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u/MoneyCantBuyMeLove Aug 10 '15
My paternal grandfather treated my mum like dirt, as she was of a different race to him. He would only ever speak down to her. She was not allowed to attend family dinners (Xmas, reunions etc) which estranged my father from the family.
This continued for 25 years, and then he got Alzheimers.
He got so ill that he could not look after himself. My mother stepped up and became his full time carer, changing him when he shit his pants, feeding and nursing him, holding him in bed when he would cry, for hours at a time. I hope that during his final years he learned something.
I love my mum.
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Aug 10 '15
Your mom is a bigger person than I could ever hope to be
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u/MoneyCantBuyMeLove Aug 10 '15
I often think the same thing about myself, but as I age I am starting to understand her way of thinking. I guess some of her teachings have rubbed off on me or have been inherited in some way.
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u/cafeteriastyle Aug 10 '15
The only two concerts she has ever been to: Elvis when she was a teenager and the Eagles this month at age 70.
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u/WildFlowerChild19 Aug 10 '15
She had me so she could marry her much older boyfriend. She was a drunken slut that verged prostitution. She'd skip out on the opportunity to see her kids to do god knows what with a car full of junkies. She took my sister (as a baby) on her midnight adventures with her boyfriends. She was arrested 4 times and went to rehab twice. She was kicked out for f*cking other patients both times. She couldn't hold a job. She dropped out (to have me) and never went back. She died at 24 and I didn't get to go to the funeral.
Sorry if that's a lot of facts but I have all of that stuck inside me and it comes out sometimes...
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u/crazy_cat_broad Aug 10 '15
My mom put herself through computer college in the 90s with 2 kids and no child support. Now she makes a lot of fucking money, because she is awesome :)
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u/scubahana Aug 10 '15
My mum immigrated to Canada from Scotland in the early 80s where she met my dad. She would sit up at night watching thunderstorms on the front porch with my sister and I wrapped up in a blanket when we couldn't sleep.
She died in her sleep at 37 from a brain aneurysm when I was five and has always been my motivation to do things because you don't know when your time is up.
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u/VaderIsNotOP Aug 10 '15
The feels in this thread were unexpected. My mother died at 37 from an unknown cause.
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u/scubahana Aug 10 '15
I'm 29 so this happened a long time ago but there are other circumstances that have caused it to linger. I legally changed my name last year and took her name as one of my middle names; she's always with me.
I feel for you and can honestly say I know what you have been through (in a way).
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u/O_Shag_Hennessy Aug 10 '15
She has horrible dance moves, she knows this. I love her for not giving a hoot about the way she acts.
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Aug 10 '15
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u/O_Shag_Hennessy Aug 10 '15
Hahaha gotta love moments like that :) my mom low key does the stanky leg and doesn't even know it.
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u/zotrian Aug 10 '15
She is the bravest and most adaptable person I know. I've never seen a situation happen that my mum couldn't handle
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u/AbigailLilac Aug 10 '15
She lost 100 pounds in almost exactly 1 year. Even though she's a smaller size, she's still a huge bitch.
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u/Amanda_Huginkis Aug 13 '15
When my mom was about 9 she wrote a letter to president Kennedy and asked him to buy her a pony. He did not buy her a pony.
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u/DorianNewgang Aug 13 '15
Shit, that's rough.
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u/Amanda_Huginkis Aug 13 '15
She got over it. I'm sure he had lots of president stuff to do, otherwise he would have totally followed through with the pony.
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u/Kalafiorman Aug 10 '15
In 1981 my great grandfather who was suffering from Alzheimer's has slashed my mom's hand open through the muscle and to the bone with a knife when she was cooking him dinner, she then had to catch a ride to the town to get to the hospital, then they had to transport her to a special clinic on the other side of the country to get her nerves fixed as much as they could do. Now her ring finger and a pinkie don't work too well.
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u/tammytamtam Aug 10 '15
She is amazing. We don't always get along but I love her. Her birthday is this Saturday and I can't wait to take her to dinner and spend some time with her.
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u/athwartthelotus Aug 10 '15
My mom has 7 kids, birthed us all at home naturally. We grew up with her giving birth in the living room and homeschooling us. She taught us all to think for ourselves and work hard. We have a lot of fundamental differences, but she's a strong lady who taught us well!
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u/situatedinfluence Aug 09 '15
My mom was born deaf and collects disability.
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u/Iamtotallynotatwork Aug 09 '15
Hey! My mom is blind and collects disability! We should be friends!
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Aug 10 '15
She's a narcississt. She pampers and babies her sons and grandsons, and alienates her daughters and granddaughters. As a parent she's a piece of shit, and I wish I'd never met her
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u/pielover88888 Aug 11 '15
I hope you've seen /r/raisedbynarcissists
Good luck with living and stuff :)2
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u/MrDrumzOrz Aug 10 '15
While my dad, me, and my brother are all over 5'10", my mum is only about 5' tall.
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u/szp Aug 10 '15
My mother got run over by her own SUV that nobody was driving and only got bruises for it.
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u/damningcad Aug 10 '15
She required a skin graft when she cut her gum/frenulum (of the lower lip) with a Dorito. Not a shining moment for her.
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u/DorianNewgang Aug 10 '15
I cut my tongue on a lollipop once, can't imagine cutting your lip on a dorito.
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u/CoffeeAndSwords Oct 19 '15
My mom is the person I go to first for help. Not many fourteen year olds can say that.
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u/starsnot Oct 20 '15
my mom has two jobs right now, and is working incredibly hard to support us because my dad is unable to do so and his disability stuff is taking forever to get sorted out. i dont get to see her much recently, so i miss her a lot. shes an incredible woman and i hope i can be as amazing as she is one day.
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Aug 09 '15
My mom was pregnant six times but miscarried three times.
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u/manu_facere Aug 09 '15
Hm i wanted to share a pregnacy related fact as well so ill do it here, u/DorianNewgang .
My mom had somewhere between 14 and 20 abortions. If you add 4 of us that she gave birth to. Chances are that she was pregnant 20 times
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u/newlyenlightenedlady Aug 09 '15
Similar to mine, who was pregnant 9 times, miscarried 4, plus had a still born twin with my little brother.
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u/Identimental Sub Creator! Aug 09 '15
Although sources aren't required for this topic, please remember that the other rules (no jokes/opinions etc.) still apply. Thanks.
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u/10000noways Nov 02 '15
She is the most peaceful, centered person I've ever encountered. She is very grounded in her faith, and her radiant love makes me think there may be something valuable in religion after all. Although her calmness is probably a product of her daily meditation.
I never wanted to have kids because I knew I couldn't be as great a mom as she was to us, and now that I have a kid (in part to give her a grandkid, since none of my siblings did) both my partner and I worry we'll never be as great of grandparents as she is. She's too good, I tell you!! No one can live up to that!
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u/Aspergers1 Aug 12 '15
She's so fat she has her own event horizon!
She's so fat the earth orbits her.
She's so fat the only way she can loose weight is through hawking radiation.
She's so old she has to carbon date herself.
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u/ThatCakeIsDone Aug 09 '15 edited Aug 09 '15
I didn't know my mother's real name until she was arrested by the FBI when I was 11 years old and extradited from Texas back to her birthplace in Nova Scotia, on a count of parental child abduction.
She fled her abusive husband - my older brother's biological father - when my brother was 2 years old. She assumed a fake identity (that of her best friend) and started a new family in Texas. Life was turned upside down when she was uncovered.
Edit for clarity.