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u/whyisallnametooked 1d ago
Had this happen to me, but then he realised one day that group a were filled with pricks who doesn't care about how he felt. We are back to being best bros now
My point is, sometimes you slowly drift apart from someone you care about, but that doesn't mean your bond would simply snap.
Hope your friend would someday appreciate you too OP. 👍
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u/Ry-Guy12 1d ago
Why was this so hard to read it took me like 3 tries
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u/Mach5Stealthz 1d ago
I’m thinking b stands for ‘because’, rather than the group A or group B all the comments are mentioning.
If not, I have no idea what this is supposed to say….
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u/ProblemSl0th 1d ago
it's basically saying "that moment when you realize your oldest and dearest friend no longer sees you as their dearest friend." because they're prioritizing spending time with another group of people instead.
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u/ASassoNation 1d ago
Probably because you look at friendship like it's boarding group
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u/xxgetrektxx2 ☣️ 1d ago
I mean it sort of is. We all have limited time on our hands and prioritize our relationships based on how much they mean to us.
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u/AlexPaterson16 10h ago
Yes and no but as an adult who you spend times with kinda also grossly depends on interests. Time available and other commitments. I currently live 10,000 miles away from people I consider my closest friends (extreme example I know) but when I went to university I moved 2 hours away from my friends. Could hang out with them maybe once a month because of classes and work but I'm now 28 and most of them are still my closest friends. It's not all about who you want to make time for. It's primarily about if you even can regularly meet up with certain people then who you choose second
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u/Duncan6794 1d ago
Y’all got friends?
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u/angryPenguinator 1d ago
Interesting that you mention that. I had the realization yesterday that I hardly have friends, and those that I do have are not really great friends.
I’m lucky to have my spouse as a bestie; after that, the drop off is huge.
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u/meowlicious1 1d ago
Spouse bestie here too. A lot of eggs in that basket to be honest. 11 years today!
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u/Ninjipples 1d ago
I'm in friend group B or C of all of my child/ high school friends, and those that I introduced to that group as an adult. We only interact when I plan something specifically to hang out with them.
In fact, the only friends I still think I am in A group for are ones I made as adults. And even then, it's only 2 people. One of which I met during Covid through the other one.
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u/DrHouseEatsAss 1d ago
I’ve just come to realize that if you don’t get invited anywhere and the only time you see your “friends” is if you invite them anywhere, then you might not really have any friends
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u/kindaEpicGamer 1d ago
No? Somebody has to invite everyone and if you are the guy to do it then that's okay
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u/Redlinemylife 1d ago
Is your friend taking steps through life like job college marriage and you’re not? Friend group A is for those that move in the same direction
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u/SharkDad20 1d ago
I'm the only one of my friends from high school married OR with kids. I basically don't have friends anymore
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u/StateParkMasturbator 1d ago
Wait till bro finds out there's no group A, and we're all just old and have less time to hang. People move away for work or love. You try to game or do some DnD to stay in touch, but your schedules stop lining up. The group chat is just one guy sharing memes now. You chime in from time to time, but it feels like you're going through the motions. Half of you are nearly 40. You make plans to play some vidya some nights, and your bros no-show. Used to be that you'd get an excuse, "gotta spend some time with the wife", but now you all openly acknowledge that no one wants to make plans if there's even a chance that no one will show up. You forgot how to make new friends, and the coworkers you do like hanging out with either don't really like you. Worrying that you'll be fired for having fun and dumb opinions, you never really open up fully to the ones that are down for a few beers. You realize your only real friends that you see with any regularity are your parents.
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u/Hproff25 1d ago
Me too bro. Friends for over two decades. Still friends just not invited to most things.
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u/Random_User27 🗿🖒 1d ago
Shit happens, at least they'll get in touch every now and then, but not too much, nor too often
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u/Detisdewe 1d ago
Everyone always needs to put things in boxes nowadays. I just have friends with whom I am closer than others, it's always been that way
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u/gloraxxp 1d ago
I don't know how to categorize myself because all of my friends tell me if I don't organize a hangout none of them have friends to hangout with. All of my friends are nerdy introverted people who live with their parents as adults so I am the one who reaches out to them and organize the group hangouts at my place. I have noticed that some people are better off not hanging out with others so I strategically seperate the hangouts depending on who is available but I don't really have a specific tier of which group is the best group.
I guess it's funny that I get told alot that if I did not approach my friends first they would have noone to talk to in school or work. I think it's because I like to be friendly and meet new people and alot of lonely people get attached to me because I talk to them first.
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u/DasFofinater INFECTED 1d ago
I’m introverted af but I’ve been lucky to have a great group of friends. Ride or die brothers since I was like 8. Plus a few who came in a little later.
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u/iama_bad_person ☣️ 1d ago
This happened to me. He got a new job and with it came a close nit group of coworkers. We had known each other since high school. We live 5km from each other but I haven't seem him in months.
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u/bigfatfurrytexan 1d ago
Friends are very over rated. Family is where it's at. Put that effort into your home life. Those are the ones who really care
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u/ChasingPesmerga 1d ago
Whether you’re in A or B now doesn’t matter, one day he’ll realize it, you’ll C