r/selfharm • u/TwatFace83 16M • 1d ago
Rant/Vent What’s a moment you almost got caught, And how did it go down?
Once (when I first started SH) I left my room wearing a T shirt to go to dinner and I forgot I still had visible scabs on my wrist, my mom saw them and asked if I was hurting myself, I made this stupid ass excuse of me accidentally scratching it on the edge of my wood dresser cause it is kind of jagged so she believed me but was a bit Anxious about it for the rest of the day, a few days later we were talking about how I was doing in school and my mood and then she mentioned my wrist again and how she’s worried about me, I kept my cool and confidently showed her my healed wrist and reassured her almost in a passive aggressive way like “I don’t have anything to hide, ask me anything”. As fucked up as it is to say, I think I did a good damn job lying my ass off like that.
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u/Imaginary-Pin8782 1d ago
I volunteer at a hospital and our uniform requires us to wear short sleeves. I forgot this and had some fresh cuts on my forearms, so I wrapped them in a bandage, hoping no one would think anything of it. When one of the nurses asked what I did to my arm and if it was a wound or muscle pain. I hadn’t thought of a cover story and the best I could come up with was that I fell and scratched up my arm.
In the 10 second interaction I had with the nurse I went from feeling totally normal to hyperventilating more than I thought possible. I was so desperate to hide it, and the fear of someone finding out was terrifying. I didn’t think I’d be able to finish transporting the patient I had gone to pick up because I was so worked up, but I eventually calmed down and went on with my day.
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u/TwatFace83 16M 1d ago
I recently started volunteering at an animal shelter, but luckily they actually require you to wear long sleeves, I thought it was the opposite and was panicking while trying to come up with stupid excuses for later until I reread the rules and realized.
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u/deepsleep1119 1d ago
When my little sister pansted me (I only ever cut on my thighs cuz it's easier to hide).
I was complaining to her abt how much I'm dreading taking a showrr so she dragged me to the bathroom and then just yanked my pants down. I screamed as loud as i could lmao my heart literally dropped. I was caught so off guard cuz she's never done anything like that before. Luckily, the lights were off. She swore she didn’t see anything (that was a few weeks ago so I'm sure she's telling the truth- phew hahah)
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u/TwatFace83 16M 1d ago
Yeah my little brother thinks it’s funny to try and pants me, he succeeded once but I only cut arms so luckily I didn’t get caught.
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u/i-own-no-Salamander 1d ago
that actually reminds me, one time my sister opened the door on me when i was actively on the toilet. it was right before a shower and the shower is right next to the toilet so i was completely naked. she opened the door calling my name and i shut the door on her hand. felt pretty guilty but i’m pretty sure she didn’t see because she was preoccupied with her hand i had just bruised. anything to keep the secret 😭 sorry
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u/RottieJP 1d ago
I was in the bathroom with a kitchen knife cutting, when all of a sudden my neighbor yelled while watching soccer, my grandma thought something happened and rushed to the bathroom I was in, she didn't open the door cuz it was locked, and explained her that the one who yelled was the neighbor, then she suspected I was doin SH, so she began searching for the knife, I texted a friend, let's call him Simpson, cuz he looks yellow-ish, and made a plan, the plan was basically putting the knife in the part that's not sharp in Between my cheeks (not inside my asshole) so I could show my grandma I didn't have anything with me and show her my pockets, then I waited with the knife in between my cheeks for some minutes till I told her to search on her room, when she went to her bedroom, I activated stealth mode and putted the knife on a shelf, then told my grandma, "I don't have the knife, really, I could help you to search, if that makes you feel better, cuz idrk where the knife is" to manipulate her into thinking I didn't knew where it was, then went to "search" and found it, then my grandma started believing, and got away with my plan and manipulated my grandma, in a really fucked up way, playing with her feelings in the process and making her cry with no consolation at the end of my plan, if you saw how she cried, you would call me a monster, but idgaf
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u/TwatFace83 16M 1d ago
Shit, but I guess you gotta do what you have to.
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u/RottieJP 1d ago
It's easier when you don't give a fuck about other people's feelings
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u/TwatFace83 16M 1d ago
Yeah nah, I’m way to empathetic sometimes and to the wrong people, that it kinda disgusts me. I feel like I’m starting to lose my sense of empathy. But what the fuck am I supposed to do about that.
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u/RottieJP 1d ago
There's nothing you can really do, the only thing that will make you regain ur empathy is getting to a better mental state in general
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u/lunar_shriek 1d ago
yeah i was in the bathroom about to cut and had my headphones in. sometimes the bathroom door gets accidentally locked from the inside so i’m guessing my sibling thought that’s what happened, and i didn’t hear them knock due to having headphones in. they walked in as i had the razor to my skin lol. but they just said “oh sorry” and left and we never talked about it. i was mortified.
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u/Justaperson_00 I'm trying and failing 1d ago
Shit that is scary man im sorry that happened
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u/lunar_shriek 1d ago
it was years ago now, so i’m not super bothered by it anymore. but admittedly i always leave one earbud out around my family now
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u/InvestmentSad7354 1d ago
I havent been caught yet, although my mum saw my arm and was like ‘what’s that’ I told her I scratched it on a bush and had been picking on the scabs, so that’s why they scarred. About 4 weeks later she asked to look at my arm again and was like ‘stop picking youre scabs!’ Luckily I moved to my leg for a couple of weeks, so it was easy to hide.
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u/ZucchiniExtension 1d ago
My parents were just suspicious because I had been wearing long sleeves a lot despite it being warm/hot outside. My stepmom wrist checked me but I cut on the top of my arms not the underside so she didn’t even see anything bc I didn’t angle that side to her & ig somehow she didn’t think to check.
Didn’t help any though because they banned me from long sleeves & pants so I got caught literally 2hrs later when they made me go do my chores bc I couldn’t hide the other side of my arms forever & they were watching me.
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u/cleomosome 1d ago
during spring concert rehearsal i forgot to put my sweater back on because it was hot asf, and ig the conductor saw bc my counselor came to our room the next music class. had to lie out of my teeth and say they were three months old and never really healed properly instead of three days old. counselor didn't buy it and brought me to the school nurse, but coincidentally the nurse just started at my school for a week tops and didn't really give a shit. counselor wouldn't drop it but my parents were literally across the world for business for the past two weeks and didn't pick up the phone, so she sent an email instead. told my parents my friend had a cat and my ass was saved
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u/curious_Rabbit87 1d ago
I've blamed my cat most of the time when it was just a few marks but now my whole arms is covered and can't go anywhere without wearing long-sleeves.
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u/TwatFace83 16M 1d ago
if I was caught today there’s no excuse in the world that could save me and now I’m like hyper aware of my arms.
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u/Comfortable-West1096 1d ago
I don’t really have any good stories, but one time with my therapist (I only told her I has cutting myself recently) I was just holding it up while talking (I was using my hands while I was talking) and I don’t know how the heck she missed it the whole time, but it took her almost the entire session (online) to notice them 😭 I wanted to tell her abt it but knew I couldn’t do it myself. She then asked how noone noticed them cuz they where so noticeable, which was really friggen ironic.
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u/lonely-blue-sheep 1d ago
I had a really bad, fresh burn on my arm and I said that I “accidentally” touched the hot metal plate that we use at work to seal the film to the trays (I work in a kitchen helping to make and package meals for seniors). I did touch the metal plate, but I held my arm down on it when no one was around.
My bf gets suspicious and concerned about any injuries that I have because he knows I self-harm and he obviously hates that I do it. I don’t like lying to him, but I don’t want him to break up with me over that. So when he asked me what happened, I said it was an accident, and he raised his eyebrows and said “are you sure?” And I said yes and just hoped he would believe me, which he did
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u/RequinBaline 1d ago
I have a bad habit of scratching up my arms and legs (not a big cutter tbh) and I do it to pick scabs off too. My brother came in the room right when I was bandaging up some bad ones on my leg and assumed they were from my dog launching himself off my thighs. A small win?
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u/ltWasMyCat 18h ago
Literally obliterated my left arm. Went to wash my hands and pulled my sleeves up. My mom was right next to me not sure how she didn't notice. Dried my hands and pulled the sleeves back down. Nothing happened.
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u/MonkTheWizard 1d ago
Got in trouble at school. Seventh grade. They called my grandparents and shit happened. My aunt who was currently living with us at the time (Still lives with us) found out too for some reason and she decided to get her little word in on the whole thing. Walked into my grandparents room when I was in there crying and straight up said: “Do you want attention?” Made me feel even more shitty.
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u/miamia1414 Dumbass with a bit of medical knowledge 1d ago
mine is really funny ahah.... i was waiting for my PSYCHIATRIC appointment in may and it was hot so i took of my jacket with my mom by my side thinking she wouldnt see my scars... dumb me. So she saw and we started arguing, in conclusion I asked my doctor for help and he just said good luck... Since she know i have a history of suicide attempts she thought it was one of them. We never spoke about this ever again...
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u/darlingjustwhy 1d ago
the first time was w my bro i hvae the cuts on my upper arm adn i was wearing a shirt he saw it and was like "what? you had a fight w a cat?" and i FREAKED TF OUT for like 1 sec and was thanking myself i only do cat scratches mentally after and i told him "yeah whatev js from the cats downstairs" or of soem sort
the next time was w my mom she saw the scars on down arm (other side of my wrist) and was like "whats this?" i only had a few scars so i rushed to my room and was like "just a f gith from the cats" I WAS FREAKING OUT AGAINA and she told me to put betadyne (if rgoot how to spell it) and shed do it for me and i was like no i can do it myself
my mom doesn't know what sh is so im SAVED, safe to say i always make sure to double check if my scars r visible after these interactions 😭😭
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u/Tiny-Arachnid2734 1d ago
I always wear a long sleeve hoodie or hoodie whit a zipper and i cant really wear it when im on the toilet so i take it off making sure nobody is near by then i always grab it and put it on except one time my dad saw me putting it on and rushing upstairs he said "what did you take" i just said i took nothing he akjed again and i repeadtly said i didnt take anything then he went downstairs and i want to my room sweating brearhing heavily shaking and another time i was in my room just chilling then i went downstairs drank some water stood at the doorframe talking to my parents having my hands at the top (i just put them there unconcouisly) so they didnt see the inside of my arms when i went upstairs i realised half through the stairs i forgot my long sleeve so i immeadietly ran upstairs thinking how stupid i was forgeting it and started crying I WAS SOOO EXTREMLY LUCKY
Sorry for spelling mistakes lol😭
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u/TwatFace83 16M 21h ago
When I first started I ALWAYS forgot to leave my room with long sleeves and then as I would go back to my room I’d just be panicking in my head like “holy shit, bro you gotta remember”
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u/DerinYara 1d ago
I forgot my blade in the bathroom
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u/TwatFace83 16M 21h ago
I keep my blade wrapped in a paper towel and once when I forgot it in the bathroom I overheard my brother ask my parents something like “why is there toilet paper on the shower” so I quietly went in and brought it back to my room, they probably would’ve found out right there but luckily they were already pre occupied so they never went to check and they just ended up forgetting.
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u/Glad-King7696 1d ago
Im around 12-14 wont specify, and when i was going to sleep my mom decided to make me uncomfy- anyway she Walked into my room and hugged me. She [for some reason idk and idk if its normall i dont like it] like put her hand under my shirt from the back and like while hugging me touched my back- and i used to sh on my back cuz i thought no one would see there, and on wrists people would. [i changed places]. and she like noticed the texture of scabs. i just said my back was rlly itchy but it was rlly close a few times.
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u/Addie_Kurts-Ver50 18h ago
I was listening to music and cutting but my mom walked in, it was really dark in my room so she didn't even notice, but I was literally shaking.
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u/melissaaa2503 1d ago
This was like 6-7 months ago? My boyfriend and I had just started dating basically, fresh relationship. We were sitting at a bus stop and (I had never told him about SH) he pointed at my wrist and asked me what happened all worried and I just looked at him and smiled not saying anything because my mind genuinely went blank. no excuses. I think maybe he realised because he just dropped it, they weren't bad as that time I was more of a scratcher than a cutter. I did eventually open up to him about it and he wanted me to talk to him when I felt like relapsing but I'm a very closed off person. I keep everything to myself so even now, I rarely say anything about it.
He did catch me a couple weeks ago, it was really bad and this boy was absolutely stressed. I felt really bad he had to witness it, trying to stay clean so he doesn't have to worry about something like that happening again
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u/irllylovemangoes 15h ago
me and my friend were texting eachother, lightheartedly joking about random things, and they said "i was going to say something else, but never mind. it was too mean." i brushed it off and we kept texting until they had to go eat dinner. after we stopped texting, i kept thinking about what they had said and got very upset about it for some reason, so i relapsed on my ankle after being clean for a month. i had forgotten that my sibling was going to be home from work around that time until i heard their car pull into the driveway. i scrambled to clean the cuts up, but couldn't find my bandaids so i just laid an antiseptic wipe on the area and put on some pajama pants, stood up, and acted like i was turning on my tv. i didn't realize that the bloody wipe had fallen out and was laying out on the floor. my sister opened my bedroom door a few seconds later and greeted me, then saw the wipe and asked me what was bleeding so i panicked and said that i had stubbed my toe on the side of my bed. i still don't know if she believed me, but i really hope so T-T
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u/Open-Oven341 1d ago
My cousin busted me when I was probably 12/13yrs old. He outed me to my mum and I lied and said someone had done it too me while at school. She went on this massive rampage at the school demanding to know what had happened and who it was. I obviously didn't give any names so no poor person would get in trouble but eventually she got over it and I was more careful after that.