r/confidence • u/Plastic_Mood_8386 • 2d ago
Why am I so content with failure and loss?
I finally achieved it but now I don't remember why I was gunning for this mindset in the first place. I used to get so upset about losing or being rejected but now I feel literally nothing when it happens. I just accept it and move on.
Is this good? I've heard it is, but I'm not sure if it actually is.
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u/TheOptimalDecision 2d ago
It is great to not let failure or rejection deter you from your goals, obviously.
"Is this good? I've heard it is, but I'm not sure if it actually is."
This comment makes me believe you don't understand the underlying meaning of the message. The whole mindset you ideally would like to strive for is that you learn from every failure or rejection... you don't let it deter you from your future successes... it's just part of the journey.
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u/Di-ah_Rhea 2d ago
Yes. Maybe if you lived in an actual meritocracy it would be bad but since you live in the biggest scam of all time… it’s good to learn to just roll with it
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u/Eastern_Anteater8824 2d ago
Not getting upset is great, but feeling nothing at all might mean you’re shutting everything out. It’s okay to care a little about wins and losses. Healify ai helped me reflect on stuff like this, super simple to use
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u/lordbrooklyn56 2d ago
Are you content or are you faking contentness cause it helps you cope better with failure and loss?
If we experience these devastating life events enough times our bodies will develop ways to survive these things. And faux-chillness over it is one of them
Like what else can go wrong amirite?
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u/SixFootTurkey_ 2d ago
It's scary to have hope.
If you resign yourself to total apathy then you aren't risking disappointment. Intuitively, we might think that this path is less painful, but it's really not.