a joke about himself and made her laugh, and it made it less about her and more how much of an idiot he is being.
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u/coachavocado Apr 08 '21
my pov as a girl:
when he first started talking, i'd probably be a little weirded out/at least "uhh what does this guy want." but, his tone is different than a typical cat call, and he didnt whistle and say something like "wow i'd tap that ass." he's also filming, and his joke at the end makes his intent clear.
idk if that made any sense but i hope it helped :)
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u/Undrende_fremdeles Apr 09 '21
Her behaviour perfectly mimics this too, with politely having the window partially roleld down, then the "le sigh" expression when she rolled her window back up.
Then stopping when he surprised her with the way he said it. Then his comedic timing at the end.
It is obvious it isn't about forcing intimacy or speaking about anything really personal or pertaining to her as such. But just having a good time.
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u/Peaceandpeas999 Apr 09 '21
Tbh the filming is cringy though. Id be pissed if a vid of me in my car in traffic popped up on reddit.
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u/Lovee2331 Apr 09 '21
Cat calling for me - is when someone whistles or calls me pet names to get my attention, or when itâs an aggressive tone of âyouâre beautifulâ
Weâre adults, we all try and shoot our shot - this man asked a question - shooting his shot - and topped it off with some sense of humour! Guaranteed any pick up line followed by a funny joke while have evaluating him/her whether or not sheâs interested as oppose to the disgust of men/women whistling to get someone attention!
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u/RedMenace82 Apr 09 '21
Cat-calling is demeaning. This was a compliment intended to make someone feel good. And it worked!
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u/soggypoopsock Apr 09 '21
Itâs 2 parts for me:
Are you talking to her like a human being, or in a degrading way like sheâs an animal?
âWhatâs it like waking up everyday being so beautiful?â Is something you could say to your own mother. Itâs pretty respectful in terms of off the hand compliments
Second part is, is she cornered or trapped somehow? In a situation like that any kind of advance could be uncomfortable for her. But here she has an easy out, roll up the window and drive away.
I wouldnât classify this as cat calling or harassment in any way
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u/thisonetimeonreddit Apr 10 '21
Not a dumb question at all!
There is no difference. The thing is some people like it, some don't.
There's nothing wrong with it either. Being nice or giving a compliment doesn't hurt anyone, so if someone gets upset, they are just a snowflake.
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u/meatcandy97 Apr 09 '21
Itâs how attractive the man is. If I said this, theyâd speed away and think I was a creep.
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u/Repubublikuntiddiodt Apr 09 '21
If youâre charming and attractive, it begins and keeps going, if youâre creepy and unattractive, it ends very quickly.
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u/Rainbowdash5ever Apr 09 '21
There is no one size fits all answer to this. Itâs purely up to the interpretation of who it is directed at and how they take that attention. Thatâs why itâs probably best practice to not do things like this in general.
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Apr 09 '21
It ends when you ask for something. Most people don't mind getting a compliment, but as soon as you say "now let me get those digits" you turn into a creep.
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u/DontCallMeTodd Apr 10 '21
Cat calling begins when it's not G-rated and he starts following her car.
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u/Strangeluv_MD Apr 08 '21
I love how she starts rolling the window up after he says "I wonder what its like waking up every day" assuming it was going to end in some insulting way.
Great video.
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u/SoloJota Apr 08 '21
You can see how she didn't know what was coming, rolling up her window until she heard "beautiful " and a big relief was felt inside
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u/Bell_PC Apr 08 '21
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u/chiefslapinhoes Apr 08 '21
BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD! CONTAGIOUS SLAUGHTER
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u/Washpedantic Apr 09 '21
GODDAMMIT STEVE!!, wrong meeting, again!.
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u/chiefslapinhoes Apr 09 '21
HEY! I WAS TOLD THIS IS WHERE WE WERE MEETING
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u/Washpedantic Apr 09 '21
no, that's two floors up and the third door on the left.
(face palms while muttering to myself) God, this is just like the kids with cancer fiasco all over again.
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u/chiefslapinhoes Apr 09 '21
I'M A KHORNE BEZERKER, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK I KNOW LEFT FROM RIGHT?
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u/Washpedantic Apr 09 '21
Oh right I forgot, it's the door with the blood red banner with two axes on it.
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u/chiefslapinhoes Apr 09 '21
THANK YOU. HAVE A GOOD DAY. THERE ARE DONUTS IN THE LOBBY, ALONG WITH COFFEE. HAPPY TO HELP THE TEAM.
Sprints through the wall screaming at the top of my lungs
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u/Jack-Cremation Apr 09 '21
Iâm at the LA Fair 4-5 years ago wearing a Jordan shirt that says âIâm still flyâ. Iâm white and walking around with my wife. A black lady stopped me and says âboy you sure are right. You fly as fuckâ. Oh man did it make my day and my wife got a great laugh in as well.
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u/XVince162 Apr 09 '21
Wait I can post gifs now??
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u/HarrisonForelli Apr 09 '21
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u/Kit4242 Apr 09 '21
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u/HarrisonForelli Apr 09 '21
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u/thenightmuffin Apr 09 '21
Heynong man!
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u/thenightmuffin Apr 09 '21
I figured it out. I still use the old Reddit design, where gif replies aren't possible.
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u/HarrisonForelli Apr 09 '21
Yay congrats!
I have the new one on for the browser. I did notice there is a difference with new/old with the side bar.
Also it should be noted that of all the subs I've been on, only this one allows gifs
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u/earthscribe Apr 09 '21
She had the "this is going to be akward/racist/annoying" face as she was initially rolling up the window. She almost didn't hear the compliment.
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