I’m a female in her early thirties that had spent her last 10 years in Texas and is moving to Durham next month because of work.

Looking for recommendations on good breweries, coffee shops, and -especially- hiking, biking, running clubs (and routes) and good yoga studios around the area. Of course! Good Colombian food too.

Also looking to make friends with similar interests!

My son is autistic 'high functioning' and was suffering terribly with the 8 classes a day in Chapel Hill and Durham schools. He was denied for an IEP three times and had to pull him out and homeschool him to cope. (Please note I am not interested in pursuing the IEP or any legal action against the school system, so please don't focus on the IEP). I see that most Wake county has 4 class block schedule so I think that he can adapt to this. My concern is I want to find a school with low bullying, lower class size, and most importantly a school where kids take education seriously and not too much horseplay because my son gets very frustrated when other kids are too distracting and don't take their learning seriously (I know they are teenagers but it's not impossible for kids to care about school, and also we don't get to choose how autism affects each person, so please be kind). Any suggestions? Open to talking with an education advocate in the area that can provide guidance if anyone has any recommendations. Thank you. Was considering between Athens, Middle Creek and Apex High but I'm terrified about him fitting in.

Got a new job at Durham airport and am trying to find the best area area to move to! I have a few weeks before I need to move! I found some places using a real estate agency in the Garner area that was within budget, but I’m not finding a lot of information on which neighborhoods are good for kids! I’ll be coming with my two toddlers. I’ve been searching for something 3 bedrooms within the 1500 ish budget range. Really any advice is appreciated. My husband will be stationed out in Fort Bragg, but won’t get orders until his current contract ends next year, so I’m just trying to get a feel out for the area!

I have lived in ABQ and Miami with pretty much no issues.

Edit: Thank you all for all the inputs.

Hi all, Im moving in this summer to Chapel Hill-Durham area and wanted to know what wildlife I should be aware of in this part of the state. Im originally from Florida, so Im used gators, water moccasins, copper heads, black widows, etc. I saw this article, https://www.onlyinyourstate.com/north-carolina/dangerous-animals-nc/ , and was wondering what I actually have to worry about.

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I have a small dog, Shih tzu, who I like to let run around and just generally worried about snakes, coyotes, ground wasps/hornets (dont know if these exist in NC), and birds of prey.

I’m moving from the Northeast to start a job in the RTP area (office near 100 New Millennium Way). I’ve already visited and toured some apartments based on my dad’s suggestions, primarily in Morrisville and Cary (places like Novel and Ashby). While the communities were beautiful, this sub has made it seem like those locations are more family-oriented, and I’m worried it might be hard to connect with other young people in those areas.

I’d love advice on neighborhoods or areas that might be a better fit for someone my age. Commute to my office is also a factor. Any recommendations or insights would be really appreciated!

If you think Morrisville/Cary may be fine, I'd love to hear those opinions as well.

Obviously, I know it won’t be a short commute either way, but we are moving soon and I need some recommendations for apartments and locations. My SO works in one of the towers at North Hills, and I just got a job at UNC Med School. Currently we are in living in the Raleigh/Cary border area, which is 10 minutes to work for my SO but nearly 50 minutes for me 😔. We’re just looking for a place that’s more evened out commute wise for the two of us. If you have lived at a specific complex or neighborhood you enjoyed, I also would appreciate your recommendations and thoughts. Thank you <3

We used to live in Toledo, OH. Due to an opportunity from family, we moved to Sarasota, FL. Our long term goal is to leave Florida, mostly due to the hurricanes and cost of insurance. For example insurance is $2,200 every 6 months for a new car and a leased car with no accidents within the past 5 years.

I did see a post about bad neighborboods in Durham. Back in Toledo, there was a shooting down the street from us, and a house in the neighborhood got moltov-cocktailed.

The only reliable information about Durham that I can find online is about the annual temperature averages, and that the cost of living is a bit lower than Florida.

Could someone please give me more about Durham, like crime, weather, cost of living, and any other things that come to mind? Thank you

Hey peeps!

Basically the title! I have gotten a remote job in Virginia-DC area, and I am looking to move to the Raleigh area (or anywhere in the triangle) where I am looking for the following vibes.

I am looking for the following factors:-

1. Low Cost of Living: DC is fricking expensive, and while I care for nightlife, it is not nearly important
2. Tech networking: I am in tech, and I look forward to a place where folks regularly meet and greet and I can grow my career here. The Triangle seems to fit the bill, but there are downsides too
3. Public Transportation and/or Bikebility: Pretty sure DC gets the crown, but c'mon DC is expensive
4. Proximity to DC: I have my family in the DC area, so I might take the bus fairly regularly to travel from RTP/Richmond

My second choice is Richmond. My only pet-peeve is that Richmond is not known for its tech-culture, and I might not have the opportunity to network in person and grow my career. Plus, I do not have a car, and hence I believe Richmond has better public transportation facilities than RTP. But man, both cities do not match the public transportation facilities at DC.

I am in my late 20s and do y'all think it is a nice idea to move to RTP or to Richmond?

Edit:

Am I putting too much emphasis on the tech networking part?

Also, please post some recommendations for housing in the RTP area!

I've done some research and read many posts, but I'm moving from Manhattan in Feb and have never been to the area. Visiting in a few weeks. Could use some help on areas of the triangle to focus on.

1. Area. Anywhere. Wife remote and I'll work with doctors all over the triangle. Preschool for daughter. Currently looking at Carrboro and area west and south, area north of lake wheeler, north of Raleigh inside the 440 belt, north hills, north raleigh, and even further north.
2. Wants. Country club, tennis, friends for wife. Wooded property, optimally that backs up to hiking trails like the tobacco trail and golf for me. More interested in 3 bed built by architect home than 4-5 bed new build, wouldn't have a clue what to do with that space. Coming from NYC, being near somewhere that is walkable for shopping, dinner, etc. would be nice, though understand that this isn't really the vibe here.
3. Price point. $800-$1.2m.

Edit: Zero interest in living in a neighborhood with 3-5 spec homes. I hate the suburban feel though I understand that's what I'm getting by leaving NYC. Hoping for more character.

Hey all, I've been thinking about possibly exploring moving to North Carolina. I'm currently single, and living in Cleveland, Ohio. I don't have many friends if any left here, all I have is my family really. I've been feeling really alone and thought maybe a change to a more lively area like NC would do me good. I'd prefer somewhere that is a bit more lively with young professionals (not necessarily downtown). I've been kind of looking at the Charlotte area, but hear Durham could also be a good candidate. I'm not sure if any of you could provide any insight, but just feel a bit lost at the moment. Would you all also recommend maybe staying a month in one of these areas via AIRBNB? Thank you..

I'm a fully remote tech worker, can live anywhere in range of a decent airport, and I've enjoyed living in Raleigh (border of Village District and Glenwood South) well enough that I'm considering staying even though I think I should probably take advantage of the flexibility to explore.

Where I'm at is one of the few walkable/bikable areas; I can get to gym and groceries in a 10 minute walk, downtown in 20, and almost all necessities in <30 bike. I can even hop over to Cary by bike! And then there's easy access to the Greenways, which are finally not having detours (mostly). I have a car but don't actually have to deal with the traffic other than occasional weekend trips. All this is to say, I've gotten comfortable.

Still, Raleigh just feels kinda...bland? Suburban, families, country music instead of metal, etc. Downtown is fairly dull. The breweries and cycling groups are admittedly pretty nice. But compared to Pittsburgh, Philly, Baltimore, Boston, Santa Cruz, etc, it just doesn't seem to have that much to do or a real vibe of its own. I'm single and looking for more people in my age range that haven't already settled down.

I've seen a number of people recommend Durham, but it's smaller, and I've also seen people say it's just another flavor of vanilla. If I do stay in the Triangle (elderly family in driving range, simplicity), is Durham different enough that it's worth trying? I know I'd at least have my favorite bakery and ethnic food (Guglhupf)! And DPAC is where all the shows that I'm ever interested in seem to go. But if anything, it seems smaller and more car-dependent than Raleigh. It also seems like any apartments that aren't off in the burbs (e.g., University Drive) are more expensive for what you get than Raleigh. What are the unique selling points of Durham?

I am looking for advice on where to begin looking for houses (3+BrBt) with yards. I am moving from California, and Zillow is so overwhelming. I am child-less (for now), but school districts are a somewhat priority but close private schools can suffice. Things I am interested in are golf, restaurants, shopping (Target/Grocery), walkable neighborhood (sidewalks), and most importantly a decent sized yard. Older v Newer houses are not necessarily something I have an opinion on, as a fixer upper could be fun. I know this is probably vague and annoying, but honestly any advice or leads on where to begin my search is very helpful.

Hi! I’m going through a divorce and my son and I are relocating to Raleigh/Durham due to having a large amount of family there and I am seriously considering Cary due to the schools. Cary doesn’t appear to have as large of a black population as where we are currently living-We are a multiracial family (I’m white, my son is black) and I was wondering if there are any POC who would be willing to speak with me about their experiences in Cary and experiences within the school system. Please feel free to DM me to discuss.

Also, are there any other areas I should be seriously considering? Basically I’m looking for a small/modest home or townhome in a diverse (hopefully liberal) area with decent schools somewhere that is reasonably safe. I only have a budget up to around 550k, which I realize is not a lot. I don’t commute so I’m open to the whole triangle area as long as I’m reasonably close to family in Cary and Mordecai. Thanks in advance for any and all suggestions.

EDIT: Ok, definitely ruled out Cary so thank you all- that is definitely not what I want for us. Now looking in Durham and open to any other areas you might suggest. Thank you all so much!

Moved from the Booker Creek area to Vineyard Square off Weaver Dairy and my poor body is not taking it well. We’re less than 10 miles from the old place and I can’t imagine the water is all that different! We are not on well water as far as I know. What could possibly be causing this?

Hello, I recently moved to Raleigh to start my new life post-college 🥳 ! I am a 24-year-old male going into the tech industry who enjoys working out, rock climbing, hiking, surfing, and pretty much doing as many new things as possible (whether it be a museum, a play, or axe throwing).

I am trying to decide where to live and could use your help (trust me, this is a unique situation). My work is located in the warehouse district of Raleigh, but around the middle of April, the office will be moving to RTP (close to Nelson). I visited Raleigh and Durham today, and I much preferred Durham, especially the vibe that Duke gives the city. However, I really only explored downtown Raleigh and am open to other places in Raleigh. I'm thinking it might be a good idea to find a place in Durham and suffer the longer commute until the office moves.

As for what I prefer in a location, I really value walkability/proximity to stores (groceries, coffee, artwork, etc.), solid nightlife, low(ish) crime, and people who are easy to talk to and willing to get out of their shells with strangers.

I would prefer to keep my rent at or under $1500 for a 1 bedroom, but am open to studio options.

As an aside, a lot of people say that Raleigh has more things to do and more food options and bars compared to Durham, what do you guys think?

Additionally, what do you guys think about someone like me living in Cary?

What do you guys think? Thank you in advance 😁!!!!

Hi there! I am looking to relocate to the Triangle by the end of the year. I’ve been applying to jobs there this past month in Durham, Raleigh, and Chapel Hill. A little bit about me to give some insight: I am 24 years old, I graduated college in May of 2023, and I’m looking for a career in Marketing or Event Planning. I currently live on the coast of NC, but after a year and a half here, I don’t think this is the right fit for me. I originally moved here to be close to the beach, but I think I went maybe twice this past summer. I’ve come to realize that right now I need a faster pace of life, as well as more opportunities for career advancement and social life. Don’t get me wrong, the eastern NC coastal towns are beautiful, but they are more for temporary vacations (for me). I want to be close to an airport as well, but not too close where they are flying overhead constantly. I do like to go out and have some drinks with friends still, as I am still in my early 20s, but I am also not trying to go crazy like a college kid, lol. I’m leaning towards the Durham area, but I want some advice based on people who actually live there—more specifically, the girls in their 20s and 30s. I am also planning to rent and will be looking for a roommate, so I will need some recommendations on where to live in terms of safety! Honestly, give your most transparent pros and cons of this area! Thank you in advance! TL;DR: Needing advice on living in the Raleigh-Durham area as a female in her early 20s!

Hi all,

I'm a single woman in my 30's and I'm thinking of moving to Raleigh, but I'm having trouble getting a fix on the vibe. For context, I'm currently living in Salt Lake City and the winters and Mormons are killing me. Any insights?

Hello. My wife and I are former military. Currently, we live on a military base in Utah. My wife is retired, and I am a veteran who is now a Registered Nurse. We have 3 children; a 22 year old daughter who may be leaving the nest in the next few years, an 18 year old recent high school grad son who says he staying with us until he’s 30 (lol), and an 11 year old son whom we homeschool. We are a Black American family.

I grew up outside Philly and my wife grew up in SC, so we’ve been looking at NC to kind of be in between both parents (neither of us are fans of VA). I’ve been looking at homes in the Garner, Calyton, and Smithfield area. We want to be somewhat close to Seymour-Johnson AFB for our medical care. We don’t want to be too close to the city, but not too far either. There are so many little towns we don’t know where to really look. We are planning on moving in October, and the pressure is on to find somewhere.

Here is what we are looking for:

1. A friendly, diverse area. We are a black family and we really don’t want to end up in a klan-infested (ultra-Trump nazi) town, if you know what I mean. Not trying to insult anyone, but this is a legit concern. We both have served this wonderful country (me in Iraq, her in Afghanistan) and I refuse to allow my family to feel unsafe or unwanted in a nation we have sacrificed for.
2. We don’t want to be in a high crime area. We really want to avoid that. Ganbanging and flying bullets are not our thing, if it were, we’d probably just move to where I grew up.
3. We like a semi-suburban/semi-rural feel, but one that offers public sewer as opposed to a septic system.
4. I want to be close enough to shopping that we don’t have to travel too far. Maybe 15 mins or less. Could be a medium sized town that has a Publix or something.
5. Id like to avoid too much traffic. I get really irritated by that, so I’d like to avoid the big city areas.
6. Somewhere where it would be easy to re-sell our home if we find that it does not fit our needs.

Do you have any advice? Thank you so much!