ITS ALL OVER FOR ME ITS ALL OVER IM A TRANS MAN AND NO MATTER WHAT ILL HAVE NO RIGHTS I SHOULD JUST KILL MYSELF ANYWAY IM SO FUCKING STUPID WHY COULDN'T MY MOM POP ME OUT SOONER IM GONNA MISS SCHOOL ON PURPOSE IM SCARED PLEASE HELP ME IM ONLY 14 I CANT DIE

Mom of depressed teen, please help!

Hi, I’m a mom of a 13 year old depressed, suicidal, self harming teenager. I need help so I can better help him. Specifically I need help from the kids going through this, not the parents. Because honestly, let’s be real, we as parents always seem to get it wrong. I don’t want to get it wrong. I want to help him. I want to do it right. What can I do to help him?! I have listened. I haven’t judged or gotten upset when he has told me about his self harming. I gave him the opportunity to tell me what I did wrong that led to his depression and anger and hurt, which he didn’t do, but I know I’ve played a part in it. I apologized for my part and for not knowing my part..I told him I loved him and how much I loved him. I took him to a psychiatrist to get him on anti depressants and anti anxiety medication, I listened when he said he had thoughts of suicide…I just don’t feel like psychiatric hospitals are helpful to teens in complete honesty when it comes to mental health issues and suicide. Am I wrong? I feel like it makes it worse. The seclusion, the feeling of “being shipped away” what, as teens did you want and need during the depression and suicidal times? What do you want your moms to do? What can I do so I don’t lose my baby boy?? What are you afraid to tell your moms? Please help me!!

helpamom #depression #savemyson #mentalhealthmatters #pleaseshare #anxiety #fortheteens

hi!! I’m a nursing student, and I’ve been wearing underscrubs to hide my (fully healed) sh scars. I’m absolutely terrified of being a trigger for a patient struggling with sh if they see my scars. it’s very obvious that they are from sh btw I know that none of my teachers will point them out if I stop wearing underscrubs, but I really want to know:

if you sh and your nurse has sh scars, is it triggering? how would it make you feel? if you used to sh and your nurse has sh scars, would it trigger a relapse? how do you feel about it? if you don’t sh and your nurse has sh scars, what will it make you think about her?

tysm in advance for your help!! xxx -Coralie <3

my bf hates when i get hurt, but has seen pictures of my arms after i had just hurt them. i showed him these pictures after he had asked to see them, and i trust him, so i was okay with him seeing. he saved these pictures, and he jerks off to them. he says they remind him of me, but he has other pictures of me (my face, body, etc.) is this weird? is it a disorder? can someone please help me to understand why my cuts may be appealing?

UPD : i talked to him, and he agreed to stop :). if he doesnt respect my wishes, i will leave him. thank you SO MUCH for the advice everyone!!1 it genuinely means so much to me, truly. :) <3

I'm two months clean, but I'm wondering why I should actually stay clean. It hasn't helped me in any way. Things have just gotten worse, as I now don't have any coping mechanisms that actually work. Most people say that self harm is an unhealthy coping mechanism, but for me, I don't understand why. I never cut too deep, it almost never bleeds. I'm not putting myself in any real danger. I don't understand why I should stay clean if I can't find a reason as to why self harm is actually unhealthy/bad for me.

Okay so like long story short: I saw a repost of his saying something about self harm and I sent thos respost to him, asking if he was okay. He responded with the fact that he self harms for sexual pleasure. What am I supposed to say or do about it? Or do I just ignore it?

when i was a teen i would sh (nothing serious, i have no scars or anything) the way i would communicate that ive hurt myself started by me calling myself stupid which then led to "being stupid" as code for sh and made it easier to communicate when i was at risk, its been 5+ years and im back at it and worse than before and have told people that were there for the first time that im "being stupid" but this time it doesnt feel stupid and the code is still easier to say than sh but it make me feel worse inside, was wondering if anyone had code names for sh that arent dismissive and degrading.

tldr, my support network calls sh "being stupid" and i need a new code name that is easy to say

Edit: most helpful and kind subreddit I’ve experienced. r /atheism was just flat out rude (for the most part) thank you all for the input. It’s very helpful for me to know about.

Please forgive me I’m super scared and on a phone.

So yesterday my wife discovered that our daughter (11) has been cutting her arms. After a bit of panic on my wife’s end we decide to talk as soon as I got home from work.

When I got home I took a bit to do some research on why people do this and how to help.

A little back ground info and some character traits for everyone. This amazing little girl is so smart and beautiful, has countless potential. Is is the apple of my eye and is my whole motivation for everything I do. She’s a great kid. Does her best at most things and try’s to make people happy all the time. She has a huge heart and I love that about her. But this poor little girl has gone through a lot in her short life. 6 yrs ago she lost her great grandma who she was super close with, then our family dog, then her grandpa, then uncle. Now she’s dealing with this pandemic and isolation from friends, she doing from home online classes so not a lot of socializing with friends or whatnot.

So we had a family talk and we asked her why she would do that. She said she doesn’t like herself very much. And didn’t give us a whole lot to go on. So I just told her that I loved her and I was here for her, and that her life and body are like a temple and she shouldn’t want to hurt herself. I also explained that she wasn’t in any trouble and we just wanna help. I suggested some outlets instead of cutting like drawing whats on her mind or writing a letter. I also explained that we wouldn’t even read them that they would be private and we can burn them when she was done writing so no one would ever be able to read them. And today I’m going to take her to get some bracelets one is gonna say daddy loves you or something similar so when she wants to cut herself she will see it a hopefully remember that I love her. The other one is going to be blank and I will put whatever she thinks will help her on it.

I know I’m not the best dad on the planet. I run a tight ship and I know I’m overprotective. I set somewhat high expectations but have always let her know that it’s ok to fail. As long as she’s tried and put in the effort I will never be disappointed. Even told her that making mistakes is how we learn. But I work a lot so I’m not around as much as I would like.

Now I’m a wreck. I can’t stop crying. I wish I could just take away whatever she’s feeling and make her happy.

I don’t know what the next steps should be. Should I set her up with a family/child therapist? Is that to much to fast? I honestly don’t know what to do. I lost my brother to suicide, so I’m terrified that’s where this will lead. I wish I knew what got us to this point.

Any advice or direction would be appreciated more than you know.

Thanks in advance.

Edit: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for all the love and support. My head is still spinning and my emotions are not in check yet but I’m trying. On behalf of myself and my family thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

Like, something that will be funny for me and less awkward than saying "I cute myself" but will make them realize how obvious it is. (My scars are obvious)

I recently discovered that my daughter is cutting. We found her a therapist that she really likes and a psychiatrist to start medication. I’m kind of floundering on how I can help, I don't want to be too pushy, but I don't want her to think I don't care enough. She doesn't want to talk about it with me but does feel like she can open up with the therapist, which is great. I have been helping with her studying and homework, going to Starbucks, giving her space, and telling her I am so proud of her.

Her therapist told us that we needed to start body checks and she got very upset. I have not seen her that upset and didn't want to push too hard. She cried and I cried. We compromised that I would ask her if she cut, and she would be honest with me. If she cut, she would show me. That has been working. I hate to go against what therapist said but I want to make sure that she feels like she has control over her treatment. I struggle with this being the right thing to do.

I got her band aids and ointment, told her how to keep everything clean but told her this doesn't mean that I think it's ok. I know that this is her struggle, but I want to be as supportive as I can and as much as she will let me.

Please help me help her. What should I say and what are things I should not say? What things help?

I'm clean for many months. But I got told by someone close that using a single blade over and over can cause skin cancer. Is it true? I'm scared. Can anyone help me clarifying it? I cannot ask anyone irl since my uncles runs the city hospital so he would easily know if I ask any dermatologist for help. That is why I'm seeking help from internet.

I think I can speak for a lot of us on the sub when I say that my biggest struggle is finding the desire to be clean. I don’t want to stop, but I know I need to eventually. How did you get clean? How long did it take? Was there a moment where everything just clicked for you? Please share your story, anything helps <3

Edit: thank you so much for all of your comments. After months of trying to find reasons and ways to quit, you all have brought me so many and I’m so grateful for that.

i want to but im scared

Im just looking for advice on how i could stop sh myself

edit: ive been reading all the comments and you all are very wonderful people and thank you for your time, i will definitely put into consideration the advice alot of you gave❤️❤️

My psychologist is making me write a list of things i can do to cope that arent self harm. Honestly, im stuck, i can't think of a lot of things.

So far, i have written down: watching nature documentaries, listening to music, drawing, and writing.

Preferably, i would like things that are similar to self-harm in that they are quick and easy and at least a little painful. Or maybe not painful, but something that has a strong physical sensation.

Or something that sort of snaps you out of the moment or distracts you. Thats why i love nature documentaries. They shift my focus and keep me entertained.

Or anything else really

Is there anything that works for you? Or that i can give a try?? Im such a people pleaser, i wanna make my care team proud by making a great list 😈

Edit:

Thank you all so so much!! My psychologist was very pleased with me, and i feel much more confident in my recovery now that i have so many specific things i can do instead of self harming.

Keep them coming if you have more suggestions, tho! I find it so useful to hear what works for other people who are dealing with the same thing, rather than doctors who have never been through it telling me what i can do

I have sh scars and they didnt heal. I feel disgusting and what if my partner see my scars and thinks im disgusting? I feel so ashamed. I wish i stop myself from cutting but i cant. It gives me satisfaction in sort of way. Also how can i remove them?

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Thank you for giving up a part of your day to read this. I have recently found out my teenage son has been cutting himself. And I don't know what to do to help so I figured I would come and ask you all. I've tried to talk to him but he just won't open up on why he's doing it. Any advice is welcome.

So I love this show called Skins, and one of the characters wears razor blade earrings that are super cute. I found a pair on Amazon and was thinking about ordering them, but was wondering if it would be appropriate/in good taste since I have visible scars that are obviously from cutting.

So what do you think?

i need help.. I’m depressed and the thoughts keep getting louder and now they want me to do it. I can’t afford a therapist rn and I’ve tried medication it didn’t work well.. what do you do to get yourself out of this

would you want them to feel empathy, acknowledge it, ignore them, or something else? asking so i can have an idea to go about it with my friend.

edit: what if they show them specifically to me? could i get some advice on how to respond then?