r/dating_advice • u/helpmeartist • 1d ago

Matchmaking service?

30F. Spent my 20s getting played by casual sex when I want true love. I live in a major city so meeting men is easy, but meeting kind and thoughtful men has been impossible. All my friends have lucked out in 7+ year relationships and now marriages. I feel like I’m scraping the barrel for commitment these days.

I have a great job, lots of talents, great at cooking, workout 2-4x a week and very fit, into beauty and fashion, well traveled, with my own apartment. I want someone equally ambitious and attractive.

Has anyone in a similar position tried a matchmaking service? Should I try local or are there services online that can scout my city? Is this a waste a money considering I am a social and successful person? It would help me date emotionally as I can be anxious about my own dates and matches who have had ulterior motives all decade. To know the other is not going to rush me into their bed and actually wants to have a convo and get to know me for the right reasons feels so simple and insane to pay for a third party.

I know the kind of person I want and the kind of person I am in a relationship, and could be long term. What sort of details would I provide? What has been the timing for dates and success in relationships? Have you been met with more or less skepticism from your dates through a matchmaker?

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u/Affectionate_Lead865 1d ago

Matchmaking services are expensive (like several thousands) and send you weirdos that you would never want to date. I wouldn’t recommend them. Just keep looking on free dating apps.

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u/Thadoctabean 1d ago

I think that you’ll be doin’ just fine If you relax a little, I’m glad I inspire you, but, Stan Why are you so mad?

But fr relax on your ambition if you want a man or you’ll never settle. This problem is entirely brought on by your attitude because you check all the boxes, however you seem to be wound very tightly.