r/alcoholism • u/Sad_Example3600 • 22h ago
Am I being dramatic?
I feel as though I’m being dramatic with this whole thing, like I don’t know if I have a problem. When the thought creeps up that I do I dismiss it by saying I’m being dramatic. Things like sneaking shots when my wife isn’t looking, getting legitimately upset at myself that I’m mad when she says I shouldn’t be drinking, (never mad at her, just mad at myself for knowing she’s right), or lying to her about not drinking when I have been. Gotten pretty good at hiding it tbh. Any tips to break this alcohol thing? I dunno I think I just want to vent about it whether anyone reads it or not.
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u/Traditional-Feed-405 20h ago
tell your wife. i am a long term gf of a man who does this same thing. except i do catch him and i do notice. he’s in the exact same boat as you, it’s not insanely out of control yet but it’s clearly not okay and a problem. every single time i catch him sneaking a shot, having a beer in the shower, lying about how much or what he has drank i have a completely different response and feeling about it than if he were to just be honest about it. even start at being honest about “i’m craving a shot right now but i know i shouldn’t take one”. give her the opportunity to support you instead of feel betrayed by you. this is too close to home for me and i would do anything for my partner to stop lying to me about this.
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u/Sad_Example3600 10h ago
Thank you. It’s good to know the other side’s perspective. I’ve just got to work up the nerve to actually tell her. It feels embarrassing for whatever reason
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u/Verticalparachute 16h ago
I told myself I was being dramatic for a really long time. Then I told myself the constant pain and swelling in my abdomen was just me getting older. Then I was drinking in the morning. Then I was drinking to stop the shakes.
I stopped before it killed me. I ignored it for far too long. If you're asking yourself these questions, you know what to do. I had to go to detox, rehab and I go to AA.
Getting sober saved my life. I've been sober a year Jan 1. My marriage is so much better. My health is better. That's what I did and my only regret at all is that I didn't do it sooner. Good luck, friend.
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u/Sad_Example3600 10h ago
Thank you. I do know what I’ve got to do. It’s so easy but it’s not at the same time. I appreciate your insight
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u/aaaaallright 2h ago
It’s not a matter of being dramatic.
You might get to a point where you know it’s time to stop.
I stopped after a 3 day 24hr bender, all alone, lots of alcohol during a bad blizzard.
Trapped in my feelings and nearly suicidal.
I realized I wanted to live and be whole again, and I realized the drinking was stopping me from being able to deal with my feelings or even cope with the trauma I had accumulated.
I’m almost 30 days sober and things are looking the same with my life circumstances and my trauma hasn’t gone away.
However, things are clear now and as time goes on I have confidence that I’ll be able to heal and cope from the pain and resentments that are causing these resentments and trauma.
Giving up boozing to be whole again? Cheap price.
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u/Real_Sir8484 20h ago
It really doesn't matter if you fall into a certain category or consider yourself a person with AUD. That thought creeping in should tell you all you need to know. Get ahead of it before it gets ahead of you. Maybe that's taking a break, slowing down or going completely sober. No one's journey is the same