Help my father with rent

[u/kirakina]

Hello, I'm Kira, I am 32 years old and I am diagnosed as autistic with ptsd and depression. I am applying for disability and I've done everything in my power to not have to post something like this but here we go....

Does anyone have any way of helping me.

I have 7 years experience dog training and a few years veterinary. I've also worked in Healthcare as a Phlebotomist for several years. I've just fallen on severely hard times after my dad was almost killed last year by a hit and run driver, were all severely experiencing financial hardship and we've even tried go fund me and my sister put up a fundraiser in her community but people seem to think they're fake or promise to donate and dont. I can provide info about this if anyone is interested but he spent a month in icu at harborview in seattle, a month in rehabilitation, and another 5 months recovering at home. During this time my mother left my dad, took everything, forced him to sell the house of which he got just enough to get an rv and help me get one as well. We were homeless basically for a few months before moving to a vfw park but they got shut down and we just bairly missed being homeless again when a friend was kind enough to rent out space to us on her farm (800 rent) and we've struggled and half starved but we're not homeless atleast.

Now we're about to lose our phones due to a issue with my father's bank and I'm scrambling to help.

Anyone who knows me and my father knows we will give the shirt off our back to help those who need it and it has come back to bite us several times but we keep helping. I believe in being kind to everyone and I learned this from my father.

Right now I'm doing everything I can, I can bake cookies, make some simple scarves, hats, and small drawstring bags. I can walk dogs and do basic baths and grooming in home, I can do cat nails, I can work with basic training for dogs (I was certified through akc and can get my trainer ID if needed).

Right now I'm job searching but each job I've applied for I'm either over or under qualified. I've applied for almost 250 jobs and had 5 call backs... I'm supporting myself and my pets and my father and his pets. The food banks are running low on food and the pet food banks have shut down that I went to. My gas tank takes $50 to fill and can get me several days of doordash. My dad's rent is 800 and if I coukd get that partially covered for him I would cry.

Thank you so much for reading this, I never thought I would be someone to post this but here I am...

I do wish everyone a wonderful holiday season!

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[u/Royal_Tough_9927]

If the hit and run driver was identified, there should be a case against them. Sometimes states have victim funds too. You need to speak with a personal injury attorney if you havent got one.

[u/kirakina → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

Nope never identified, we were lucky that someone came along the remote road he was on in time to help hom

[u/Royal_Tough_9927 → u/kirakina]

So like most financial woes , you have to have money coming in. Its best to spend less than you bring in. Make a budget. Pay bills in order of importance. Make use of any and all resources. Food banks , utility assistance and foodstamps. Get free government phones. Get anything offered by charities or churches. Donating plasma can bring in good money. I dumpster dive. If you are ever near a Dollar General or Aldis . just peek in. You might be surprised. I never pass by any dumpster thats open and available without looking in. Im not wasting my gas money. You can pm me if you would like to discuss the hobby more.

[u/kirakina → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

I dive as well. It's been helpful but the places nearby are not great for it. We've been trying to bring in any and all money

[u/Short-Ad2054]

Have you ever considered dogsitting thru the Rover app? It took me a few years to build regulars, but I earned crazy money once I set my house up for hosting pups.

[u/Snapdragon_4U → u/Short-Ad2054]

I second this because I know what I pay my Rover sitter and she’s very often booked solid. She watches my pets in my home but she also boards at her own home.

[u/Legitimate-March9792]

The Government Lifeline program can save you just over $9 a month towards either your cell phone or internet bill. One per family. For inexpensive cell phone, I use Tracfone. I pay $9.99 a month for a basic phone plan and their phones are pretty inexpensive. They use Verizon cell towers so the service is good. There are no other inexpensive companies as well.

[u/Royal_Tough_9927]

You need to take advantage of all the free services you can get. Including a free government phone. Living all together will help too.

[u/kirakina → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

We live together as much as we can but with my pets and his it's too many.

[u/Royal_Tough_9927 → u/kirakina]

Those are hard choices.

[u/Royal_Tough_9927]

Sweetie , your issues are complicated. Way out of my league. Try calling around to some local lawyers and see if one will talk to you over the phone. You also might try social services and find out about the elderly services. Sounds like he might have a lien against him. Call social security too.

[u/kirakina → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

I'm gonna try. I just don't want him phoneless this month... I can't even cover my rent right now but if I get the money I'm covering his first. I'm young I'll survive but he doesn't need to be homeless. My dad been though so freaking much he deserves a home.

My mom went psycho on all of us 3 almost 4 years ago left us and took him for everything because he was so heart broken he let her have it. Then once he was in the hospital forced the sale of the house and gave him next to nothing from it.

She doesn't talk to me at all no matter what I try. I miss my mom but I'm starting to understand how abusive she was to us.

[u/Royal_Tough_9927]

Your father needs a lawyer to assist with settlement claims regarding his accident. They can help with disability too

[u/kirakina → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

He's already disabled due to the military but I don't know what to do

[u/Royal_Tough_9927 → u/kirakina]

Is he receiving a military check ?

[u/kirakina → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

Yes but the banks collecting it because he's behind on bills

[u/Royal_Tough_9927]

If his accident was after his military discharge , he should have a lawyer. You need to speak with someone you trust.

[u/kirakina → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

Much later he was in Vietnam. The hit and run was processed by the state and they said that they "looked and looked" but didn't find anyone to charge. His medical bills were covered by the VA but this all put him behind on everything and unable to exist without my help for a year and even now it's still hard.

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