Grandson was in a bad car accident last week and I just need some support here.

[u/Top_Bit420]

Our hearts are breaking, this year has been tough for us all. I just got out of the hospital for emergency surgery that probably saved my life, the day after I had my wound VAC taken off we got the phone call no parents or grandparents want to receive right before Christmas. Our 19 year old grandson was in a terrible accident in NH, being so far away and having to wait for news everyday is terrible 😔 Well, he's had no brain activity whatsoever since it happened and has been in a coma since.. We still have no idea how it happened and we've been praying he'll wake up. We got the call last night saying they are giving him a day or two and then it's time to start thinking about pulling the plug 💔 Talk about heartbreaking, his poor mom has to hear this from the nurse's talking in the hallway outside his room.. Why it hurts so bad, my husband and I had to raise him and his little brother for 4 years while Mom went to jail, then rehab and they were like my children for those 4 years.. This is so painful to deal with the week before Christmas, he was on his way to his last day of college before Xmas break and ended up with a broken pelvis in 4 places, a damaged liver and spleen. Severe brain bleeding that's preventing them from doing anything at all, besides placing stints because his arteries were closing. My husband is packing up to head to NH to say his goodbyes. This is not a trip we've planned for whatsoever. His family has come together and helped with some gas money so he can get there before they do anything. I unfortunately have to stay home because of our pup.. I just wanted to say hug your kid's and grandkids tightly. You just never know what or when something like this will happen 💔 from a heartbroken grandmother ❣️

Update: Since my husband got to the hospital there's been some changes! They've been able to do some testing, he does have a blood clot in his lung, but they were able to do the procedure to place some mesh around it to keep it from traveling to his heart! They removed his breathing tube yesterday just to see if he'd breath on his own and he did for close to a minute! He also bit the tube in his mouth twice while my husband was there with his daughter 🙏🏻 Please keep praying, this might be a Christmas miracle!

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[u/TurtlesBeSlow]

I'm so incredibly sorry. I pray God holds you extra tight through this. Don't forget you are recovering. Take care of yourself.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/TurtlesBeSlow]

Thank you so much, this is so hard 🙏🏼❣️

[u/Cherylmayi]

My heart and prayers are with you all. Damn it. I hate NH motorcycle laws, lost a dear friend this way. I wish sorry could heal you love. Lost my son suddenly this time of year and it sucks so please, please seek out support groups. Don’t carry this alone. All my best.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/Cherylmayi]

I'm so sorry for your loss, that's terrible 😞

And Thank you for your kind words ❤️ NH motorcycle law's are the absolute worst, my aunt and uncle ride. But thankfully they dress to the 9s in their gear and helmets.. Well, they did. They are mid divorce now 😑 I lost a cousin in a motorcycle accident a few years back because he wasn't wearing a helmet 😞. It's been a rough few years. Please try to have a Merry Christmas 🫂🕊️

[u/Dawgy66]

I'm so sorry that you're going thru this. Sending prayers and positive vibes up for you all.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/Dawgy66]

Thank you, it's definitely a tough thing to deal with right before the holidays. So young 💔🫂

[u/Low_Ad_3139]

I’m so sorry. I cannot imagine. My deepest sympathies.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/Low_Ad_3139]

My heart is breaking every phone call. Thank you 🫂

[u/Decent_Brilliant7341]

I’m so sorry !! 😞

[u/Decent_Brilliant7341 → u/Decent_Brilliant7341]

It’s terrible when stuff like this happens especially when it’s close to holidays like these!! My grandmother lost her youngest son (my dads little brother) they got a randsom note on dec 20 ish around those days saying that if they didn’t pay up he would die, and once the $$ was sent he was found dead a couple days later on Christmas Day and( I think it had been his bday too) inside a trunk of a car stranded on the outskirts of the city. I was little when this happened so I can’t really remember much but I can’t imagine a pain like that or any kind of pain of losing someone on such special holidays.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/Decent_Brilliant7341]

Omg that's terrible 😔 I'm also sorry for your loss, no matter how long ago it was. Thank you for your response and yes, it's terrible right before the holidays. They'll never be the same without him..

[u/Decent_Brilliant7341 → u/Top_Bit420]

Sending you so much strength in these hard times!! Remember that this isn’t a goodbye and we will all be able to see our loved ones again one day ❤️❤️

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/Decent_Brilliant7341]

Thank you so much again, I lost my grandmother the first year I moved to WV in 22.. So she'll take good care of him until we meet again ♥️

[u/RainbowBoomer]

Sending you so much loving, and healing comfort. I’m so sorry your family is going through this. You are all in my thoughts. ❤️‍🩹

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/RainbowBoomer]

Thank you 💞

[u/VaguelyArtistic]

Sending you and your family the biggest hugs. 💕

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/VaguelyArtistic]

Thank you so much 🫂💞

[u/tytyoreo]

Sending you hugs....hope you start feeling better from your procedure.... Praying your grandson.. was keep us updated

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/tytyoreo]

Thank you, I will add a post if or when anything changes. Hubby left last night at 8 from WV and was at the hospital by 9 this morning in Concord NH... He got to sit with him for a few minutes before they started coming in his room and doing different things. So he left to go catch a nap. They told him to just talk to him like normal, so he did while no one was there.. He finally got to say what he needed to say to this sweet boy, even if he can't respond 💔🫂

[u/tytyoreo → u/Top_Bit420]

Aww that's so sweet..... hopefully he can get more time to talk to him

[u/NeverMisteaken]

Wishing your body healing and comfort for the devastation in your heart. Im glad your husband will be able to bring your loving presence to him. I will give mine an extra hug in honor of the one you have been robbed of. Truly sorrowful for the pain you are enduring.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/NeverMisteaken]

Hug them tightly, this is definitely not something we ever expected to hear. Our hearts just about sank to the floor when we got the phone call..

My husband made it there safely and got to spend a little bit of time with him this morning, the nurse told him to just talk to him like normal. So he told him that we love him dearly and he'll forever be in our hearts 💕🫂

[u/Conscious_Rule_308]

I just prayed for you guys. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Hold your puppy close to night. I’ve learned from experience to take comfort in my animals.

[u/EUGsk8rBoi42p]

Wishing strength for your family.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/EUGsk8rBoi42p]

Thank you 💞

[u/Loud_Ad_8923]

Sending.and your family love and prayers! I pray for safe travels.for your husband.and the trip he is getting ready to take.

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/Loud_Ad_8923]

Thank you for the prayers! I need to update the post, since my husband got to the hospital there's been some changes! I don't want to jinx anything or get my hopes up, but he's done a little bit of moving around 🙏🏻 They removed his tube yesterday and he was breathing on his own for a few minutes! The Dr.s were even shocked! They did say don't get your hopes up, but this is a good thing!

[u/Royal_Tough_9927]

You aren’t going to see this child because your dog needs you ?Please get the dog a sitter. You may regret this the rest of your life. I hope this young man lives on forever in organ donations,

[u/Top_Bit420 → u/Royal_Tough_9927]

I'm sorry that I couldn't just jump and find a sitter for my dog.

We would have had no place to stay if I had gone, and to be gone until after Christmas or New Years I just couldn't afford to get a sitter. It's not like I didn't want to be there. I'm in WV and don't know a soul here, he's in NH. It's 14 hours away

[u/Royal_Tough_9927 → u/Top_Bit420]

I’m sorry, I find friends and family good for troubled times.

[u/jereedejanae]

Sending prayers and love!!!

[u/dhsagal]

I am so sorry you are going through this 😔 Sending you huge amounts of love and support OP, this grandma’s heart is breaking for you 💔

[u/allg00dnamesaregone]

Sending you and your family hugs and prayers..

[u/edavid1001]

Sending you prayers and warm thoughts. I’m so sorry for your loss

[u/[deleted]]

I’m so sorry you’re all going through this terrible time. Sending my love.