sometimes writing makes me feel worse

[u/7aegi]

today i wrote about yesterday, when my father and grandma said upsetting things to me, because i was looking to complain. i didn’t think i would still be emotional about it. but after writing this entry in the early afternoon, the subject was the only thing i could think about all day … :-(

i cried while writing this and it’s rare that i cry when i write even about the most upsetting things but sometimes i’m just reminded of it as i sit there and write. has this happened to anyone else?:-( or maybe i am just 16 and will of course be too emotional. i love writing in my diary but sometimes i feel like it makes me more upset.

[u/VelmaRouge]

I get that feeling but I'd rather feel bad while letting it all out instead of feeling bad as I bottle all those thoughts in my mind. It will feel raw and emotionally charged, as it's supposed to. Much like crying, once you put it out there, it'll feel cathartic.

[u/7aegi → u/VelmaRouge]

oh you are right. crying is exhausting to me, but i think that’s how it should feel. it’s meant to feel that way since you are letting out your emotions, and it doesn’t have to be a bad thing … thank you

[u/GarlicBreadnomnomnom]

Some things will upset you for longer, and that's normal. I hope it gets better soon! <3

[u/7aegi → u/[deleted]]

how do you mean?

[u/7aegi → u/[deleted]]

i guess you could say so, i like watching the pen move.:-)

[u/vivahermione]

It's OK to feel worse. Difficult emotions are coming to the surface. Journaling is how we release them. As a follow-up, you could write, "I still feel X about Y situation because Z." If you're feeling solution-oriented, you could try brainstorming 1-3 coping actions. Maybe talk to a friend if you can?

[u/Abcanniness]

All of us get into disagreements with our family members. And the arguments can be unfair too, on both sides. That does not negate how you feel about it though. Of course it would be hurtful and you'd be upset about it. Feeling emotional is not a negative. For me personally, I tend not to write about what's upsetting me when I'm still feeling raw over it. I wait a little while, enough to emotionally distance myself from the situation, before I write about it in my journal. It helps to think it through that way. Maybe that might work for you? Also, your handwriting looks lovely.

[u/7aegi → u/[deleted]]

i was upset so of course it would be.?