r/facepalm 'MURICA Aug 28 '24

🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​ i'm speechless

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u/limamon Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

How old are you? I remember the comment about being 10% but never been there so maybe my source was wrong

Edit: thanks for all the responses, gave me great insight.

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u/Nonamebigshot Aug 28 '24

Elder millennial here. I didn't even realize it used to be 10% but of course it was. It was probably 5% before that and once that was considered acceptable they just kept pushing for more. It should've never been considered acceptable in the first place to expect customers to pay a business owner's employees

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u/Fathorse23 Aug 28 '24

Mid Gen Xer, yes it used to be 10%. I still hold at 20%, if it increases more I’ll probably just stop going out.

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u/NRMusicProject Aug 28 '24

Same. And anyone who screams "BUT INFLATION!" is obviously too stupid to understand how percentages work.

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u/Abigail_Normal Aug 28 '24

Inflation is part of the problem, but not the way you're thinking. The issue is the server's wage that the employer pays probably hasn't changed even though prices of goods and rent have gone up. The issue isn't that inflation increased the price of your meal and therefore you should tip more. The percentage covers that. The issue is due to inflation, the server now needs a larger percentage of your meal as a tip so they can later afford to feed themselves. Tipping culture is fucked up. Business owners need to step up and pay their employees. I don't understand how it's gotten this bad and everyone just accepts it

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u/TearyEyeBurningFace Aug 28 '24

That's not how it works. The menu process rose the same amount as inflation. And so does min wage.

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u/Abigail_Normal Aug 28 '24

If you think minimum wage has increased with inflation, you are so out of touch

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u/TearyEyeBurningFace Aug 28 '24

It has where i live. And so has the expected tip

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '24

In America it doesn't matter anyway. You can pay tipped workers less than minimum wage.

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u/sl0play Aug 28 '24

Depends on the state. Servers get paid almost $20/hr in Seattle, and get 20-25% of sales in tips on top of that.

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u/Cultural_Net_1791 Aug 29 '24

the federal min wage in the US is $7.25 or $7.50 meaning mamy states go with that. the min wage for wait staff is $2 and some change. they make absolutely nothing without tips.

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u/SweatyWar7600 Aug 28 '24

not exactly. Its an incomplete answer. Inflation has far outgrown any wage increases makes service industry jobs needing to make up the difference somewhere and obviously the boss isn't going to pay more so the expectation for higher tips has increased.

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u/Akurei00 Aug 29 '24

I tipped more during covid because I felt like they deserved a little something more for hazard l pay. But now it's ridiculous how many places have tipping on the prompts that didn't before and they frequently start at 18 or 20%.

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u/adamthebarbarian Aug 28 '24

Between food prices going up, and food quality going down, i just don't go out anymore unless i don't have another option. The convenience of not having to clean up is nice, but i really just can't justify how expensive it is for food that I'm just going to shrug at lol

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u/ionlyjoined4thecats Aug 29 '24

Yeah I tip 20% pretty much all the time (maybe 18% for counter-service and 15% for takeout), and I will not be tipping more even if culture keeps pushing up. I feel for the workers, but we can’t all keep going along with this or bosses getting away with this bullshit is just gonna get worse and worse. I already live somewhere with a decent minimum wage and no tipped wage (they get the same minimum wage everyone else does, thankfully), so not sure why I’m even expected to pay 20% tbh. I do because I don’t want to be an asshole. But enough is enough. And before someone asks, yes, I’ve worked multiple service industry jobs.

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u/wave-garden Aug 28 '24

I’ve already stopped going out except very rare occasions. Even then I’ll usually just do takeout and pick it up myself because I can’t afford this nonsense.

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u/LockPickingCoder Aug 28 '24

Yep, 10% was you did the job, thank you. If you did an excellent job, it would be 15% to say I appreciate your fine service, and sometimes 5% for well, I guess I was served.

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u/KnockItTheFuckOff Aug 28 '24

It increased during COVID when the service industry took the biggest hit. This was their livelihood and people were being laid off left and right and we as a society rallied around small business.

It just never went back down again.

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u/Nonamebigshot Aug 28 '24

The prices of so many things skyrocketed during covid and never went back down and I assume it's because once the powers that be realized they could get away with charging that much they just decided to keep doing it.

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter Aug 28 '24

No. It was 20% long before Covid and still is

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u/KnockItTheFuckOff Aug 28 '24

It was 10%, 15%, and 20% where I am. 20% was the max just before COVID. Now, it's bare minimum.

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u/BanditoDeTreato Aug 28 '24

It's been 20% since at least the 1990s. Even when 15% was considered the "minimum" it was still considered kind of stingy.

Source have been eating out since the 1970s

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter Aug 28 '24

It might open your eyes to how important a 20 percent tip could be.

Today, it’s customary for most Americans to tip between 15 percent and 20 percent

Waiters should be tipped 15%-20%, though at higher-end restaurants, a solid 20% is more the norm.

The range now is between 15 percent and 20 percent. This is for average to good service.

  • From 2004 (also this is an article complaining about how to many people expect tips these days... aka 20 years ago)

Waiters should get 15-20 percent of your pretax check

waiters/waitresses should receive 15-20 percent. Is this still correct, or has it gone up to 20 percent?

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter Aug 28 '24

And one more find, a quote from 1957 a writer back in 2011 dug up:

Remember that 10 percent is no longer sufficient for a waiter. He ought to get 15 to 20 percent.

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u/IdioticPost Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

Be the change you want to see. I've upped my tips to 12% but nothing beyond that.

edit: waiters out in full force today 🤣

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u/KnockItTheFuckOff Aug 28 '24

I've compromised. I know for the time being that servers truly are reliant on tips. I have limited eating out quite a bit because 20% of the bill additionally just doesn't make a whole lot of sense.

That said, I absolutely do not tip for take-out that I pick up or anywhere that requests one when I am walking into the establishment and not staying.

Not the bagel shop, not the sandwich shop, not corporate coffee shops, not drive-thru's.

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u/BanditoDeTreato Aug 28 '24

You should not eat in restaurants

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter Aug 28 '24

Remember that 10 percent is no longer sufficient for a waiter. He ought to get 15 to 20 percent.

  • A quote from 1957 a writer dug up in 2011 when people were still complaining about tips

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u/Nonamebigshot Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

That's super neat but every restaurant bill I used to get fifteen years ago requested an average tip rate of 10%-15% and now it's 20%-25% so you're not about to gaslight me with that dumbass quote 🤣You're literally attempting to disprove actual life experiences with an archived "Chicago Reader's magazine" article this is so fucking Reddit

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter Aug 28 '24

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u/Nonamebigshot Aug 28 '24

So 15-20? And that would be less than 20-25 right? So the percentage has raised then?

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u/BanditoDeTreato Aug 28 '24

No it wasn't. Your parents were just skinflints. Also Gen X.

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u/BanditoDeTreato Aug 28 '24

Your parents were just cheap.

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u/marvsup Aug 28 '24

Well it started with racism, surprise surprise, so that people could pay black porters less.

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u/Nonamebigshot Aug 28 '24

Racism plus unchecked Capitalism couldn't be more American could it?

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u/limamon Aug 28 '24

Elder millennial too, thanks for the context!

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u/CoconutMochi Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

California doesn't hold an exception to minimum wage (IIRC here in LA county it's $20) for servers but the tipping culture here isn't any different. Even if you order food to-go from someone at a point-of-sale they still ask for tips.

Not to mention everyone prefers cash tips so they can commit tax fraud

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u/el_bentzo Aug 28 '24

Tipping system was basically created so restaurant employers could pay black waiters less than minimum wage. So it was created out of racism

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u/Wardman66 Aug 28 '24

It’s a sliding scale economy goes nuts prices skyrocket but hourly rate stays the same, tip % grows along with how bad the economy is

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u/Routine-Function7891 Aug 29 '24

If everywhere is operating under the rules of the same system then you’re not ‘paying the employees for the business owner’ - if you weren’t tipping do you think food prices would stay the same? No, of course they wouldn’t because the employee cost would be factored into the prices.

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u/mistletoebeltbuckle_ Aug 28 '24

really old fuck here.... yes!, 10% AND... even that was not an expected give unless you got over and above service.

Now, the service industry system is set up to victimize the servers and vilify the customers

[ I know, I know... bread used to be 15 cents :\ ]

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u/MomDontReadThisShit Aug 28 '24

I just don’t tip any more.

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u/seragrey Aug 28 '24

tHeN yOu cAnT aFfOrD tO gO oUt To EaT

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u/Nonamebigshot Aug 28 '24

I mean in this economy who can?😆

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u/TheMcBrizzle Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

I think it's regional, because I'm same general age and it's always been 10% is mediocre, 15% for good and 20% for anything better than good.

*Why would this be downvoted? Lol.

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u/Links_Wrong_Wiki Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

33 years old here. Growing up I was always taught 10% for standard, 15% for good service.

I refuse to tip above 15%, it scales with inflation so 15% will always be 15%

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u/BanditoDeTreato Aug 28 '24

Your parents were just cheap and so are you. 20 percent has been standard since at least the 90's. There's a guy in this thread that's got 15-20% quotes going back to the 50s.

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u/TheOriginalSpartak Aug 28 '24

10 was the norm, 15 was the higher, now its 15 and 20% the higher… As I was a server at a time, I always give a good tip, No tip should be the norm though, it should be incorporated into the wage and a note should be on the bill, if you had any problems with your service tell us…and then the restaurant can deal with it… if you have a problem server then get rid of them….if you got a great server and the responses say so then give them a raise…This tipping thing needs to go away…But this has been the battle since the beginning right? And look we we have got ourselves…

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u/limamon Aug 28 '24

Got it, thank you for the context.

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u/HonestEditor Aug 28 '24

10 was the norm, 15 was the higher, now its 15 and 20% the higher…

In some places, 18% has become the norm recently, and I think I can see that moving to 20% in the not too distant future.

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u/ElizabethTheFourth Aug 28 '24

Do you live in a small town? In most medium and large cities, 18% was the norm 2000s to mid-2010s, and 20-22% is the norm now.

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u/lydriseabove Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

I was born in ‘87. 10% was always the minimum for poor service, 20% was for excellent service. Now it’s 20% minimum and many places have the option to add a 22% auto gratuity if you either have a large group or are being dicks in any way.

Edit: in response to this moronic comment “Sorry, but tipping a % of the bill is horseshit. If you pay more and buy, say, the steak over the chicken, that means the server is entitled to more of your money for some reason. It should be a flat rate per person served.”

-Nah, just as I wouldn’t expect Joe down the street at Bob’s discount used car lot to make the same as Maxwell at the BMW dealership, quality of restaurant or food should be correlated with amount of pay. If the restaurant is bringing in a ton of money, that should be shared amongst every contributing employee. If the company is making more money off of more or higher quality dishes, then the service should too.

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u/limamon Aug 28 '24

Thanks for the answer!

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u/loweexclamationpoint Aug 28 '24

And bar tips were 5% in the old days. Most people just left change at the bar.

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u/lydriseabove Aug 28 '24

Interesting, I never really thought of it that way. At my job, bartenders make $16 an hour during non-food service times, as opposed to the $5.25 the servers and bartenders make during kitchen hours with shared tipping.

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u/loweexclamationpoint Aug 28 '24

Many years ago, before you were born 😄, I worked at a data processing service where we ran payrolls for a couple big country clubs. Members would just sign their bar and restaurant checks without putting any amounts for tips and the system would just do 15% for restaurant checks and 5% for bar checks. That was considered plenty. I suppose some of the high roller members left cash too but it was probably pretty rare for ordinary people to do so.

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u/LaurenMille Aug 28 '24

You were tipping... for poor service?

I can't even imagine tipping no matter how amazing the service. They'd have to literally do my taxes for me to even consider it.

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u/lydriseabove Aug 28 '24

A person is still providing their time and attention and that deserves something. If someone shows up to work, they deserve to be paid, and if tipping is their means of payment, then yes. If you aren’t going to pay someone for their service, don’t use their service.

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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 Aug 28 '24

If someone shows up to work, they deserve to be paid

They get paid no matter what

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u/lydriseabove Aug 28 '24

That really isn’t true. They might make $7.25 an hour in states that haven’t increased their minimum wage yet and someone’s time alone is still worth more than that. Just don’t use someone’s service if you don’t fully intend on assuring they are paid for it ahead of time. You might not think they are entitled to your tip, but you aren’t entitled to their service, and accepting that service with no intention of paying for it is a form of theft.

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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 Aug 28 '24

but you aren’t entitled to their service

I mean, I literally am if the business is open to the public and seats are available.

and accepting that service with no intention of paying for it is a form of theft.

This is an completely twisted interpretation of the events, I get you need to feel righteous about tipping, but stiffing someone (terrible as it may be) is not in fact theft.

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u/lydriseabove Aug 28 '24

The seats are open to the public and available to paying customers. Paying for the product, but using the service with no intention of paying for it absolutely is theft. Your mindset is appalling and I hope you can figure out why you think you are entitled to have people serve you without you being obligated to pay for that time and service.

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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 Aug 28 '24

available to paying customers

Yes, you can pay what you owe without tipping.

using the service with no intention of paying

If the service isn't optional, then it is baked into the price of the bill, which is the only thing a customer needs to pay to not be a thief. Servers get paid from their employer, and if their tips don't equal minimum wage, then they get comped to minimum wage, therefore no theft is happening.

Play word games all you want, but everybody knows that is not theft

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u/LaurenMille Aug 28 '24

That's a problem between them and their employer.

I'm already paying their employer for the service.

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u/littleghost000 Aug 28 '24

Yeah, for most of my life, it was 10% is fine, 15% was good, 20% was awesome.

Now I've seen some places suggest up to 50% ... not unless I just got coffee, bro.

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u/limamon Aug 28 '24

Wtf 50%...

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u/heili Aug 28 '24

Gen X and yes it used to be 10% was standard and it was 15% if you were really impressed or generous.

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u/reggelleh Aug 28 '24

Yes it was 10% back in the 80’s. And it was supposed to be excluding alcohol, or so I was taught.

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u/9966 Aug 28 '24

When I was a kid it was 5% for adequate service. 10% for good service and maybe 15% if you were floored by how great the service was. Then it just imched up. I'm definitely partially to blame because I usually typed 20% because I knew a lot of servers.

Also tipping well at a bar means I could typically order from the back of a crowd with a hand gesture and walk past everyone and grab my drinks from the counter to the look of bewilderment from people who were trying to get the bartenders attention for ten minutes.

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u/Grossface_Killa Aug 28 '24

I’m 40, and when they were teaching etiquette in home ec when I was a freshman (97?), 12% was considered an amazing tip.

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u/Tomagatchi Aug 28 '24

Yeah, 10% was standard and 15% was "Wow, you're great!"

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u/SinisterKid Aug 28 '24

Used to be 10% for OK service, 12% for good service and 15% for excellent service

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u/josh_the_misanthrope Aug 28 '24

10 was considered minimum (and acceptable) and 15 was kind of the max unless you were flaunting your money.

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u/Vibriofischeri Aug 28 '24

I remember being taught in school in the early 2000s that you should top 5% for bad service, 10% for good service, and 15% for exceptional service.

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u/RetroDad-IO Aug 28 '24

I'm almost 40, 10% tip was considered normal, 15% for exceptional. Could be higher if the table was especially difficult such as a large party that stayed for a really long time.

If it was a large bill but a short and easy visit then it was likely a flat amount overall.

Edit: I should add I'm in Canada and service staff here get at least minimum wage for hours worked and that's not lowered based on tips.

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u/uwillneverknowme Aug 28 '24

When I was a teenager in the mid-80's, 10% was an exceptional tip. I was out for breakfast one time with my BF's parents, and his parents picked up the check. I said I would leave the tip, and they lost their minds when I put $5 on the table because that was waaaayyy too big of a tip.

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u/DeusXNex Aug 28 '24

Even now I tip 10% max. Idgaf

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u/nightglitter89x Aug 28 '24

10% in the 90s. I was raised by a waitress lol

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u/Informal-Bother8858 Aug 28 '24

only cheap people say this

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u/thenasch Aug 28 '24

Wrong, 10% was a totally standard tip.

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u/Informal-Bother8858 Aug 28 '24

no. your dad was just cheap

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u/thenasch Aug 28 '24

Then everyone else's dad was too because as a young adult I didn't meet anyone who didn't think tipping 10% was normal. It's OK to admit you don't know everything.

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u/Informal-Bother8858 Aug 28 '24

yeah those people were cheap too

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u/thenasch Aug 28 '24

And you're how old?

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u/zeaor Aug 28 '24

This person admitted below that they are a professional waiter/waitress, that's why they're trying to inflate tip amount.

A good example of why you shouldn't feel bad for undertipping -- a lot of these people are assholes.

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u/thenasch Aug 28 '24

That explains it. I was thinking they were just a troll because I'm skeptical a 40 year old could be that oblivious about the history of tip inflation in the US.

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u/limamon Aug 28 '24

I'm just asking. Fortunately I live in a country where the service don't need tips to survive. And I work in the business for almost 3 decades.

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u/Informal-Bother8858 Aug 28 '24

I figured, I'm just letting g tou know, when an American days 10%, its because they're cheap. I worked in restaurants since 92

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u/nabiku Aug 28 '24

Oh, I see why you're lying to us now.

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u/Informal-Bother8858 Aug 28 '24

your parents didn't make you work? I see why they thought 10% was fine

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u/manenegue Aug 28 '24

Lmao you’re 40, and you worked in restaurants since 92? So you were 8 years old when you started working? Come on, at least try to make your story believable.

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u/Informal-Bother8858 Aug 28 '24

family restaurant 

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u/Important_Twist_693 Aug 28 '24

Millennial here. Growing up it was always a scale of 10% to 20% of the subtotal based on how much you enjoyed the service. (In my mind, it was sort of like a "1 to 10" rating of the server. Common advice was to double the sales tax, which was around 8%.)

My theory is that a big part of the "tip creep" came from people (including me) "rating" all their servers 10/10, the same way you give 5 stars to any satisfactory Uber driver or Amazon purchase. Then it grew from there because of simpler math (double the total, move the decimal place). I would then further simplify it further by rounding everything up.

So here's an example:

Receipt total: $14.60 Tip: 2 x $ 1.50ish = $3.00

Total is $15ish + $3 = $18

That's how a tip becomes 23%.

I also didn't know you were "supposed" to start with the subtotal, so it actually was higher than that for me.

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u/BanditoDeTreato Aug 28 '24

Growing up it was always a scale of 10% to 20% of the subtotal based on how much you enjoyed the service.

Your parents were just bad tippers

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u/TransBrandi Aug 28 '24

Also an Elder Millennial. Growing up it was normally 15% or but 18% for a large group.