r/selfhelp • u/AlphaMalesgo2H00ters • 19h ago
What's wrong with gooning
Just to clarify: I'm a 25 year old male, I have a good full-time job, I exercise frequently and have legit hobbies/interests. I'm not a (complete) loser.
However, I LOVE gooning and masturbating (NOT watching porn) I discovered those 2 things about a year ago and have been hooked ever since. Before I started, I put a high level of value/interest in a women's looks when considering a potential GF. As I'm sure you're all shocked by, I have never had a girlfriend.
I don't think my overall views/attitudes towards women have changed since I started.
Also, if I wasn't gooning, I'd probably be spending that time watching TV or YouTube or playing video games.
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u/FisterAct 15h ago
Literally nothing
You can spend all your time jerking off if you really want. No one's going to stop you. If that's what you choose to do with your life and it makes you happy. Good for you
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u/Brilliant_Rabbit1889 19h ago edited 19h ago
if that's something you "love", i'd take that as a wake-up-call to make some sort of change. nobody should ever love to do something so self-destructive and primitive. Same goes for over-eating, drinking excessively, etc. Based on your attitudes towards it, nothing I or anyone else says will change your mind. All the best to you.
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u/The1Ylrebmik 15h ago
Nothing is wrong if it is consistent with your values and goals and isn't hurting other people. If it doesn't coincide with either or both of those statements then you have a problem.
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u/nooneinparticular246 19h ago
Eh. Everything in moderation IMO. I also think porn is terrible but masturbation is completely fine (but I do both so I’m also a hypocrite).
If/when you do get into the bedroom with a real girl just try to assume as little as possible. Porn really ruins expectations there. You’ll want to be relaxed, communicating, and taking your time to figure out together what you both enjoy.
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u/Savings_Vermicelli39 17h ago
lol, i just bang chicks. that's way more fun. You should try it.
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u/AlphaMalesgo2H00ters 17h ago
What if I told you this isn't an option most men have
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u/Savings_Vermicelli39 17h ago
Then you sit down and make a list of the things that would make you a catch, and get to work.
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u/oliver_oli_olive 18h ago
Literally, never heard of “gooning” but my Google search says you do edging in an “excessive or indulgent way.”
Does that seem right?
If so, do you think it is wrong?
If not, then why did you choose to make a post about it? Unless, maybe you subconsciously do you think it is wrong?
Idk, I guess I just want to hear more from you personally.