r/selfhelp 1d ago

Seeking Advice

So here's a short explanation of my current situation:

I'm a 25-year-old female who has recently ended a two-month relationship. Although it wasn't very serious, I believed he was the one for me, and losing him makes me feel like I might never find someone who fits me as well as he did.

Around the same time, I also quit my job due to stress from the manager and the overall toxic environment. I noticed myself becoming increasingly socially awkward there. On my last day, I went to the bathroom to cry seven times within nine hours at the office.

Now, I'm unemployed and uncertain about what to do next. I'm still searching for a job, but to be honest, whenever I apply, I secretly hope I don't pass the screening process.

I genuinely want to be happy and feel something. I've tried everything: cleaning, tidying, avoiding social media, reading, writing, working out, trying new hobbies, talking to friends and family, and joining activities like language exchange clubs or events. Despite all this, I still don't feel anything. Am I done? Is life over for me? I don't know what to do anymore. Do you have any advice for me?

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u/utopian_seeker 17h ago

it's just a passing feeling. eventually it all gets better

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u/RWPossum 17h ago

No, life is not over. You'll get better whether you get help or not. But getting help is a good idea.

We can't diagnose, but what you're talking about really sounds like major depression.

The lifestyle choices you mention here are good, but it seems that you need more. I suggest talking with a clinical psychologist. These therapists specialize in depression.

People who think that they can't afford therapy are often surprised. The cost can vary greatly. For one thing, group therapy costs less. People you can talk with - a doctor, a social worker, or a therapist.

Open Path Psychotherapy Collective is a non-profit mental health service that makes quality therapy accessible to underserved populations.

You should be able to get info about the psychologists in your area with the Find a Therapist feature of Psychology Today online.