I've decided to stopped any further interaction with my father

[u/TheAkwardOne90]

I have given ample amount of time for my dad to change, more than 10 years he has become a selfish, self center, sick in the head guy.

When I was 7, my father asked me to pick sides between him and my mom because he wants a divorce

When I was 16, my grandma passed away. My father scammed the cheque from my grandma that won from a court case. and spend all the money by himself. That was her funeral money.

During my time of 10 - 17 years old, he never gave a damn about me, all my spending, my meals all are covered by my mom. He never gave a single dime to us. Time to time he will throw things and screamed at us. Then after a while came and apologize and ask us to understand he is stressed at work

When I saw 18, I went to University. Something happened to my mom I can't meet her for a year, my father gave me 50 dollars (convert from my country's currency) to survive for the whole month. I said it's not enough, he ask me to stayed and home and never go out so there is no extra spending. He is earning very well during that time. So i had to work part time

I graduated with First Degree Honours and got best student award, he went and boast if weren't for him, I wouldn't ended this well. In fact is I do all the work, I study almost everyday even during holidays. Him? Every single day he never cared about what I'm doing. My mom? She prepare meals and prepared tea for me during night time study. Making sure I'm okay

After graduation, I need a job. I asked for his help, he keep on telling how he struggled to find jobs that he had to work hard in the past and how he has "made it" now. I snapped and say I had enough of him boasting. We were on the way celebrating my moms birthday, he threw the menu in the restaurant, waited outside, called my mom, and screamed:" WHAT TIME YOU WANNA GO HOME!", "GO HOME NOW!!!!". In the public btw

I tried, and tried and tried to believe that he will change, even after 7 years. He always acted like he is the victim because I am making my own money now, I don't need him anymore and I never need him at the first place. He even tried to call me for a chat when I'm working because he feels like it, and when I rejected he says I'm a bad son. Got penalize by the company because it's during service hours. He always asked me, do I hate him? He hopes I can tolerate him.

Everything came to shambles during Christmas night. We were chilling outside, he went and start a fight with our neighbours, I tried to push him away but he keep on provoking the neighbours and saying racist slurs. We escalated the situation and the neighbours apologized to us, he ran out from the house and screamed "FUCK YOU, FUCK YOU". So I did the unexpected, I punched him. We stopped talking, as usual he wanted to apologize and hope I understands him. I blocked him and told him if he ever tried to disturb me, I will move out with my mom and I will sell the house. He will have to find other place to stay.

I don't regret doing all that, it felt good to be honest.

Edit: After ranting here, I felt even better. Finally it's getting off my chest

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[u/rcplateausigma]

Great job standing up for yourself and your mom. She sounds like a great person and so do you. Never let your dad drag you down again.

[u/Valuable-Chip-8001]

Just sell the house & move out with your mom. He’s definitely never been a good father to you.

[u/Mimbletonian]

Hold up. You graduated with honors, but needed to ask your father for help finding a job?