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u/Drate_Otin 16h ago
People who get upset that some people treat their birthdays like a normal day are definitely lacking in maturity.
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u/NotThrowingAwayMyAcc 15h ago
Some people just prefer the celebration to be low-key, and that's fine.
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u/LassOnGrass 14h ago
Yeah, I think it’s my birthday I can cry if I want to, or give zero shits if I want to.
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u/Drate_Otin 14h ago
The original meme makes no mention of somebody being dramatic. It only references somebody treating their birthday like any other day.
It also tracks that people who make a big deal out of their birthday are far more likely to be dramatic about it than somebody who isn't making a big deal out of their birthday.
We're just trying to get through our day. Ideally with the minimum amount of embarrassment, awkwardness, or difficulty. Being dramatic about it is not going to help and so I'm not going to do that.
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u/awaisvfx 15h ago
I've never had a birthday party/celebration. I've never blown out candles. I've never experienced a birthday surprise. The last birthday present I probably received was a toy when I was a child.
No one gets me anything or takes me out. For the most part I may treat myself to some gifts or take myself out and be like "how did you know?! this is just what I wanted!" There is no hype around my birthday so I guess it just turned into a normal day to me. So it has nothing to do with being mature.
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u/Blaine8182 16h ago
Some people see no reason to celebrate being alive for another year.
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u/MangoJefferson 16h ago
Hello fellow hooman, are you ok?
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u/Blaine8182 15h ago
I´m ok now and celebrated my birthday this year. But especially the two years before before I didn´t really wanted to celebrate it.
Thank you for asking.
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u/drongowithabong-o 16h ago
I'm too old for birthday parties every year. Now it's reserved for birthdays that divide by 5 because having a day off to myself rocks.
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u/Caleth 13h ago
That and I don't want to spend any fucking money on this shit. Like Once you're 30 there's no point. I've hit all the major milestones, my insurance was the lowest it'd ever be 5 years before, and now it's just spending money to make a deal out of myself.
When I turned 40 the only reason anyone came to the party we had was because it was a joint party for my 5 year old. Her Bday is less than a week before mine.
I'd rather money spent on my party go to doing shit for my kids rather than me. It's just one more day in a sea of remembered birthdays and holidays for me. For them though? It's the first of several they'll remember or the first time we did this or that thing instead.
That's what matters is creating something that will stand out for someone that will remember and appreciate it. I will appreciate the love and thoughts, but it's just one of 35+ days I remember like this one.
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u/johnny9c 15h ago
I never care about my birthday before it happens and also feel weird/egotistical planning my own party or get together, and yet, without fail, every single time it gets to finally be the day I'm really sad that I'm not doing anything or that nothing's going on for it. A friend basically forced me to do something when I turned 26 this past year and it felt really nice to celebrate and have friends around
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u/powerrbeauty 15h ago
Celebrating your birthday is like being stuck in a prison and throwing a party every year to mark the day you arrived.
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u/OderusAmongUs 14h ago
That's so bleak. Of course redditors are up voting it too. Find some happiness in life folks. No one's going to change your life for you. It's on you. If you're depressed, get help. We all go through shit.
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u/noob_drummer 13h ago
Yeah expecting to find positivty , in r/meirl , under a post about being miserable. There should be a term for this level of optimism.
Also yes we all go through shit, but calling out depressed people for being down and not finding "happiness in life" is like the worst way to approach this.
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u/OderusAmongUs 13h ago
Your interpretation of my comment doesn't help. And there's nothing wrong with offering a different perspective that MIGHT help someone. Whatever though. Be mad if you want.
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u/BurtleTurtle001 15h ago
No I don't, I just don't like saying thanks all day. Happy birthday, thanks. Happy birthday, thanks. Happy birthday, thanks. It gets annoying when it's all day.
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u/HeavenEyes_ 15h ago
I’d rather not bother anyone with a get-together that might not live up to expectations. It’s easier to just keep it low-key and move on.
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u/Derrellad 15h ago
If you’re not planning to throw me a party, don’t hassle me for not having one myself.
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u/im-cringing-rightnow 15h ago
I doubt that people who want to be left alone care about your opinion, Karen. Just let people chill if they want to. It's not maturity question, it's "leave me the fuck alone just for this one day please" question.
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u/jflood1977 14h ago
My wife and daughter didn't wish me a Happy Birthday last time, which is the same as every OTHER day, so I guess it was just a normal day anyway?
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u/Yabrosif13 14h ago
After 21, most birthdays dont matter. Gotta wait till 40, 50, 60 etc for anyone to care.
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u/Thatoneguy2498 14h ago
If we are celebrating santa or christ at Christmas. And we are celebrating the easter bunny and chickens on easter. I am celebrating the day i arrived on this earth more that any onther !! ❤️ and thanking my mum each time! Long live birthdays long live mothers!
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u/Partyatmyplace13 14h ago
Because like who-tf am I? I've barely heard of me before. Why are we celebrating his birthday?
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u/Bane8080 14h ago
For my birthday I want people to leave me alone.
Best present I could possibly get is peace and quiet.
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u/animousfly30 14h ago
I never celebrate my day because I never get what I ask for in the first place. So people keep asking me and when I do say it, they say aw get something realistic. Yea ok. Sure. How about I just not do this. Then everyone's happy and not bothering me about it
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u/Cavadrec01 14h ago
The opposite is true as well, except that people who don't celebrate their birthdays also don't put people out for a celebration only a few actually want...
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u/morningcalls4 14h ago
I think of it as this, I literally did nothing on the day of my birth, it wasn’t an achievement of mine, but achievement of my mother, if anyone should celebrated on the day of by birth it should be her, not me.
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u/8-Bit-Memories 13h ago
If you have a problem with how I celebrate (or don’t celebrate) my birthday, that’s “a you problem” without exception
Mind your own birthday
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u/Muted-Row6391 13h ago
My sibling’s birthday is one day before mine. There’s no “my” birthday it’s always “our” birthday. So… shut up
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u/DrPickleback 13h ago
My birthday was always stressful growing up because my mom and dad would inevitably get into an argument about something stupid. Someone would complain about the meal choice/food options. Somehow I would feel guilty for whatever present I got because of expenses.
So now I have enough money to buy what I want, when I want it, and exactly how I want it. The best birthday gift you can give me is to just leave me alone. I don't want to go out to dinner, I don't want a cake, I don't want people to say anything to me.
I actually removed my birthday from the office birthday wall thing that reminds people, and it's great.
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u/CMDR-LT-ATLAS 13h ago
This world would be a better place without me, which is why I'll continue to have birthdays until further notice.
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u/Everythingizok 13h ago
Yeah low key I just don’t feel like I mean anything and the day isn’t special. Everyone has one. But I also understand that others do value that day and I don’t judge that. I admire it. I just don’t feel the same when it’s my day
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u/SolomonBelial 13h ago
When the only Happy Birthday you receive is an automated text message from your dentist also reminding you to schedule an appointment, it's difficult to find any magic in the day.
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u/feetfagg 14h ago
Imagine caring about one day more than another I can treat myself whenever I want there's no need for birthday
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u/DJ_pider 14h ago
This is the way, in my eyes. One shouldn't need an excuse to feel special. Which is... kinda why I don't care for my birthday. I don't want people who don't bother to pay me any mind all year to all of a sudden care today. I prefer consistency
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u/TrainingNo9892 14h ago
When I save a family from drowning in a flood; I’ll gladly accept my ticker-tape parade!!
But my birthday? Hardly a great achievement of mine…
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u/blinksystem 14h ago
Good lord Redditors will take literally any opportunity to shoehorn this topic in.
A woman tweets about people, in general, that don’t celebrate birthdays? Better make it a Men’s rights issue!
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u/Klutzy_Journalist_36 14h ago
The same men that cry about no one making a huge deal about their bday are the ones that never EVER plan anyone else’s bday.
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u/The_Face_Of_Ben 16h ago
I treat it as a fairly normal day. I don't like people making a fuss over me. It's not like I did anything to achieve it, I just didn't die for another year.