Edit: before commenting- read the whole post if you can. I’m getting a handful of comments having questions about my perspective that I already answer in my (admittedly long ass) post. My conclusion is ultimately slightly evolved from the content of the post title itself- though I still stand by it.

For those who don’t know, in the U.S., a murder is primarily legally separated into two different categories- “Murder in the first degree”, and “Murder in the second degree”.

First degree murder generally means that the killing was premeditated, meaning it was planned a substantial amount of time before the actual killing occurred. Second degree murder means the opposite: it’s still an intentional killing, but the decision was made in the spur of the moment.

That’s a simplification, but that’s the general distinction.

The thinking is that a premeditated killing is more distinctly “evil”, as the killer has already weighed the morality of their decision and the consequences that come with it, but still chosen to kill. For this reason, first degree murder is usually considered the “more severe” crime, and thus receives harsher punishments and sentences.

While I understand this perspective, I feel like it misframes the base function of prisons: it’s a punishment, yes, but first and foremost it’s a way to remove malefactors from society.

The threat of prison as a punishment and as a deterrent from committing crimes is helpful. But first and foremost, prison is a way to remove harmful people from society, and separate them from the people they may harm. Or at least, that’s how it ought to be.

For this reason- I think second degree murder is generally worse. Someone who decides to take a human life in an emotional spur of the moment, decision is BY FAR a bigger danger to society at large than someone who planned out an intentional homicide. Victims of first degree murders are frequently people who already had a relationship with the offender. Victims of second degree murders can be anyone.

Now, obviously, homicide is a delicate subject and there are plenty of exceptions to the trend. A serial killer who meticulously plans the gruesome murder of an innocent stranger is certainly more evil than someone who hastily pulled a trigger during a routine drug deal gone wrong.

Most states even recognize “crimes of passion” as less severe- giving slight leeway towards people who were provoked into killing by an extreme emotional disturbance.

So I suppose my issue doesn’t inherently lie with which degree is necessarily worse, so much as I think that determining the severity of a homicide based around whether it was planned or not is a much less helpful metric than instead looking at the extent of how immoral the decision was.

But ultimately, a majority of the time, society at large is put much more at risk by someone who does a random, erratic act of violence than it is by someone who bumped off their spouse for insurance money. Is the latter more evil? Probably. But are they likely to re-offend and put me and you at risk? Not really.

Basically the title.

Why even do the work of changing every individual emoji to your skin color? It just conveys that there's some reason that you have to show people your ethnicity for no reason whatsoever. I'm not saying that there's absolutely never a reason to use it but I think it's highly context dependent.

And yeah I know that yellow is often associated with asian people but not the bright, yellow simpsons yellow.

Actually intrigued what y'all think.

EDIT: grammar

EDIT 2: Haha this discussion got heated. But I already assumed so.
So first things first, I made a bit of an oopsie with how I used the part 'seem more racist'.
So what I've read in the comments, basically what it boils down to is 'racial awareness' (which I don't really like because it implies the existence of different human races compared to ethnicity) vs. so called 'color-blindness'. When I wrote this post I assumed that color-blindness would be a better alternative to fighting racism than racial awareness since I thought not making a big deal about your ethnicity if not asked would be the way to go. However, this is not the case in real life where you can't hide your skin color with a nuclear yellow emoji. One user even said that they use their skin color in their emojis to deter racists which I never thought of but is a sad part of our current society.
All in all, after reading all your comments I'm much more inclined to agree with racial awareness since I think we should foster the reality that not all skin colors are the same while also establishing the 'color-blindness' part of not giving not too many thoughts about ethnicity. I know that this sounds extremely obvious now but sometimes you get a thought in the head you can't get out and you know that there are some things you don't consider. Talking with people to understand where you were coming short with that thought helped immensely and that's why I started this post.
Thank you everyone for taking your time and leaving a comment even if I offended you!

After getting off a plane flight with a lot of children, I've realized how annoying they are. It is especially annoying in places with etiquette such as planes. Therefore families with children should have to bring their birth certificate to show that they are above a certain age to places such as the airport, live theatres, movies, and fancy reseraunts. Families who have brought their children under those ages in the past to those places should also be fined for being inconsiderate, and banned from places or suspended from them if their children are still under the age limit. If these people who have children are able to afford a vacation or a fancy resteraunt reservation, then why can't they afford to get a babysitter? Most children under the age of 5 probably won't even remember these things anyways, so it's pointless to bring them to something fancy or new.

Edit: Hello everyone! My post blew up yesterday and I didn't really know what to expect... I was just angry from a flight I had just gotten off of. I'm fine if people call me an awful person or what not in the threads, but I really don't appreciate being told that I should die in my DMs. There was only one message, and I'm not going to expose the person or anything, I just don't want that to happen to anyone, especially people who might post on here with mental issues who might actually think that they would be better off dead.

She made more than a million dollars for herself from the pockets of idiots in a single day. Not a cent of that money was going to be spent in a meaningful way anyway, because again, it was in the hands of idiots. And more importantly, she knew her fame was in its last legs, so it was either doing something big while on top or be forgotten forever. Do I think the money is gonna last? Absolutely not, but that's a separate issue. You go girl!

Every time I hear somebody say "Deez Nutz" or mention their friend Candace, I cringe so hard and remind them how unfunny they're being. Not only do the jokes suck, but the people who make them are always such ignorant idiots. I absolutely despise it.

I say these people are ignorant because of the painfully obvious and offensive stigma surrounding these jokes.

This post is only about "Deez Nuts" jokes, but can apply to other jokes as well. If anyone at all feels victimized by the joke you're making, then don't make it - simple as that.

So yeah, I'm just annoyed by the negative stigma so many people seem to ignore when they make "Deez Nuts" jokes. If you don't notice the stigma or care enough to learn about it, then you're either ignorant or don't care about people.

I feel like most other crimes have scenarios in which they can be justified. someone might steal to survive, or might kill in self defense, but sex crimes have no explainable reason or justification other than to pleasure the offender.

Not only that, they also have a high recidivism rate and are likely to have assaulted multiple people. It's absolutely insane to me that over 50% of offenders convicted for using a drug have over 10 years in jail, but people like infamous rapist brock turner get to walk freely after just 6 months. not to mention CSA; anyone who sexually assaulted a child isn't fit to participate in society. it's totally wild that I can google multiple rapists living near me, and all of these people walk freely and live a normal life.

I think for most sex crimes, even some misdemeanors, people should get jail for life. they're a threat to others and shouldn't be reintegrated in society, with little to no exceptions.

I’ve seen over a dozen presentations start this way in my years working in the office and I laugh every time.

I feel like this further drives focus and engagement from the group and gets the presentation off to a good start.

"Yall" has a certain stigma attached to it, making people sound like uneducated rednecks. "Yous" on the other hand, is simply "you" with an S to make it plural, flows much more easily in conversation, and is much easier on the ears. "How are yous doing" is much more pleasant than "how are yall doing", which sticks out like a sore thumb.

Before I’m asked, no I’ve never cheated on anyone while drunk (never cheated period), and no I’ve never had a partner cheat on me while drunk. However, I have had a partner cheat while sober. It absolutely sucked. Knowing that she maliciously betrayed my trust was a horrifying feeling. Back to the topic at hand. Cheating while drunk isn’t malicious, or at least isn’t nearly as malicious as while sober. If someone can’t give consent while drunk, then any cheating shouldn’t count, even if it was with another drunk person. If it happens again while sober, then that’s cheating, but if it’s one time, while drunk, and then reported to the partner immediately, there’s not really any malice or betrayal going on.

I see people on this site say you shouldn't kink shame all the time, but to be honest I don't get why.

If you personally don't want to be kink shamed, keep your kinks to yourself. It's that easy. Advertising an aspect of yourself is inseparable from opening that aspect to the scrutiny of others.

If you broadcast your kinks to the public, people have just as much a right to shame you as they do to be supportive/indifferent.

Edit for clarity: Okay so I turned reply notifications off pretty early, wasn't expecting this many responses.

Obviously if the conversation is taking place in a place you'd expect to find that information, kink shaming might be in poor taste. I mean it still might be called for if the kink in question is outrageous or illegal or something, but I will concede that in the appropriate spaces this type of information isn't always inappropriate to share.

My point was simply that I, and I assume many others, would prefer to be able to browse the internet without knowing all the freak shit some people are into so long as we avoid sites that obviously would have that kind of content.

I want drinking alcohol to be banned again and wiped off the face of the planet. I think too many “adults” and stupid people act irresponsibly under its influence and ruin other peoples lives that it can’t be trusted to be in the hands of the public any longer. I don’t think it really brings much value to society and while I get that prohibition failed and that people are still going to get their hands on it somehow I can’t help feeling infuriated and wanting something to be done.

I kinda want drunk driving to be an automatic death penalty sentence but I don’t trust the government enough to actually want that.

Edit:I actually don’t want to do the death penalty I was just really angry when I originally wrote this.

Yes you’ve read that right. Gay porn is actually incredibly hilarious for someone who isn’t gay. For one, it subverts your expectations, as you don’t expect a big black dude to be acting feminine. Two, the reactions are always exaggerated which makes it look like they are in pain which is even funnier when you crop it and put false captions like “man reacts to father dying” when in reality its actually a gay porn star climaxing. This brings me to the third point, which is that if you’re not gay, you don’t find anything about it attractive, which allows you to observe unbiasedly whats left over after the appeal of sex is taken away. What you get is an awkward and aggressive experience. This also allows you to use empathy and put yourself in the place of the gay porn star, its like you can feel the energy of their actions, so when they get excited you get excited but just without any sexual attraction. Finally, watching gay porn is like watching societal expectations of man to be a stereotypical meat head who can do anything without complaining melt away. It’s an incredibly freeing and refreshing experience to see someone break free from societies expectations of them and be themselves unapologetically. “Thug” has a new meaning now on the internet which is a man who acts in sexual ways towards other men, like a gay gangster. These thugs are often some of the nicest and most genuine people ever, so seeing someone that pure can just make you laugh in relief that in society, there are still genuinely good people. Anytime I have a bad day I go home and watch some yesking or dreamybull and my stresses and worries melt away, as just for one moment in this busy and cruel world I can sit down and experience the silly shenanigans of gay porn.

It’s certainly not the worst thing to become a viral sensation but simply the fact this is what’s trending is factual evidence that we’re already living in the Idiocracy timeline.

It’s literally equivalent to “Ow My Balls!” being the most popular television show across the nation.

I sometimes see that some language with x number of speakers is endangered and will die out. People on those posts are acting as if this is some huge loss for whatever reason. They act as if a country "oppressing" people to speak the language of the country they live in is a bad thing. There is literally NO point to having 10 million different useless languages. The point of a language is to communicate with other people, imagine your parents raise you to speak a language, you grow up, and you realize that there is like 100k people who speak it. What a waste of time. Now with the internet being a thing, achieving a universal language is not beyond possibility. We should all aim to speak one world language, not crying about some obscure thing no one cares about.

Ever since I was a kid I've secretly enjoyed the smell of poop, farts, period blood, sweat/BO and pee (not just mine). This is not sexual or a fetish, I just find them to be pleasent scents like citrus or peppermint. Poop and period blood have this sweet smell to them that is subtle but pleasent. Pee and sweat, on the other hand, are musky and earthy. Sometimes I'll smell a fart that is almost like brownies or chocolate, even lavender.

These scents are insanely demonized and I have a few theories as to why. Firstly, human waste comes from places we deem "naughty", so the negative stigma transfers over. A prime example is period blood. Half the population sheds blood (I know it isn't pure blood) from their uterus most of their life, yet people think it's weird to openly talk about it just because that hole happens to be used for sex?? Don't even get me started on the fear of sex the media has, despite the fact we wouldn't exist without it.

My other theory is the prevelence of toilet humour in children's media teaches us young that bodily functions are weird and embarrasing. I myself was a victim of this, I would rarely go to the bathroom as a child because the TV shows I watched made me feel like peeing was not serious and embarassing instead of a normal part of daily life. I know that seems stupid but I have permanent damage to my bladder from my childhood habits. I like that there are some modern cartoons that normalize going to the bathroom and even wetting yourself (although, there's a point it becomes omorashi and hidden/subliminal fetish content, a whole other can of worms...). Another example is how literally everyone on Earth holds their farts in because for some reason it's not okay to fart. Holding in your farts is so painful (although mostly benign) and it's just so weird that we all do it.

I don't know where to put this idea but the way we choose our partners is somewhat based in scent, and things like deodorant and perfume mess with our natural pheramones. Now, I'm just as pro-deodorant and pro-showering as the next guy, but I don't lose my shit when someone in public isn't 100% scentless. We are living, breathing animals, that are covered in oil, microbes, and sweat 24/7.

This has been a really long rant that lowkey derailed but in conclusion, I feel like we've given bodily functions so much stigma to the point it no longer is a lesson to protect us from disease and instead limits our enjoyment of the natural scents we produce.

TL;DR: we live in a society and i like the smell of farts not sexually though

edit: Holy smokes I didn't realize how unpopular this opinion was lmao. This isn't bait I just genuinely like something considered bizarre by most people.

Whether it's fiction books, films, plays etc. I don't like it. It's not real.

Why would I read a book about things that didn't happen when I could read a book about things that did happen? 'Fictional stories can convey important life messages' lol okay. So can real stories. And real life history is probably a better indicator of what happens in real life.

As for films? Who even cares. Dragons and aliens and shit aren't real. Doesn't matter if you CGI them to make them look real - no matter how real they look, they're still fictional.

And don't even get me started on plays! Everyone's mannerisms and speech is so exaggerated; nobody behaves like this in real life. I just can't take it seriously.

I'm not tryna be elitist or anything, I know people enjoy fiction in spite of it being fictional, not because they think it's real. For whatever reason, fiction is just beyond me, and that really sucks!! People who like it clearly have so much fun with it, and the people who produce it are incredibly talented people. But I just cannot bring myself to enjoy it.

Such a pity.

The only parts of the body I'd consider INHERENTLY sexual are the genitals and ours are just out here for anyone to see even when not horny, balls dangling, dick swanging. With vaginas at most the labia might be visible but unless you're horny, spreading it or both there isn't much going on down there. You can have the smallest nuts and bolt in the world, pants off we'll still see em, but a naked female just standing there casually I won't see your clit I'm not seeing your canal and most certainly not your ovaries.

Sleeping naked should be the default sleeping attire. I have slept naked my entire life and growing up I am shocked at how rare it is. It’s not like people are going to see you while you’re asleep. It’s private time.

Sleeping naked lets my body regulate temperature, when I have a few times slept with a shirt of sweat pants on it twists up on me and just gets hot. I think it’s also allowed be to be more comfortable with my body. And I’m not a nudist or anything it’s just when I sleep.

A lot of people are in underwear, but like why. You’re already almost there just take the next step. people I’ve told also seem to think it’s like an exhibitionist thing and it’s risky. It’s just sleep. I get that there are people not comfortable with their bodies. And i understand that. But anything else I can not see the advantage of having clothes on when you sleep.

So, to start this off i would like to mention that I have inattentive type ADHD. I wasn’t diagnosed with it until i was almost out of high-school, which was about 2 years ago now.

Before I got diagnosed, I struggled to do any kind of homework. I had to do all of my work at school otherwise it wouldn’t get done. But the thing was, I was really good at getting it done at school, so my ADHD went undetected for ~16-17 years. So my parents took me to a doctor to get tested, lo and behold ADHD.

The reason the background is important is because how differently I was treated after I got diagnosed. My teachers lowered the bar for passing in my classes, which made me question my own ability to do my work. All the sudden, I was spoken to like I was being babied. Being called “Neurodivergent” made me feel like less of a person, and it felt like it undermined what I was actually capable of.

TLDR: Neurodivergent makes me question my own ability.

EDIT: Wrote this before work so I couldn’t mention one major thing; “Neurodivergent” is typically associated with autism, which is all well and good but i dislike the label being put onto me. I’m automatically put into a washing machine of mental health disorders and i find that the term “neurodivergent” is too unspecific and leads people to speculate about what I have. (That’s why i typically don’t mention ADHD anymore or neurodivergent) Neurodivergent is also incredibly reductive, meaning that I am reduced to that one trait, which feels incredibly dehumanizing. I’d prefer something more direct like “Person with ADHD” or “Person with blank”.

I always hear people talk about how they are gonna have friends over their house. That is a prime way to get robbed or extorted. Especially holding a party at your house.

Think about it, a bunch of good friends come to your house. They talk about your house to their friends and one of them robs you because your friend didn’t understand how scheming some people can be. Sure, that is the friends fault but I think people should take precautions against that .

Even having multiple friends at your house is a hazard. I’ve seen it happen too many times, your friend trusts the wrong person and all of a sudden your address is practically public knowledge.

Every time flossing is mentioned I swear to god some people think it’s just funny when they never floss.

I find it absolutely disgusting. It’s like not using deodorant.

It’s not like flossing is expensive. You can get 100 floss picks for a dollar. It takes 2 minutes.

You really live with gunk in your teeth that’s been there for days on end? So gross..

You should have a social credit score for your bathroom habits. You should have to attach your name to your conduct when shitting.

I'm tired of going into bathrooms for a casual poo to be greeted with the remnants of some troglodyte who decided to litter the ground with toilet paper. I'm tired of having to wipe piss off of toilet seats. I'm tired of miscreants creating poo cakes by layering tp on shit, more tp, more shit.

If someone walks into that restroom after you they can give you a star rating like Uber or something idk. Over time we will generate different star ratings for different bathrooms, and if you're consistently rated super low, you're only allowed to use your star rating and lower bathrooms.

You may say "but what about emergencies" well you shouldn't have made a mess you fucking walnut. You did this to yourself.

Bar codes are present on all US govt issues IDs, you can hop online and create an account with a user ID number and pin to be used when you don't have your ID on you. Parents are responsible for their children. I'm willing to pay any additional taxes to make this happen.

Ask any questions, I'll solve any theoretical problems and create my imaginary pooping utopia.

Tl;Dr Title. It is very common to hear people say that it's the tone of the other person they don't like, rather than the content of what they say. If you have had arguments like this and your main point about is that is how they said what they said, you are the one in the wrong. If you could criticise their content you would, but you can't. You probably weren't listening to what they were saying, you were just following the tonality and then responding. Tone is a subjective quality, the actual words a person used are not subjective. If you think that you are correct because of how they said it, you are wrong and you are the problem. You were always in the wrong. Since you cannot admit this to yourself, you are deciding to take issue with a subjective quality in the other person.

Tonality matters, but it is subjective. I have noticed people say this about arguments they have in a non-verbal format. In text, the tone is inferred by the reader. If you are upset about the tone of someone's writing, you are upset about the tone you have chosen to infer and not the tone they chose to write with. I have also noticed that people say this when the other person was not being rude or aggressive. I have been present for arguments between other people when one person has been very upset about the how person was talking to them. They were talking fine.

"It's not what they said, it's how they said it" is utter rubbish. You might as well say 'I was the asshole and now I want to complain about how much of an asshole I am'

And anyone insisting otherwise is incredibly toxic.

I'm a guy and sometimes I enjoy hooking up with other guys. I have zero attraction to the parts of them that are socially considered masculine, but I also don't have any disgust towards them either. I'm indifferent. To me it's just an easy way to get off.

If I ever mention this online I'm told I must be bisexual. Either I'm in denial or I'm experiencing internalized homophobia/biphobia. Maybe that's the case for some people, but personally I would be happy to identify as bisexual if I actually felt any attraction towards men. I just don't, and I don't like that I have to take on a label that doesn't align with how I genuinely feel.

I've also heard I could identify as heteroromantic bisexual, but I don't like this either. I don't find men sexually attractive. Stop forcing me take on a label when I don't have the internal experience or external struggle that LGBT people have to deal with. I don't experience that struggle, and I don't want to pretend like I do.

Not only they contribute very little or nothing for one's self growth as a person, but vacations mask the true purpose of travelling, which should be discovery and to challenge one's mental and physical resilience in unpredictable settings.

Rather than indulging in comfort, each trip should be treated as a survival exercise, where the objective is not to unwind but to confront and overcome the chaos that inevitably comes with new environments.

It can be a trek through a remote wilderness, devoid of modern conveniences, forces one to confront primal fears and develop survival skills, or a pilgrimage to a war-torn region, to challenges the mind to process unimaginable suffering and cultivate compassion and the appreciation of human resilience.