r/selffuck • u/NoDetective5077 • Nov 16 '24

Text Advice on how to stay flacid? NSFW

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u/QCVanCity Nov 16 '24

Take deep breaths. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Forget about your dick. Forget about what it is you're even trying to do. Turning off the lights helps. Drape a towel over your junk if feeling nude makes it difficult to ignore. Basically, meditate or distract yourself until you get soft. Try watching videos on YouTube or reading something. Keep your ass lubed up and the moment you're ready to try again, quickly stretch your flaccid dick down to your ass and try to insert as quick as you can. Eventually, with plenty of practice, you will be able to stay calm and relaxed enough that you won't even have to do it quickly.

The biggest problem for me with learning to self-fuck was the fact that I would get horny immediately, just from the thought of what I was trying to do. It took me a long time to master, but I finally was able to.

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '24

Great advice, I've been trying to do this for a few days now, does one use maybe a but plug or anal toy first to stretch the ass open a bit or do you just stretch your dick and push him in there. I mean I'm not hung like a horse but I'm long enough to say it can be done, I'd say I'm about 20cm so yeah. What stretching techniques do you use to keep him long but not hard?

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u/QCVanCity Nov 21 '24

Thank you! I hope it helps. Also, I'm about 20 cm too hahah. Definitely use a buttplug. Stretching makes it much easier. I'll copy and paste a comment I made on another post:

I once had the same issue as you. Buy a lube syringe. Stretch your ass even more than you are now. Try relaxing your butthole as best as you can; make sure you're not clenching. Invest in buttplugs. I use a buttplug that's 7.5" circumference, even though I'm only between 5.25" and 5.75" girth. The bigger the gape, the easier it is to get in. I also stretch that much because my next goal is to get my balls in at the same time as my cock. Haven't been able to achieve it yet but came so close the other day.

Watch my video to see how I do it.

https://www.reddit.com/r/selffuck/s/25USVspgH6

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u/Dbow929 Nov 16 '24

I'd say you don't have to be completely soft (depends if you're a grower or a shower) but I'd say distract yourself with something that's unsexual or a turn off ..

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u/SFGuyUK Nov 16 '24

I agree with the comments already made. Stop for a while and think of anything but sex.

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '24

Like your grandma in swimsuit