r/ILoveAMamasBoy • u/catsmeow999 • 26d ago
opinion Watching this show is making me realize I was insane for dating a mama’s boy
Long story short, I dated a guy with an absolutely psycho mom for over 2 years. Watching this show I’m wondering why won’t these women just leave, and realizing that was me! The enmeshment is insane. I can’t tell if I’m reliving the trauma or healing from it but I can’t stop watching.
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u/_taromoon 26d ago
My husbands mom is like those moms on the show (probably worse) and deeply mentally/emotionally unwell. We haven’t spoken to his mom or dad in over 2 years, completely cut contact bc she wanted to be treated as her son’s wife. It’s literal incest.
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u/NipplelessWoman 25d ago
I watch the show with my husband who was a momma’s boy when we first started dating. It’s really opened his eyes a bit to what it was like in the beginning of our relationship when his mom was still in our lives.
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u/SupremeIngrid 26d ago
I also was with a mammas boy, but I let his mother know that she can't control me and her son, and that made hell on earth! But she learned from it and changed. But it gave me anxiety and depression, before she changed. I got a child with her son and she acted like she was the mother! She was going to do all the baby shopping, I said that we can do it together, but no she wanted to do it without us! When we had bought a stroller without her, she got so angry!! Yelled and her husband was so suprised, lol, I was too. She told her family that we where going to name the baby up after her, no we diden't!
When our son was a newborn, she would quickly take him out of our arms and run to the other side of the room, making him cry! Since he diden't stop crying each time she did this, and she refsued to give him back, we had to force him out of her arms. She was so crazy!!! And of course our son got scared of her, he was scared for like 1 year. He would scream when he saw her. We had to make sure that she could not take him, we would let her hold him but carefully, and he would cry. Since she was so mean with him in the beginning.
The year he turned 5 years old I moved from his father. But not because of his mother, she had really changed. But she is still a bit annoying, so I'm glad I don't have to visist her a lot lol.
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u/PastoralPumpkins 26d ago
I had a rule in my head that I would never, under ANY circumstances have a baby with the mama’s boy I was with until his mom was dead. We broke up before then and he had a baby with someone else. Poor kid, I would rather be childless forever than have her as my child’s grandma.
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u/SupremeIngrid 26d ago
This story is so long. She wanted to move in with us when I got pregnant, I'm so glad that her son said no. I would have moved out if she moved in 🤣
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u/taylor839402 25d ago
The Massachusetts family/Tina - even if scripted, is not unrealistic for a lot of family dynamics in the Boston area. I know from experience haha, 😑.
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u/HomeworkMaleficent22 23d ago
Soooooo fake
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u/taylor839402 22d ago
Yeah, the show, not my experience lol. Most reality shows tend to film any warm bodies they can get to sign the contracts, then weave a storyline out of whatever content they capture. At least that’s what I’m told from friends who work in that part of the industry.
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u/gb2ab 23d ago
watching this show made me extremely grateful that my husband greatly dislikes his mom and sees thru all of her bullshit. he was pretty much raised by his dad and grandparents.
i know people say you should pick a man based off how he treats his mother. but this guy is the exception. he's an angel to me, our daughter and his grandma when she was still alive. hates his mom with every particle in his body. i always was #1 and always will be #1 to him.
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u/HomeworkMaleficent22 23d ago
Question???? Thanks for input… But I realllly feel it’s all scripted for their personal gain of fame and easy money… Thoughts
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u/PastoralPumpkins 26d ago
Me too!!!! I spent TEN YEARS with that man. His mother lived 9 blocks away and he refused to move farther away from that. He KNEW that his mother was the reason all of his other relationships ended.
I think if she had lived with us, I would have left wayyyy earlier. Usually someone’s reason to stay is pretty nuanced and not just black and white, which is why I understand the women on this show not leaving. To make matters worse, right after we broke up, he moved like an hour away from her. After we broke up he said he finally understood that his family shouldn’t be so involved. Are you kidding me???? I spent ten years begging for this woman to be kept at a distance and once I leave you decide to keep her at a distance?
I heard she was depressed at his wedding and said she had nothing to smile about. Good! I hope she’s just as miserable as she made me for all those years! I actually completely understand Emily and had a few freak outs myself. She was pushed to her limit by Shekab and his mom and she was literally going insane having to deal with these idiots. I felt the same way!