r/Meditation • u/Euphoric-Welder5889 • 1d ago
Sharing / Insight 💡 My life is just about meditation
Meditation is the only state where I feel whole and content without the constant neediness. I have identified in myself that there are so many longings for this and that, and there’s of cause the loneliness. Since I have taken so much time for turning inward and work on myself, most of my friends have fallen off. But it doesn’t matter. Anyways we come here alone, and we go alone. Dealing with the loneliness on this path has been one of the biggest challenges. There is really no way other than meditation to deal with loneliness. Because, even if you go out and have normal social interactions, that will not ever give you lasting fulfilment. It’s nice to have a good chat with a friend, but the neediness for social interaction is suffocating.
That’s why I spend pretty much all of my free time doing powerful yogic/meditative practices. I’m a big fan of the practice I have learnt in Sadh-guru’s programs. I spend hours everyday working on my mental balance with these practices that are truly hard work to do. The beautiful thing for me about following a specific guidance for what practices to do is that I see myself improving slowly but steadily. When I sit to do the practices it is hard work, but every time I come to place of being meditative. When I feel meditative, the longing and loneliness just sits there in the background. No need to do anything about it. It is just my compulsions. I just sit in the blissfulness that these practices generate for me and I feel okay no matter what.
For me, meditation is the only way. What about you?
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u/chuckbeefcake 1d ago
You've left something behind, then, if so many peeled off.
I don't know your situation, but friends peeled away from me when I stopped drinking. Leaving them behind was an unexpected consequence of leaving booze behind.
I don't know what you've left behind.
But if it was the whole basis of those friendships, and if it was worth leaving behind, then those friends are also worth leaving behind.
Power to you.
In time, they'll find their way too. But you can't wait for them.
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u/Euphoric-Welder5889 1d ago
Drinking was also part of the reason for me. I stopped drinking, and so I kind of stopped being invited to those things.
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u/Throwupaccount1313 1d ago
I live completely alone, with my children scattered around the globe, and it doesn't bother me. I made sure my kids were aware and fully educated, and then released them, to create more intelligence and harmony in the world. I meditate every day, for over 50 years, to create more harmony and intelligence as well, because we all place our energy into the collective, to make things either better or worse. To withdraw our energy by meditating, is a powerful way to reduce the collective Karma on this planet, and heals us at the same time.
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u/zafrogzen 1d ago
One of the advantages of sitting with a group, like at a zen center or temple, is the interaction with others, even in silence. There's a unique intimacy practicing zazen (meditation) with other people. It's not always comfortable. Sometimes it's like a bunch of rough stones thrown in a tumbler to rub together until smooth. The problem with the internet is that one can learn techniques, but the human, face to face, contact is missing.
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u/Euphoric-Welder5889 1d ago
It’s hard to live anywhere without the social interaction though, isn’t it?
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u/loneuniverse 1d ago
What you’ve actually left behind is your social interaction with those who haven’t yet levelled up to meet you where you are (I’m speaking metaphorically here). It’s good that you’re moving up the self-realized level so to speak. And there are others on this level with whom you can see eye to eye (they are rare, but they are out there).
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u/Euphoric-Welder5889 1d ago
This is kind of what I have also discovered. Some people are still there and those I relate to in a different way 🙏
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u/Ok_Landscape9564 1d ago
Meditativeness is not concentration but freeing our mind from all shackles. Liberation to the highest level to achieve the greatest possibilities with conscious awareness.
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u/Mobile-Corner9326 1d ago
Ever since I started meditating being alone or surrounded by people no longer affects me. I feel at peace either way.
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u/Dense-Bottle4345 21h ago
Sounds like you are wasting your time chasing another form of illusion, get out and live your life. What you are doing is called spiritual bypassing.
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u/Meditativetrain 1d ago
For me it's the exact opposite. What I discover in mediation manifests itself outside the practise making me enjoy the company of fellow man immensely. It's actually been the best Christmas from a social perspective in 40 years for me and I'm deeply grateful. Singularly due to meditation. It helped me rediscover me so to speak, and stand proud and humble at the same time among others. I don't judge but seek to understand.