Short for bills 24M

[u/LeCancerDude]

August 18th i was diagnosed with stage 2 brain cancer, by August 30th i was out of work due to my rapidly declining health. I was able to pay the mortgage and our other bills with what we had in savings, by the end of September I was hospitalized for my kidneys failing from a medication reaction. I have since been sent home and am looking for remote work to make ends meet but so far I haven't found anywhere that'll take me, I've joined Prolific which helps provide a little but I'm still short for our utilities for the last 2 months. Ive managed to get the mortgage to accept reduced payments until January but im still months behind on utilities. I feel awful asking for anything but I'm effectively bed ridden and don't have much of a choice otherwise.

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[u/RagPros7]

Donated. I’m battling testicular cancer and am really lucky I had my support group. I’m sorry about your situation. Keep asking for help and you will receive it. No one should have to deal with all of life’s problems and have to battle cancer. Good luck with everything, we’re all rooting for you!

[u/LeCancerDude → u/RagPros7]

Thank you! I wish you the best in your battle.

[u/LeCancerDude]

I have now created a gofundme. Thank you all for everything.

https://gofund.me/8118deb4

[u/Florida1974 → u/LeCancerDude]

It looks like you met your goal on GFM, which is awesome!! Losing your dog too??? I’m sorry about it all but the dog part hit home. They are truly a huge part of my own support system. I’m guessing same for you.

Hopefully better soon and can maybe look for a new pooch, once you are well enough to handle a new dog, they can be work.

[u/CarpenterRealistic15]

Donated. One of my closest friends recently died from cancer, its a terrible thing to have at such a young age, hope the donation helps a little.

[u/LeCancerDude → u/CarpenterRealistic15]

Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss

[u/CarpenterRealistic15 → u/LeCancerDude]

Thanks man, hope it all works out for you, looks like you have raised a decent amount so far

[u/BoomSauce781]

Almost the same happened to me, except the divorce . Been fighting cancer / castlemans disease since last year I finally got diagnosed . Kidneys shutdown , almost died . Now I’m chemo. All the help counts. Try starting a YouTube also. I have had some luck with donations to help pay with my medical.

But try and get in contact with your social worker at the hospital like I did . Might be able to get on social disability and or paid leave from your job. (FMLA)

[u/Professional_Yam6963]

Hey bro I donated 25$ too though you reached your goal. Sorry to hear about your dog. My dog died this year as well. I wish you all the best and hope you get well soon. Keep us updated. I hope to see you healthy and happy soon! Cheers

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Professional_Yam6963]

Thank you so much I'm sorry to hear about your fluffy friend

[u/Wonderful-Clothes596]

Have you tried contacting your utility company and making arrangements.

Are you a member of a church? Maybe they have funds that can help.

Were you fired due to your declining health? I think a phone call to an employment attorney would be useful.

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Wonderful-Clothes596]

Officially it's because I was taking too much time off. I had taken a week off a few months prior to finish moving, then every couple days the week before for doctors and to watch my son while my wife was out.

[u/spdrweb8 → u/LeCancerDude]

Still sounds like a wrongful termination. I'd file a case with EEOC before pursuing a lawsuit. You might be in a right to work state, and they'd try to claim that. Your current disability and their knowledge of your cancer is likely more than enough.

[u/HeavyTeaching7871 → u/LeCancerDude]

Hi. For.er HR exec. How long were you with your former company? How many employees did they have within 50 miles? Just wondering if you were protected by FMLA?

[u/Deadboyparts]

I’ll try to help you a bit on payday.

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Deadboyparts]

Thank you

[u/Deadboyparts → u/LeCancerDude]

How are things?

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Deadboyparts]

I suppose they could be worse, but they could definitely be a lot better too.

[u/Deadboyparts → u/LeCancerDude]

I saw you post on the Roast Reddit. I know you had a shitty couple a weeks

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Deadboyparts]

It's been a shitty few months. There's a lot i didn't include on there.

[u/Punkychemist]

Hey, have you set up a gofundme? You’ve gained a lot of traction on reddit for the roast post, it is worth a shot.

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Punkychemist]

I just did! The roast honestly blew up way more than I expected

[u/Punkychemist → u/LeCancerDude]

Awesome dude!

[u/LegalContext2215]

Donated cos your roast me post made me laugh! 😬seriously though, I am so sorry for all you are going through, I hope things will turn around for you. If you can get through this time, you can get through anything.

[u/LeCancerDude → u/LegalContext2215]

Thank you!

[u/Ok-Cash2381]

Donated. You've got this OP.

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Ok-Cash2381]

Thank you!

[u/Careless_Bird_5624]

Hi OP could you please let me know what country you are based in so I can direct you in the way of support

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Careless_Bird_5624]

Im in the US, been using food banks for most groceries but being jobless has pretty well screwed me for my other bills. Ive been taking surveys to pay my phone bill

[u/Careless_Bird_5624 → u/LeCancerDude]

Under the Americans with disabilities act are you eligible for any supplemental security income or social security disability insurance. Check this website to see if you can apply. https://www.cancercenter.com/community/blog/2023/01/filing-disability-for-cancer I can appreciate how hard it is to make do in such a situation I wish I could help myself all I can offer right now Is hopes and prayers that something comes through for you. You are not alone!! Have a lovely Christmas 🎄

[u/OrangeCreamSosa]

Open a gofundme page!

[u/tacohunter]

check to see if your mortgage company will allow you to enter into forbearance. it may be an option to help save the home, and stop the home payments.

[u/theatremom2016]

Donated! We only have $20 left before reaching the goal people! ❤️

[u/Heartless-Libra]

Donated. You got this man your roast me is what brought me to your page. Humor through it all is important. Shit sucks and I’m rooting for you!!

[u/AngerFurnace]

I private messages you. Please respond

[u/Mattpowersreal]

Need a way to donate bud

[u/LeCancerDude → u/Mattpowersreal]

I've got paypal and venmo

[u/thrivingandloved]

Where is your PayPal?

[u/LeCancerDude → u/thrivingandloved]

Hi sorry I added it to my bio

[u/No-Representative379]

Donated. I’m praying for you man, I hope you can be provided comfort 

[u/Unique-Future3705]

Hi Ben. I’m praying for you through this tremendously difficult battle. May God bless you and keep you safe. May He heal you and restore your health. God bless you. I pray that you are pain free and that you’re able to find even a sliver of peace in your day.

[u/jorgen80]

Let’s go my man!

[u/Secchakuzai-master85]

Donated. Keep on fighting!