r/dating_advice • u/Candid-Lab-4456 • 21h ago

Girl I have fell for has a FWB

I (M26) met someone off hinge about 6 months ago and we agreed to be friends but I ended up falling for her even tho she’s been adamant we’re only friends, like I got her birthday presents and some souvenirs from my trip to Japan. She went distant on me this past month after we went Edinburgh together. Long story short I’ve just found out she has a FWB and honestly it’s kinda torn me up a bit. I’m not even sure why I have feelings for her when she never asks how my day is or invites me out to the weekly quiz (coincidentally where she met her FWB) but it feels like a drug wanting to talk to her.

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u/Competitive-Craft123 21h ago

She is holding out hope that he will want a relationship with her.  He is likely not interested though. 

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u/believetobe 21h ago

You’re not going to like it, but my advice is to cut contact with her. Keeping her in your life is causing you pain. If you can’t be friends with her without hoping it will turn into something else or getting jealous when she dates someone else, then you aren’t actually friends, and it’s not fair to either of you.

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u/barry1988 21h ago

Jeez sorry. U went on a trip to Edinburgh? Like as friends? I'd move on

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u/tacoranchero2 21h ago

You’re buying her gifts and going on trips with her meanwhile she’s getting rawed by some other dude. Time to move on brother

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u/Huge-Kitchen-4816 21h ago

we’re the same exact age brother! if you were one of my friends, i would say to maybe loosen up with her. like divert half the attention you’re giving her to other women and go from there. you may find someone new and it’ll work itself out. i think the biggest thing is if she knows you want to be with her, and then she’s messing with another guy and had no problem telling you, then she likely does not care about you like that.

it’s been 6 months already and she let some other guy fuck and he likely didn’t wait 6 months. i think you should laugh it off and move on. since yall didn’t really date you can keep in contact with her while you’re looking for a real genuine lady. hope this helps, best of luck!

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u/Adorable_Secret8498 21h ago

End it. She's clearly not interested in you know this. The FWB doesn't matter. What matters is she do like you like that. At all.

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u/JazzlikeSavings 20h ago

You gotta end this. I’d never agree to just be friends. Now your feelings are all in it. You need to kill those feelings and any hope of a future with her.

If you hold on thinking things will turn around, you’ll be like forest gump waiting for jenny(and they never come when you’re waiting).

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u/ydfpoi1423 6h ago

It really doesn’t matter that she has a FWB. She does not want to date you. It sounds like you are struggling just being her platonic friend, so you should probably distance yourself from her.