r/Wellthatsucks • u/GamerOfZero • 1d ago
Found my dad's dead body this morning NSFW
22m no idea what to do. He had a heartattack and died on the toilet.
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u/spare_willy 1d ago
That is awful, so sorry for your loss. Grief counseling is very helpful. Stay strong sir 🙏
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u/yushy99 1d ago
What have you done so far? Have you Google searched this? I’m sure there’s many resources online.
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u/GamerOfZero 1d ago
The sheriff said there's nothing I can do atm. I just have to wait. It pisses me off cause I want to do something.
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u/yushy99 1d ago
That’s just the stress and anxiety going through your mind. You feel like if you did something, it would ease your mind, but the only thing you need to do now is start processing everything. I would say in this specific scenario I would reach out to a therapist. Somebody that has good mental tools to deal with this. It’ll set you on a better path.
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u/Aromatic_Confusion56 1d ago
Hey, this is probably one of the toughest moments in your life, I just want you to know you're not alone here mate, I know these words sound cheap on an online forum but if you just need someone to listen to how you're feeling, I'm here for you, please don't lose yourself in the chaos alone.
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u/YellowOnline 1d ago
Contact a funeral home if you're at a loss. They know the drill and will inform you about all the subsequent steps.
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u/JessieColt 1d ago
I am very sorry for your loss.
If you are not sure where to start, you can see if there is a Death Doula in your area who can help.
They primarily help before a death, but in a shock situation like this, you may be able to find one who can help you with letting you know what your next steps should be and will help guide you through the funeral process, etc.
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u/Familiar-Range9014 16h ago
Condolences for your loss. I hope you have someone to help you through this sad time
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u/Ghostofdaveblunts 12h ago
I lost my dad at 9. That was 19 years ago. Im 28 now. I answered the door that morning and it was the Coroner. I grew up that day. Stay strong man. You’ll get through this. Suggestion I can give you is seek therapy. Don’t stuff these emotions down. It will be ok.
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u/SirITMan 4h ago
Sorry for your loss. I am sending loving and positive energy into the universe for you and your loved ones.
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u/WFH_Questions 19h ago
Do you have a second bathroom in the house? Like, what if you have to shit? Do you just have to wait? That’s crazy bro.
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u/12_3_seahawks_3_12 1d ago
Im currently staying with family for Christmas and my dad didn’t wake up the morning of Christmas Eve. Helping my mom wake him up only to realize that.. wasn’t possible.. was one of the hardest moments of my life. I’m so so sorry that you had to experience something like that too. Grief comes in waves and the stages cycle through faster than seems possible.
Even though doing anything feels wrong or disrespectful somehow, give yourself the grace to still do the things you need to do and the things that make you happy/give you comfort. You still have needs and can only be so strong.