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[u/FrontChoice164]

I feel embarassed and a pussy.

I was out with my friend drinking and he was very drunk, it was 3 of us. My 2nd friend left so it was just me and the drunk one and he decided to aggravate someone else when the club closed at 6am; it was pretty equal and I’m not sure why they were arguing but I tried to calm them down. My friend wouldn’t listen to me and I didn’t know what to do.

My friend and the guy start fighting outside having a fair 1-1 and I broke it up after my friend got knocked down -keep in mind I’m on my own stoned and there’s 8 people the other guys with-

After I broke it up the guy my friend was fighting came up to me asking if I want to fight, I’ve had fights before and I’m not afraid to fight however I felt because of what the situation was and being stoned it probably was best to walk away. He kept coming at me so I saw someone I know and we said I don’t want to fight and just leave it.

After having many fights before I’m home and now feel like an ass to my friend, embarassed and a pussy any advice?

[u/BevBoi98]

you did the right thing in my opinion. Some might call you a pussy but who cares what they think? You potentially saved your friend from further harm by breaking up the fight, and you didn’t get yourself into any trouble. How would you have been an ass to your friend?

[u/bdbones4]

OR. Why would you fight the guy? Why would you risk injury to yourself or to the other guy because your friend is an idiot? Pride? Ego? Who gives a fuck? Unless your family is in imminent danger always walk away. Your pride will get you killed or accidentally killing someone else. I’ve got two patients right now living with traumatic brain injuries because they weren’t man enough to walk away from a meaningless confrontation.

[u/IcyYoghurt1]

First of all instead of feeling embarrassed, you should be proud of yourself for NOT fighting.

I don’t know if it’s an age thing, but at some point you will realize how idiotic it even is to fight other people and the risk it actually has. Trust me, it could take one punch to permanently fuck other humans life and you don’t want that for yourself or the other person.

I had MMA as a hobby as a teenager, so knowing I can fight better than most ”weekend drunks” and while also being an arrogant douce, I used to find myself in a lot of fights especially after drinking out. I never had anything too bad happen for either party, police got involved a few times so that’s probably the ”worst thing that happened”, but after getting a bit older and getting some self awarness, I’ve realized how absolutely idiotic I have been and how stupid it’s to fight at all.

I understand the need for defending yourself and someone close to you, that’s a different thing, but even in those situations you should avoid fighting as long as you can. Your friend clearly was not trying to avoid fighting and instead was provoking others, so it’s in no means your ”job” to fight with or for him, you can try to stop the fighting (preferably before it even starts), but that’s about it.

So tldr; you are overreacting and you should probably talk with your friend about his need to provoke others when drunk, trust me it’s a mental issue (which luckily could fix itself with age).

[u/scarletteveee]

OR. A guy died outside my workplace the other week because they were fighting and he hit his head. Sounds cliché but violence doesn’t help anyone.