r/ttcafterloss • u/AutoModerator • Sep 20 '24
/ttcafterloss Weekly Alumni Check-in! - September 20, 2024
This thread is for members who are currently pregnant, or who have had their babies. Even though we have r/PregnancyAfterLoss and r/Rainbow_Babies now, r/ttcafterloss users still want to know how you're doing! What's new this week?
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
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u/iflookskilled Sep 20 '24
I took a pregnancy test on a whim early last Saturday and got a super faint line. It felt real and totally foreign at the same time. I’ve had a hard time not re-testing a bunch (I’ve caved) and this time I’m not as worried about MC but more aware of a CP. I’m hoping I make it a few more weeks and I’m trying really hard to be positive and excited. Nothing to gain from preparing for a bad outcome
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u/Silent-Rush-3542 Sep 20 '24
I’m right there with you, I stopped testing daily because CP was too high on my mind. I wish you all the best in your pregnancy, I hope May 2025 will bring us both healthy babies. Being positive is what I also struggle with.
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u/Gems1824 36 / TTC #2 / MC May ‘24 Sep 21 '24
I got a faint line on Wednesday and it got stronger Thursday and Friday so I finally called my OB yesterday. I’m going in for betas and progesterone tests Monday and Wednesday next week. I’m feeling lots of mixed emotions and not sure what to do about telling people. My first pregnancy I waited the recommended 3 months before telling ANYONE. With my miscarriage I told people as soon as I got the positive test (not everyone just close friends and my parents). I train for a sport and told my trainer yesterday because I started my miscarriage at an exercise class last pregnancy. (Dr says unrelated but I can’t shake the feeling I should really take it easy this time around) The dilemma comes because my family is coming to visit and we had planned on touring a few wineries this weekend. I know as soon as I refuse a drink they’re going to ask if I’m pregnant. I’m thinking of getting ahead of it by telling them myself so at least it can be a cute moment. I appreciated the support during my miscarriage but it was jarring sometimes to have it brought up when I wasn’t thinking about it even by well meaning folks. What are you all doing?
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u/Intrepid_Pie_2648 Sep 21 '24
Ahhh its so hard isnt it! Im very newly pregnant and the hardest people to keep it from will be my in laws as they live so close and they know how much I usually love a drink when we get together! I've had three losses now (two that they know about, one was a chemical which was so early I didnt tell them) and I really don't want to get their hopes up only to dash them in a few weeks time. I personally am not telling anyone until at least a 12 week scan this time (if it works out) and thats purely because I have stopped finding support from others helpful when the worst happens - and similar to you, its so jarring when someone brings it up or says the wrong thing when youre not in the right headspace for it that day! I need to process it myself first before sharing the bad news I think.
However - not sure how you can get out of it if you have winery visits as the plan! Telling them is probably better on that occasion vs the awkward ooo shes not drinking observations. Unless you can switch up the plans / feign illness / medication excuse etc!
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u/Silent-Rush-3542 Sep 20 '24
I just found out a couple of days ago that I am pregnant again after losing my first baby last May. I thought I was ready but when I saw the positive test I felt numb, nothing. I miss the old me who was so excited about pregnancy and so carefree. I was spotting a bit yesterday, which I know can be normal early on but my first thought was “here we go again”. I want to be positive, happy and excited, but so far I’m only scared of history potentially repeating itself. Any tips to help making me feel a bit more optimistic?