Mourning/Loss I miss my cat
My wife doesn't love me. My cat that gave me comfort and love died, now I don't know what to live for. I am not suicidal, I am just heart break 💔
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u/Wooden-Department-78 1d ago
Sending you strength and love OP. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for giving them love. Cats are particular about who they give that to, so you must be good people. As long as we remember them and say their name, they are with us still. Stay strong and remember them. Better days are coming.
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u/BlackCatLifebruh 1d ago
I lost my Cat Kitty(she was a street cat so the name stuck) of 18 years two weeks ago.
I miss her Terribly! She was my soft warm place in this shitty “human” society. She always knew how to Help just by being there. She treated me like a Disney princess lol
I promised her I would take care of myself the way she taught me on the day she passed away. I’m trying. It’s hard. But I’m gona stick to it as best I can.
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u/Itsnotrealitsevil 1d ago
He wants you to be happy and to take care of your self the same way you took care of him all those years. You gave him such a good life, food, comfort, a home, fun, adventures, love, company, and now he wants you to have a life filled with that as well. We all must go one day, but I’m sure he wants you to enjoy and heal until you guys reunite one day.
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u/PinkDog42 1d ago
I miss mine too 😭 he passed a week and a half ago. It fucking sucks. This sub Reddit brings me some comfort 💕
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u/Poethegardencrow 1d ago
Hey man I am sorry about your marriage and cat, I hope things work out soon and that you guys manage to adopt/save another kitten in need ❤️
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u/kissmyrosyredass 1d ago
OP we care about you! It’s so hard to lose your fur baby. Your kitty was precious. Remember that the holidays are often depressing for people. I’m sorry your kitty has passed. 🐾💔🫂❤️🩹
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u/evisinementi 1d ago
I'm really sorry for your loss. I'm going through this myself now and I can't figure it out either. It hurts so much. You need to stay strong for your beloved friend. I hope it gets better with time.
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u/sdonnelly99 1d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your fur baby can be one of the most devastating losses you’ll ever experience because their love is 100% unconditional. I always adopted another pet after the loss of one, never to replace the one that passed, but because I realized early on that I needed an animal to take care of me. Also, there are too many homeless animals that need a loving home. It also provided me with a distraction from my overwhelming grief. But everyone is different and you do whatever feels right to you. Hugs and love to you during this rough time ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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u/ChakraKhan- 1d ago
I’m so sorry. It’s hard to lose our soulmates, especially on Holidays. I hope you keep positive thoughts in mind and carry on, as we do. Any thoughts of a new fuzzy love?
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u/Complex-Ferret-9406 1d ago
I feel bad for you. I lost Shadow just after labor day. I hope to get a new kitty soon.
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23h ago
Lost my first cat 2 years ago she was a senior but and we only had her for about 11 months, it sucks even got his day so I feel you and I’m sorry for your loss but hang in there, they’ll always be there with you even if you can’t see them, and adopting another cat help a bit to, my family did that and I honestly your kitty would happy to see you taking care and give a great life to another kitty
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u/Faaarkme 21h ago
We've had cats for decades. We've lost a few. It hurts every time. But having them around for 15-18 years is worth it.
When we say goodbye to one, we consider it an "opportunity" to give a great home to a cat that needs one. The new cat isn't a replacement, it's in addition to....
My current Best Furfriend Forver is nearly 16. About 5,000 days of love n joy. When you're ready get another cat. And love it..
This is how I see it..
Many of us discover an intensity of grief that was beyond our comprehension when we lose our feline BF.
They capture a piece of our heart. And it goes with them when we lose them.
Sometimes one comes along that captures you heart, mind and soul. And for whom you have a love that is indescribably deep, and totally inexplicable.
Yet we wouldn’t want it any other way.
That’s why it hurts so much. And if we had spent every minute of every day with them, it still wouldn’t have been enough.
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u/fluffypinktoebeans 1d ago
I am so sorry for your loss OP. Just know they never truly leave. I am sure she is watching over you and wants you to be happy. ❤️
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u/Ok-Dealer-6901 1d ago
So sorry for your loss. I hope with time you feel less pain. Please speak to someone. I hope it helps. Please keep us updated. I hope it gets better with each day.
Focus on yourself and only you. Take your time. I promise it gets better.
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u/Shorsha9346 1d ago
I can understand. I feel closer to my kitties than my husband. Lost two in the same year (2023) took time but I adopted two from a cat cafe in 2024. They can never replace, yet they give me new memories & love.
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u/drawzee927 1d ago
Awww its such a cute cat too! once you are ready and have grieved i suggest you get another kitty!
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u/friskycreamsicle 1d ago
I’m very sorry. Your kitty was beautiful.
You deserve to be with a person who loves you. If your wife doesn’t love you, why do you stay with her?
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u/Grimmisgod123 1d ago
You got this buddy. Try and have a merry Christmas. You’ll pull through. If you can, adopt another buddy.
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u/FL-GAhome 1d ago
I hope it brings you comfort that I rescued his stray brother from starvation last summer.
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u/Batgod629 1d ago
I'm very sorry for your loss 💔. This time of year especially I would have the same kind of feeling. The cat part, I'm not married so I can't help you about the other part
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u/AlternativePrior9559 1d ago
I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. I can see how loved and adored your beautiful cat was. Please hang in there. One day another little kitty may need you. My heart goes out to you♥️
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u/That_1Cookieguy 1d ago
If you ever feel down in life, remember, there are millions of blood cells in your body, caring for you and keeping you alive. May your kitty cat fly high🕊️
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u/ChaoticxSerenity 1d ago
I don't know what to live for.
Live for yourself by getting out of this loveless marriage, to start.
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u/L_Boogie827 1d ago
Losing a pet is the worst! I lost my fur baby in July and I felt completely broken… today was super hard! I hope and pray you feel better and your broken heart repairs itself soon!❤️🩹Sending happy and positive vibes your way!❤️
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u/Known-Philosophy-611 1d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. Cats have this unique way of making us feel understood and loved, and I know that grief can feel overwhelming when they're no longer around. Please remember to be kind to yourself through this tough time.
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u/Pre_internet_bot 22h ago
Lost Kiksuya and Slate. They'll never be replaced, but they taught me how to love cats. I wasn't a cat person. Akecheta, Pearl, and Shiva wouldn't know that, though. Each one is unique and each one teaches you how to love the next
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u/alrons19 21h ago
so sorry for your loss:( sending love and strength your way during this hard time.
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u/imtherealhamburgler 20h ago
I’m so sorry. What a beautiful cat :)
I lost my sweet baby about a month ago now, and my relationship is really being put through the wringer so I’m not getting the love or support I thought I would. I’m finding comfort in the mere fact that I even roamed the same planet as my cat, let alone got to love her so much for so long! I feel it was an honor, and I can live with that. But it also feels like instead of a heart I have arms there now that reach out endlessly to something I can’t grasp. I don’t know what I’m living for now either, but I do know if I keep going it will reveal itself in time. Wishing you peace and love.
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u/BarOk3289 17h ago
That's a good quality of soul, to be loyal reciprocating to someone's loyalty. It's ok to grieve. The cat lived a happy life loved and being cared about. Now the memories substitute the cat. Just consider that the memories are the very cat himself. Because now it's him, just in slightly changed outlook. The physical may disappear (it's a life) but the mental never does.
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u/BTCHLPS 1d ago
I miss my cat too and I’m here for you. I’m not and was never suicidal, but losing my two boys was the closest I ever got to understanding how some people become so. I’m a licensed therapist by the way. Hang in there and keep moving. Get another cat some day. You will find joy and love again.
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u/PlgPlyWrlRd 4h ago
Never the right way but adopt another cat and make it have the best life possible 🤗
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u/Consistent-Elk-2845 1d ago
I lost my friend lola a week ago its the saddest thing i lived in my life i hope it gets better my love