r/Bolehland Nov 22 '24

Original Content Parents still not talking

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Just a rant.

As context: I'm a Chinese guy who married a Malay wife. My parents disowned me three years ago but my wife still ask me to make an effort to visit them.

We took both our babies and ringed their house.

No answer.

Made a telephone call.

No answer.

Left WhatsApp and SMS.

No reply.

I told my wife, let's go back to our hotel because I need to work tomorrow. She looked kind of disappointment but that's the reality.

I'm typing this while waiting to meet with the customer for my work.

r/Bolehland Oct 28 '24

Original Content Why is so hard to feel happy?

717 Upvotes

29M, malay, single. I wake up, go to work, go to the gym, hang out with friends, visit my mum at hometown 500km apart, and yet I dont feel happy. Watch movies, eat, play my favourite game, swimming, going for a hike, and gardening and yet still feel unhappy.

I see that as pleasure that comes and go, a dopamine hit. That feeling of pleasure is not for long. Happiness is fleeting. Feels like life is a sort of constant suffering.

I dont feel like ending my life or anything suicidal. But I just feel that life is meaningless. I dont get to understand the true meaning of happiness. People advised me to get married. I feel too scared about the idea.

I see and hear many unsuccessful marriages, end up with cheating wife, controlling wife, wife who wants to separate you and your family, manipulative wife. I think that's crazy. Some even from my inner circle.

Some advised me to earn money, and I used to be in that stage where I earned a lot from my past business in healthcare and have 200k + in my savings. Now Im working again because business was too giving me anxiety to manage and expecting uncertainty.

Before this, I thought happiness is when you have more money, though having 200k++ in my bank doesn't make me feel happy either, I know there is some sort of security, but not happiness. I still feel anxious with having money.

I feel scared of not knowing how to make more money or feeling scared of losing money. The thought of that amount sitting there just gives me a sleepless night.

Im trying to develop a guava juice business tepi jalan at the moment just for fun while experimenting how far I can go in this new field.

I know that joy when you eat something nice, watch great movies, or love someone who loves you back, or loving cat, having cat to purr on top of your chest while you sleep.

That is just temporary, I long for that when those arent there. Attachement makes me worry, and I dont see that as happiness, and because of that, I feel sad.

I tried joining 3 NGOs. MRA, MERCY, PPPKAM. Helping people, doing charity. Yet when I got back home, I feel meaningless. Almost near to a Nihilistc view of world.

Not to mentioned involved in some dramas in the NGO which causing me to be more sad. I constantly hit with an existential crisis now and then.

I read about gratitude journalling, I tried doing it, I feel nothing. I feel it's pretentious and pointless. I did meditation, yet it feels relaxing but not happy.

Solat and be close to my religion, joined tabligh for 3 days multiple times, did a lot of understanding and studying, taking notes, be friend with asatizahs, attending islamic class, to a point where I got involved in a lot of debate and yet still feel hopeless and unhappy. To my Muslim friend, dont worry, I wont budge into thinking of being murtad or whatnot.

I just want to feel happy. I posted something in Facebook about how to become happy, how to achieve happiness, received many reactions and engagement and yet I feel that it is so pretentious and here I am, writing about not feeling happy.

Dear my redittors friend. What is true happiness, how is it to feel genuinely happy. Some of you can relate to this situation?

For some context, I never do drugs, weeds, ketum, or anything liquid. I only vape and shisha. I dont smoke. I dont drink. Im applying for my Masters and trying to apply to work abroad. Thanks for your empathetic comment. Hope we can resonate somehow.

r/Bolehland Sep 17 '24

Original Content Long Talk With Stranger Uncle

1.7k Upvotes

For context, I'm a Chinese guy who married a Malay woman.

So during Malaysia Day, I took my wife and we're walking around the mall. I felt "kaki lenguh" so I sat in a chair while the wife went window shopping for her clothes.

One Chinese uncle saw this and he asked me if this Malay woman is my wife. I told him yes.

His eye widen: "Wah you damn brave!"

I asked why.

He said 30 years ago he fell in with a Malay girl too but his parents hated her. His parents then introduced him to this woman but they got separated after a year of marriage and never got into a relationship ever since.

He then proceed to ask if I converted, if my parents okay with it and if I have already sunat. I told him yes for all and he said the only regret he has was that he didn't stand up to his parents.

"She was the one that probably made me happy"

I asked if he kept tabs on the ex girlfriend. He said yes, and she married to a factory worker now and lamenting how he could have given her a better life.

I said it's all Allah's will. Probably this is the path he need to undertake before he finds his salvation.

And I can't believe what happened next. He cried. I have him a tissue paper and he thanked me for a talk and then said he gotta go.

He left in a Grab car and that was it. I felt bad. I hope I didn't change his day from okay to bad.

r/Bolehland Jan 30 '24

Original Content [REUPLOADED] I'm a substitute teacher and this is what I graded for Form 1 student on "Sejarah" Exam

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1.8k Upvotes

I dare you to tell me what the final pic is saying

Reuploaded because the previous post have the school name in it, if you already saved and shared, please removed the school name

Sorry for the inconvenience, and I hope you understand that I don't want anyone to viral the school

r/Bolehland Nov 10 '24

Original Content Guys, is this usable and all?

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1.2k Upvotes

Found this when i was searching the attic. Worth anything?

r/Bolehland Oct 29 '24

Original Content Why don't we ever see men wear trench coats like these, they look badass and make you look cool.

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478 Upvotes

Just a thought, I just love their looks and they make you feel like wearing a main character outfit.

r/Bolehland Dec 30 '23

Original Content We did it guys

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2.0k Upvotes

r/Bolehland Sep 29 '24

Original Content I went to the burger stall ishowspeed went to

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1.5k Upvotes

r/Bolehland Nov 25 '24

Original Content In a Dying Mall

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916 Upvotes

Went to an old mall on a whim one weekend. Saw a hobby store on one of the empty floors. I think there's 5 floors but only the Ground and 1st floor is operating but the rest is dark and dimly lit like some kind of backrooms vibes idk.

r/Bolehland Oct 20 '24

Original Content I come from the future

659 Upvotes

It is the year 2222, Malaysia just ratified a ceasefire agreement with Indonesia after a 10 year war which started over an argument on which country invented Batik and Nasi Lemak. Luckily, there wasn't much casualties as most people had bunkers to live in.

Our population is now 80% bumiputera and 19% foreign workers and 1% rich white expats. There are no longer any chines left in the country as China had a population decline and offered very good incentives for people to return(10million China Credits, free Huawei model 2220s cyberTANKS, free Mixue Floating Bangalow, and free Xiaomi Android Bots). No more amois. T_T

An election is happening this year, the leading politician is called 'Malaysian Trump' after the historical president of the USA for his media savvy and populist statements. He is still shouting the same slogans as the year 2005, waving a keris around and shouting 'ketuanan melayu'.

However, DAP no longer exists so he is compelled to blame all the Cs who have baliked China. The meme of the day is 'Semua salah CCP'. Any of the Cs descendants who complains from overseas are asked by internet warriors(its a full time job now) to 'Balik Malaysia, lawan dgn kami'.

Nobody remembers ever having Indians in the country. It's a very interesting form of collective amnesia that is currently being studied by Harvard University. However, they are doing well after being absorbed back into SuperIndia (India made peace with Bangladesh and Pakistan and combined to form an empire).

Malaysia is doing OK, we are behind SG, Thailand, Indonesia, Vietnam and Cambodia but doing better than everyone else in SEA. We are also the country with the first trillioniare family, after the great-great-great-great-great grand son of Tun M married the greatx5 grand daughter of Taib M and the greatx5 grand daughter of Jho Low (3 way marriage, its a future thing) and combined assets.

All in all, not too bad. Feel free to ask any questions about the future. :)

Edit: ALL THE PEOPLE DOWNVOTING ME BECAUSE NO MORE AMOIS IN MALAYSIA IN THE YEAR 2222.

IT'S NOT MY FAULT. I JUST SAYING IT AS IT IS.

r/Bolehland Jun 30 '24

Original Content I don't have a setup so rate my study table

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945 Upvotes

The big grid paper is there to make sure my drawing paper won't get dirty and table looks like that because I've done so many art-related works on it in the past.

r/Bolehland 23d ago

Original Content Malaysia isn't perfect but I'm so lucky we have bidets

714 Upvotes

Context : I've been to a few countries on the west side and the east side of the world

To be honest, having a bidet is a big game changer in terms of post pupu operations.

Wiping your exit hole with something as fragile as toilet paper isn't the cleanest.

And whenever you're in a county that doesn't do bidet. I'd like to ruin your perception by saying everyone you know there, every hand you shake. Every cute girl you meet or handsome guy you talk to.

Has a little pupu in their bum hole.

Thanks. Have a great day.

r/Bolehland Aug 04 '24

Original Content Who was the Youtubers of your childhood?

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533 Upvotes

This is mine during peak 2010s era.

r/Bolehland Oct 29 '24

Original Content Guys, am I cooked?

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436 Upvotes

The games I play on mobile and pc.

r/Bolehland 6d ago

Original Content Thinking about ending my marriage

376 Upvotes

Wife was always mad, moody at me for no apparent reason. More obvious ,after she gave birth to our daughter last month. Im doing everything i can, i cook everyday, i clean, i take care of kid but if somehow i do one thing wrong (didnt wash the clothes properly, didn't put the towel properly,she will start to freak out. Example of things that she do or said during one of her episode is like saying she want to die, saying just kill her, saying why she still alive. Im tired, never i have ever hit her or raise my voice blatantly to her . Thinking about divorce but also thinking about my daughter hmm.

r/Bolehland 26d ago

Original Content They took off the women-only stickers on the floor for LRT Sri Petaling

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394 Upvotes

It was still here yesterday when I came back from work. They senyap2 lekat and senyap2 tanggal huh

r/Bolehland Aug 02 '24

Original Content Guys, how tall are you? Girls can answer too if you want.

327 Upvotes

Just curious. I'm 168cm and I'm 19. Most of my schoolmates are taller than me.

Salam Jumaat btw.

r/Bolehland Nov 06 '24

Original Content Do men really not wash their pp with water after they pee

252 Upvotes

Ok so little bit of context here - I saw my bf pee and he didnt wash his d and just wore his pants. I called him out and he said it’s normal for guys. I argued with him and said i dont think so. Even got bit racist by saying i dont think people from my race would do that they’ll def wash with water. He was like damn mama why u being racist here. The thing is his D is clean without any unpleasant scent or whatsoever, so thats why i never suspected this. BUT STILL. Tell me is this really normal for dudes not to wash their pp with water after they pee??

Edit: lol people asking if i wash my cooch after i pee. YES. Water first then wipe with tissue so it’s all dry and clean. My point is, i’ll do whatever i can to make sure my cooch is clean and dry, and smells like nothing. No one likes em fishy. I won't pee if there's no bidet AND tissue.

2nd edit: higher chance to get dick cheese, no? Since most of yall are uncut :( Malaysia is a warm country too. and what if we wanna give surprise BJ and it smells and tastes like pee

3rd edit : Tbh before this post I didn't know Malaysians actually use the urinals. I thought it's just for formalities (It being a male toilet) and u guys would prefer to use the stalls with bidet since it's more private. I was wrong.

r/Bolehland Sep 12 '24

Original Content ternampak ni kat pintu restoran aba nenda ni

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641 Upvotes

r/Bolehland Apr 09 '24

Original Content Bro tried to hook me up

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997 Upvotes

r/Bolehland Nov 07 '24

Original Content What's your food that you won't get bored eating daily?

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451 Upvotes

I will start first. This is dried chilli Pan Mee. This is what i will eat if I don't know what to eat or just hungry in general. Can eat it for a week straight but its a bit on the expensive side so i can't do that 😂. What are bolelanders choice? Just curious hehe.

r/Bolehland 7d ago

Original Content Wife sad because she was called makcik

469 Upvotes

Me (31m) and wife (29f) were doing our groceries when a kid on his mother's arm dropped a toy. My wife picked up and give it back to him and he said "Terima kasih, makcik"

The mother and kid smiled and walked away.

Wife was shocked because she expects to be called makcik when she's 40+.

I couldn't stand my laughter.

r/Bolehland Mar 06 '24

Original Content Good haircut ain't cheap katanya

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1.1k Upvotes

r/Bolehland Aug 15 '24

Original Content What are some Western Franchises that you guys want in Malaysia?

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370 Upvotes

Honestly, I always wanted a Costco in Malaysia. I gotta understand the hype of their things likes their food etc.

r/Bolehland Dec 09 '23

Original Content Literally racist

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876 Upvotes