r/dating_advice • u/LunaRivera420 • 1d ago

Removed guy who just follows my stories

Tale as old as time, great first date but then no follow up. I expressed after the date that I would be open to a second. He never followed up which is fine I get it but he was always watching my stories and even liking them.

I let him lurk for the past month and I decided to message him after he liked one of my stories that was flirty in nature (not particularly aimed at him). I said don’t be liking my stuff if you’re not gonna ask me on a second date and he pretty much dodged the statement and we just chatted for a bit. After our exchange I came to terms with the situation and unfollowed him and removed him as a follower because I’m not looking to be friends with men I meet through dating apps.

Anyway, I guess my question is why do people do this? What is the point?

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u/LunaRivera420 1d ago

Which is crazy because I feel like he could’ve been more direct with me and given me more effort, I felt like I was about to enter “the chase” and I stopped it before it became that.

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u/Tall_Eye4062 1d ago

Men have to enter "the chase" almost every single time. And usually, the girl ghosts. That's why if you make genuine effort, it makes you stand out.