I OVERHEARD MY MOM SAYING “he’s just having some man time” BUT IM ACTUALLY CUTTING MYSELF IM LITERALLY LAUGHING SO HARD THIS IS SO FUCKING FUNNY😭😭🙏🙏

There have been an absurd amount of posts lately saying things like, “how can i get tools to cut?”, “how can I cut without my parents noticing?”, or “how do I start cutting?”, only for users to actually give them instructions instead of just discouraging them.

This is a subreddit made for self-harm support, not supporting self-harm.

Please, there are so many young and impressionable people here and it’s frankly horrifying to see how many users on this subreddit seem to be completely okay with encouraging them to start this horrible coping mechanism.

We’re better than this.

• Mine is my dad hitting me when he found them
• Mom being ashamed on them, always forcing me to wear long sleeves in public
• Two boys taking pictures on my scars and laughing about them which led me to openly cutting myself right then and there
• From the incident above the teacher was making everyone leave the classroom so she could talk to me in private, and one boy expressed annoyance saying "Do we have to leave? It's just how she is". I think that's the part where I could no longer see humans as sympathetic to me. Self harms which would cause someone to be more sensitive, got annoyance and apathy in my case. I always think something is wrong with me but I don't know what. I think I deserve hatred/apathy (don't you dare fucking tell me i don't. i just want to rant)
• People laughing at me in public
• People staring at me making disgusted faces. I recall an incident in the supermarket where an Indian family were staring at my scars and talking among themselves. My mom noticed and said nothing

Recently I've noticed some problematic things on this sub. A person posted that they wanted to cut deeper and there was only ONE comment that wasn't instructing OP in any way. I called one person out and got a chat request saying "fuck you." Yeah, fuck me when you were telling that person that they can't cut deeper because of their tool and pressure. I know I'm awful for saying that's fucked up.

Also wtf is going on with these "cutesy" nicknames for cuts! "Babies"? "Beans"? "BABY BEANS"?! There aren't beans inside your skin, that is FAT. Can we please quit using these dumb ass names and can we please not tell others how they can do even more damage to themselves? Is that too much to ask for?

Am I the only one who's been seeing instructing and glorifying self harm here recently or am I just crazier than I thought I was?

Rant over.

Edit: Now the person who sent me the "fuck you" chat said "dumb fuck 😭". How PATHETIC

They’re so juvenile and annoying. Fuck’s sake, you’re self harming. Cutting or burning or whatever else. Beans? Seriously? That’s fat. You’ve hit the fat layer. Can we stop making self harm a fucking meme?

I subconsciously take posts like “Guys I just yeeted” less seriously because of these stupid terms. “I’m gonna final yeet” too, even though that’s a serious thing to post about. These terms aren’t even funny. They used to be when they weren’t every goddamn post, but now they’re so watered down it’s just eye-rolling.

Self harm is not all fun and games, can we stop treating it that way?

Edit: Quick clarification- I’ve seen TONS of videos of young kids SHing and laughing and saying shit like “Cute! Beans!” So this is a bigger deal than you’re thinking. It’s not just memes on mos.

they know i self harm (and i don’t have a razor, so it wasn’t for shaving). i know it was supposed to be a joke but… damn.

edit: thank you guys for looking out for me, just wanted to clarify i’m not being abused lmao they just thought it would be funny ig? idk, it didn’t sit right with me but it’s whatever.

It’s sooo invalidating. It makes me want to cut deeper. Just call them epidermis cuts or shallow dermis/styro.

i intentionally harmed myself. It shouldn’t matter how deep i went. Sh is sh.

Broooooooooo... I can't with this shit. What is it that compells people to comment on fully healed scars from years and years ago? "Please stop hurting yourself" I'm about to hurt you!

I used to self harm a LOT as a younger teen (12-16) but decided I needed to get better after a near-death experience. It's been 2-3 years since I started recovering (19 now), and since then I slip up from time to time, but otherwise I am okay.

I slipped up recently, admittedly in part due to relationship stuff, which is part of the few reasons I wanted to wait to tell my boyfriend: I love him a lot and I don't want him to worry about me. I also don't want him to feel like it's his fault because it's not, even if it was partially in reponse to relationship problems we're having. I'm the one who cut myself, and he has no bearing on that.

I knew it was probably a bad idea when I did it, but I felt like being reckless.

Nudity is a big part of our relationship, not just in the sexual sense: we love to lay together naked (or just in our boxers) and cuddle whenever we can. Honestly the casual nudity we have together has helped me feel a lot better in terms of body positivity.

I cut a few days ago now, and I'm coming down from it. I feel the day after slipping up is always the hardest, because it's the day you choose whether it's a one-off, or if you want to fully "commit" to cutting again. It's still a little rough now, but not enough that I'm really thinking about it consistently like I do the day after.

He wanted to see me nude, and I, forgetting I cut myself a few days ago, stripped without an issue. He was in a position that he couldn't see it at first, and I said "Oh. Oh I forgot." And I froze. He didn't get what I was talking about, and asked "Forgot what?"

I never used to feel embarrassed or ashamed about my cuts or cutting in general, but man, I felt so embarrassed and ashamed. I never used to struggle to say I hurt myself, and I used to get angry when others would struggle to verbalize that I was harming myself when approaching me about it. But I just couldn't say it. I stumbled verbally, and he was confused because he still couldn't see it.

I finally settled on "I forgot my legs are doing bad." Which is certainly a euphemism. He saw it, and he's good at keeping his composure, but I knew he was upset, and he told me that he wished I had told him. Which is fair.

He's a huge fucking nerd and quoted some lord of the rings shit to me: "I know this is your battle, but know you have my crossbow."

It feels oddly anticlimactic, he didn't make it into this huge thing, but I'm still thinking about it. I'll probably text him here in a bit to talk more about it, but it's daunting :')

Throw away account. I can't let him find this. So for context, me(ftm 28) and my husband (m 27) have been together for 8 years going on 9. I'm halfway through transitioning to where i feel comfortable, top surgery but no bottom yet. He always used the right pronouns and addressed me by my preferred name which is a heck ton more masculine than my government name. He always corrected others and I always appreciated it.

Recently with my medical conditions and our financial issues killing us I could tell that he was stressed. He always is, I'm not easy to deal with.

I talked to him about it and suggested he stay with his family for a week. He loved it and i loved that he loved it, i loved that he seemed happy, he seemes relaxed. Of course the horny bastard going from sex 24/7 to not at all, came back horny. So we fucked and it was amazing, but in the back of my mind i couldn't stop thinking about this little thing...

So i ask him, Me "What do you see me as?" Him "What do you mean?" Me "what do you see, a boy, girl, neither?" Him "you're a girl of course."

My fucking heart stopped. He knows everything there is about me, He's seen my meltdowns, he doesn't know what I'm going through personally but he was always there, always helping, he knew i was a guy! But he didn't see me as one...ever.

I drove him to work cause i needed to get out of the house, drive around for a bit, went to the dollar store and grabbed some craft knifes, and the rest is carved on my thighs, arms, chest, and pelvic area. I couldn't look at myself, i covered my mirrors and cried. I let my wounds bleed i didn't deserve to clean them.

I'm just laying down in bed, cat next to me and my favourite blanket over me. I think i overreacted but i couldn't have. My fucking world just...ended. my happy ending, ill try and talk to him when he gets out but I'm to tired and weak to give a shit about anything rn. Please tell me i didn't overreact, i didn't do the right thing but it felt right. What did i do? How can I change?

I don't want him to touch me cause he's not touching me, he's touching deadname

Edit. I'm at school rn but I talked to him. To shorten a long story i asked what makes a guy a guy or a woman a women, and his answer was, to quote, "Dick and balls and pussy and ovaries and uterus". I'll never be a man to him. Crying on campus is a fucking vibe. It's not. I'm coping.

Idk what to do the floor of my room is covered in blood and my leg wont stop bleeding

I was walking into the bathroom as a normal human does. My mom, my little sibling, and her friend were in the kitchen. Suddenly, I see this medium sized spider just fling across my face while I’m tryna take a shit and I SCREAM. It starts crawling in the air and I have to delicately move away while not touching it. I’m screaming the entire time so my mom walks in and sees me without my pants. This is unfortunate because I just so happen to be a thigh cutter and she looked TERRIFIED. She said “Oh my God what did you do here?!” After she killed the spider and now I’m just lying in my bed wondering how the fuck I’m gonna talk to her again. Moral of the story, I’m cooked, and always pull your pants up before running away from a spider.

TLDR; how many aura points did I lose when I ran away naked from a spider and my mom saw my sh scars

I had a relatively spontaneous surgery on my left hand on Friday because I (and this is really how it happened) accidentally cut my left thumb while trying to cut open a pumpkin, partially severing my muscle and tendon in the process.

Recently, I’ve been selfharming myself again a lot, and ironically, it’s happening to the same arm that was operated on. In the OR, I was directly accused of being there because of self-harm, which I found incredibly disrespectful. Then the surgeon just wrote on my surgery report that I have Borderline Personality Disorder?!

I’ve spoken to many therapists, and none of them have ever diagnosed me in this direction. Self-harming behavior doesn’t automatically mean one has Borderline Personality Disorder. Sometimes I really dislike doctors; they think they’re so smart and can make a diagnosis in 30 seconds.

Sorry for my Bad english.

I'm sorry but what the fuck? This is a sub reddit about self harm, most people who go on here aren't tryna be told that their cuts are just baby cuts. Alot of people will see that and want to go deeper, self harm is self harm. Doesn't matter how deep its still self harm. Also "cat scratches" is also a shitty nickname. It's making people feel like they aint going deep enough. Yesterday I had a bunch of epidermis cuts (or as you call them: cat scratches) and they kept bleeding, so I bought bandages since a plaster wouldn't cover it and thank fuck I'm so happy I did that because today I was doing it and then I remembered the nicknames. The nicknames that made me and probably others feel like their self harm doesn't matter because its "just a baby cut". I went deeper because of a bunch of people who think self harm is a fucking joke. It was deep enough for me to feel the need to remove all my other bandages and out them all on these cuts. And all because some people feel the need to give self harm dumb nicknames? Fucking bullshit. Some of yall need to seriously grow tf up and stop making other people want to do it deeper.

Also genuine serious question: Why did you start calling them that? What made you think that baby cuts and cat scratches are good nicknames for sh?

(THIS RANT IS NOT AIMED AT EVERYONE JUST SOME PEOPLE)

I’m aware I’m going to sound like a major boomer here, but this sub is actually horrible. This is coming from someone who has been in this fight for 10 years (now an adult). Everyday it’s the same posts “Is this self harm” “I cut a vein” “how do you self harm” “I only do baby scratches” etc etc. it’s the same thing, every time, especially with the posts of people asking for medical advice like when they have cut a vein or an artery, what do you think people are going to write? Go to a hospital. Yes your scars are valid, yes you should seek medical attention, yes you should use the proper terminology for your self harm instead of degrading it with those stupid terms. Read the rules of the sub, if you’re here to learn how to self harm or what to self harm with, you are not in the right place. This is a harm reduction community, but everyday all I’m seeing is encouragement. It’s actually really sad. If I was the age of half the younger kids in here and seen what I have been seeing in this sub, I would have struggled even more with my journey.

I understand needing the validation, but there’s a difference here.

It's not that I hate having it with him. I just feel like sometimes after doing it, it makes me feel disgusted and like I wish I never gave away my body "that easily". I hate the way he wld talk to me sometimes & call me degrading names like 'whore' or 'cumslut'. It makes me feel like I hate myself and I'm js nothing. Everything I do it w him I wna cry and get so upset.

I always self harm on my arms but lately been thinking abt doing it on my tummy ever since I started to have sex. I have a strong urge to cut the skin areas he'd touch with his hands bc I feel so grossed out at myself, not him.

Is this normal?

Pretty heavy TW for this one.

Yeah, I know I 'choose' to do it to myself. But that doesn't mean it isn't really damn scary.

It's scary to go deeper than you thought you would. It's scary to look at the wounds after you're done and think 'how could I ever do that to myself'. It's scary to sit in the corner of a dark room and do your best to take care of a fresh injury, even though you don't really care whether it heals properly or not. It's scary to see the inside of your arm, to see your own fucking fat. It's scary to know that no matter how hard you try to stay clean you're stuck with this, forever.

It's scary to know you've reached a depth that if you do it in the wrong place, it's game over.

It's scary to feel like you've completely lost control of yourself, and to look back and recognize that the things you once thought yourself incapable of doing have now become nightly occurrences.

And it's scary to know that if something does go wrong, I'd rather bleed out than tell my parent or go to a hospital.

I feel like there's this side of self-harm no one talks about, and I'm expected to be brave and handle it all the time, to bandage up and smile because in the end I'm the one doing this to myself, right? But deep down I often feel like I'm just a kid, and I'm just so trapped in this horrible fucking addiction.

So I get like 5 mins with memories good and bad and this one just popped up out of no where and I was wondering what's the most fucked up thing someone has ever said to you following them finding out about your SH?

Content warning: brief SA mention and mild abuse

I.E: this coworker I had at one of my last jobs was a real piece of work he's from Philly and me finally finding someone from the east coast out here was nice and all but he wasn't.... Picture 6'6" 200lbs black dude( dude hated being called African American).... Me being white 5'6" 100lbs.... I was terrified of him from the start but that's how some of my friendships started so I pushed thru.... Now I got my ghetto NY side that I don't tend to show unless I'm around my wife.... This dude assumed it and would force it out of me... He found out about my SH after yanking my arm and me saying ow... He literally said after that when he pulled up my sleeves "yo this some white bitch shit don't do that" when I said "uh no it's not but also I am white" he literally said "your skin white but your black don't do that white bitch shit again" I literally was already scared so I didn't bother fighting him on it.... He at this point had already SA me once before which is what caused my relapse after a year and a half clean so that really scared me... Each time after he would check me and say the same thing everytime and would progressively get more and more pissed off... He treated me like property even thoee I was and still am happily married to my wife he didn't care and even blamed her for it when she didn't even know (not because we haven't been doing things but because she isn't so aggressive to the point of pain so if I hide visual she won't catch on as quick and she later found out everything anyways) it was insane and I hate this memory so much but I needed to get it out and just genuinely curious of some fucked up things other people have said to you guys....

Sorry for the rant

I don't understand how people at that age think about sh.

I didn't have a good childhood myself, my dad beat me and is homophobic. But i didn't even think about sh to i was 15. Did you find it online or something? Or did a old person tell you it helped?

How is a 10 kids doing sh.

I know a 12 that killed himself.

Edit

My English is not very good so sometimes i say stuff in a way that is not very nice because i don't know the right words

Edit 2

When you say abusive home does that mean getting hit to?

Or is it only getting touch?

I had a teacher talk to us about exams and she spoke about stress and one of my classmates made a joke saying something like, “and if you cant handle it then just cut yourself.” I mean even the teacher laughed and said, “hope theres no emos in this class, this school has no place for ‘those’ people.” The classmate isn’t sh’ing either he just thought it was funny. Like wtf???

I went to an amusement park with my friends yesterday. while I was waiting in line for a ride a few teenage boys behind me started making jokes and harassing me after they saw some of my old scars. They were saying stuff like "oh wow hahaha she's so emo she cuts herself" and making cutting gestures and saying "Look at me I'm emo like you now". I tried not to let it bother me as I've experienced similar incidents before, but it's just so annoying and it's a disgusting stereotype. I'm not even emo either, I dress like an average person. Not all people who do SH are emo, and not all people who are emo do SH. Nobody deserves to be treated bad over a little thing that doesn't define your personality.

we already know. you telling us that accomplishes absolutely nothing other than makes us feel like garbage. which we do quite well on our own.

Got a little drunk last night, Tried to kill myself but my mom walked in half way through, took my blade, got mad, forced me to show my brother my wrists to try and humiliate me, makes me stay with her most of the night even though I wanted to be alone, they both make jokes about it the whole time, now she’s making me see a psychiatrist (in a week) and threatening to put me in a pysch ward, says I did it for attention even though I’ve been cutting for three years and only just got found out. Fun.

Edit: she just made me squeeze lemon juice in my cuts 💀

I’m sick of people calling cuts that aren’t that deep baby cuts. It make me feel invalid and like my self harm is just a joke. Cuts are cuts end of. Their is no right way to cut your self. Because all ways are wrong. Self harm is a mental illness not a fucking competition.