r/MadeMeSmile • u/fightmilk5905 • 2d ago
Don't have many people to tell and need to boast so reddit meet baby LJ Favorite People
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u/newtownkid 2d ago edited 2d ago
Congrats!
Just an FYI - safe sleep recommendations for newborns are that there are no blankets or anything similar in the crib with them.
This would include the bib, as it can smother them in their sleep (it's unlikely, but the goal is to absolutely minimize risks).
Check out the halo sleep sack swaddle, it's a great safe alternative.
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u/LSLA3 2d ago
Congrats, but please listen to this one post. Itās a big deal.
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u/RavenStormblessed 2d ago edited 1d ago
I need to add, I worked in a daycare I literally rescued a baby wirh a bib over the face, their body reacts with something covering and they can't breath properly, it is super dangerous, the walls of the cribs and basinet have to be mesh so they don't accidentally roll and suffocate, yes, they are not supposed to be able but they manage, blanket big nono, not stuffed animals. There are sleeping sacks that are safe if you want warmer sleeping
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u/jamesdog974 1d ago
Mesh walls and sleep sacks are excellent safety measures to prevent accidental suffocation.
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u/HP_123 1d ago
Babies this young do not need bibs
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u/emily_9511 1d ago
Nah itās for spit up. We used one of the bandana style bibs on our baby every day even when he was a newborn (he didnāt sleep with it of course) because if we didnāt, weād have to put him in 20 new outfits a day from all the spit up
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u/panicnarwhal 1d ago
puke and spit up. i only use bibs from 0-6 months bc of puke, spit up, and messy nursing. saves us from infinite clothing changes and complete wipe downs/baths!
always remove once baby is asleep or unattended though
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u/ClickClackTipTap 2d ago
Yup.
Flat, firm, separate sleep surface, and nothing but baby, sleep sack, and paci should be in the bed.
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u/AppearanceNeat1878 2d ago
I would want to add, having recently become a father in the UK, that you can use a blanket as long as it is safely tucked in around the mattress, below the baby's armpits, with their arms out. But I did mostly use a swaddle sack, especially during night.
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u/linerva 2d ago
I think that's the UK recommendation but US sources recommend no blanket? That's the impression I get.
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u/forgetfulsue 1d ago
Sleep sacks are fine, so kinda a blanket but they are zipped into a āblanketā.
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u/ffielding 2d ago
Not sure about the US but can confirm in the UK the recommendations say blankets are absolutely fine (providing they're tucked in and under the arms). It's what we went with before moving onto sleep bags after he grew a bit.
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u/foolish-words 2d ago
Was about to comment this. My son didn't like being swaddled, so we used a blanket safely tucked in and under his armpits with his feet at the bottom of his crib so he couldn't wriggle down.
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u/Marv1e 2d ago
Exactly this. The blanket in the photo is also light and allows airflow. When my son was born he was too tiny for a sleep sack, so we practiced safe sleep with a blanket much like this
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u/ScumbagLady 2d ago
Little fingers can poke through afghans and it can cut off circulation. I wouldn't recommend this type at all for the crib. Just decorate with the blankie gammy knitted and let the baby keep its fingers.
I had a scare when one of my hairs somehow wrapped around one of my daughter's toes when she was a baby. Thank goodness I saw it when I did, otherwise it could have caused some damage.
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u/lindafish120 1d ago
Keeping them as decorative items and opting for safer, tightly woven blankets for a babyās crib is a good precaution.
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u/CatpainCalamari 2d ago
Thank you for this, and I am glad this is the top comment.
Babies are incapable of clearing obstructed airways, they have not learned yet to control their arms and hands. I do not want to know how many cases of SIDS are actually "baby suffocated on blanket or other stuff in the crib".
That being said, congratulations OP for a beautiful child. Now please listen to the other parents here and keep the kid safe from itself.
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u/ZoeyBounce6465 1d ago
Keeping the crib clear of blankets, pillows, and other soft items is a good practice for ensuring the baby's safety.
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u/ExileOnMainStreet 1d ago
It's probably most cases. We just had our second kid, and already know about all of the sleep safe stuff, but not one person from the hospital to the ped office has asked us to review the exact sleep setup we use. We have received no advice on the proper, safe rearing of an infant and we're on #2. I would bet that most parents in the world don't know anything about SIDS, so most babies probably have blankets or sleep loose in bed with parents.
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u/Powamama93 2d ago
My anxiety definitely jumped seeing this bassinet.
(As a mom of 2 babies)
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u/my3sons01 1d ago
Mom of 3 (my oldest is 7) & I absolutely felt the same when seeing this!! Congrats OP - heās beautiful! & please donāt take offense to any of this! Weāre all here to help! When I was a first time mom there were things I did that I probably shouldnāt have had I known better! I always had a breathable mesh bassinet, or had the baby up towards the top of it (they made different level inserts depending on how old the baby was at that specific stage.)
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u/Powamama93 1d ago
Yes parenting is constantly learning things you never would have thought of.
Congratulations to OP, parenthood is amazing!
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u/Ryn421 2d ago
Please read this. The odds are low but the cost is more than you can imagine
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u/APartyInMyPants 1d ago
And no walls like this bassinet. You want free airflow and movement over the baby.
Babies are thermal powerplants. The last thing a newborn needs is a blanket.
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u/ThePurpleBaker 2d ago
As a relatively new parent in the UK I want to add the NHS safe sleep recommendations say you can use a blanket but it has to be tucked in tightly around the mattress and below the babyās armpits with arms out. I did mostly use a swaddle bag though especially at night.
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u/Dasylupe 1d ago
I used a sleep sack, too. I lost my sister in 1988 to SIDS, so I was very anxious about making sure my son was extremely safe while he slept. I may not have slept much for the first year of his life.Ā
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u/scarletnightingale 2d ago
The halo sleep sacks were a lifesaver for us. It was so much easier than trying to saddle the kid (who hated being swaddled), we slept easier knowing he couldn't smother himself and he also felt really comfortable in them and slept better.
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u/LearningIsTheBest 2d ago
I was 100% certain this warning would be in the top comment. It's reassuring to hear someone treating it seriously, being kind about it, and even giving a recommendation. Good on you.
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u/-xraygirl- 2d ago
Itās also hard to tell how breathable the sides are, it looks like a bassinet so I assume they are..
Definitely remove the blanket and bib though OP š
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u/GGTheEnd 1d ago
Just reading this reminds me how much raising a baby is just trying to not kill it.
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u/Ma-rin 2d ago
Congrats! Welcome to the club!
Silly advice but still: Please donāt put loose blankets over LJ, but tuck them in. If heās somehow pulling them over his face, thereās a chance of suffocating, as he canāt roll away yet, or push the blanket down with his hands.
Swaddling is an art š¤
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u/LuckyMome 2d ago
And no sleep on the belly, to avoid sudden infant death syndrome.
Welcom LJ !!
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u/TallLoss2 2d ago
congrats ! but more importantlyĀ
NO BLANKETS !! NO BIBS !!! Nothing but your baby should be in that bassinetĀ
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u/Familiar_Raccoon3419 2d ago
Please be careful with deep bassinets like that as some have led to SIDS. Not necessarily this exact style but this photo makes me nervous. Make sure itās not on an incline in any direction and is completely level and flat
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u/scaryPigMask 2d ago edited 2d ago
This is good advice. I used to work for a now defunct company where I was in charge of destroying entire lines of products that had inadvertently led to the death of an infant so nobody would pull them out of the trash and use them unknowingly. Had to actually be sure to destroy them and they numbered in the thousands. I took it pretty seriously they needed to be completely scrapped before we sent them off to the dump. Be very cautious of what you put your child in. Not to say that the one pictured is necessarily a bad one but always use caution. I'll never forget the days when you would hear on the radio we are about to send you guys another batch of chokeys. Shit was a joke to them as the money was still coming in. Eventually they folded but who knows the amount of collateral damage. I think it's been plenty long now so I don't fear any repercussions but this was Simplicity/Graco who had an abnormally high rate of "incidents" as they call them.
Edit: wow that is scary. After looking around it seems that Graco is still in the baby business. That's unreal to me
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u/frogsgoribbit737 1d ago
Many baby products have had to be recalled because of infant deaths. If a company went out of business because of that, we'd have none left. Fisher price just went through that with the rock n play and business is still booming for them.
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u/scaryPigMask 1d ago edited 1d ago
Of course there will always be new products that have a bad outcome due to lack of proper testing or even negligence. I'm no advocate or anything. I was basically taking out the trash but my threshold for failure is 1 child. If it's a proven fact that your product can possibly cause a death the whole line should immediately be recalled at best or even scrapped if the problem can not be remedied. I see their magic number was 13. As a parent I find that an unacceptable margin of failure. Ymmv
Edit: looks like it was upwards of 100. Can you imagine? 100 families tragically torn apart when they probably knew after the first couple incidents and were hoping that the cost of paying restitution would be less than the cost of fixing the problem. Again I have no skin in this game this is just a morbid observation.
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u/Rolling_Beardo 2d ago
Congrats! If you havenāt already you should check out r/daddit great group of people over there and no one minds a little bragging
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u/hermeown 1d ago
Wanted to also add r/newparents and r/newborns, they helped so much when I first became a parent!
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u/HIdude14 2d ago
SIDS is a big deal. Just swaddle the baby and remove all other objects from the crib, including bib.
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u/furrycroissant 2d ago
Beautiful! Please remove the bib, it's not necessary at this age and will suffocate them, and no loose blankets. Safe sleep info
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u/Carpetation 2d ago
What a beautiful baby. I wish you a good sleeper and a good eater and nary a diaper blowout.
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u/Luna_Soma 2d ago
Heās perfect. Congratulations!
Also reiterating what others have said about the blanket. The halo sack is wonderful and makes them nicely swaddled like a burrito. The baby Merlin sleep suit is also great for when they get bigger.
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u/Big_Key5096 2d ago
Word of advice don't post more photos of your child.
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u/emmstars123 1d ago
Seriously why are you the first comment Iāve seen to say this? Donāt post your kids online!!
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u/parmesann 1d ago
to be fair if youāre gonna post your kid onlineā¦ infant photos are the safest. even a month from now, theyāll look unrecognisable to anyone who isnāt constantly with them
edit: I do agree though just to be clear. a hard rule of no photos publicly online is always good
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u/SlameCormony 2d ago
What a sweet little angel, congratulations on this true happiness, may the baby grow up strong and happy!
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u/Fast_Economist_4304 2d ago
please take the blanket and bib off of him. his pjs are warm enough for him. the blanket and bib pose a threat of going over his face.
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u/poisondwarf05 2d ago
Congratulationās he is super cute. Well done Mummy you got this. Welcome to the world baby LJ š
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u/emmstars123 1d ago
Thereās a lot of sweet supportive comments but just remember the internet is big and not everyone has good intentions. Be super careful posting your kids on social media (I recommend not doing it at all)
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u/haralambus98 2d ago
100% something to boast about. Parenting is so much fun and all you need to do is turn up and be a consistent cheerleader x
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u/fightmilk5905 1d ago
WOW! we can't believe how far this post has traveled. Thankyou everyone for all your kind words and advice mother and baby are great we came home last night and had a brilliant first night. Reddit you really are amazing!
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u/Nomorebonkers 1d ago
Congratulations! Itās crazy and amazing. Sending love to your wife; hope she feels supported through the upcoming birth. ā¤ļø
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u/Senior-Ad2982 1d ago
As a parent Iād implore you to avoid posting pictures of your child anywhere on the internet. Your childās privacy is more valuable than the attention of random strangers who donāt actually care about your family.
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u/einwhack 2d ago
Take good care of yourself so you can take care of that baby. Your gonna be a great mama.
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u/Zealousideal-Ice-565 1d ago
Congratulations love. Loads of safety sleep measures here. He is gorgeous. Well done ā¤ļø
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u/Liftkettlebells1 1d ago
So people just out here posting pictures of their kids to randoms on reddit....Jesus man
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u/PlaneWerewolf3130 1d ago
Please be careful posting your child. Especially his face. I work in the security field, and you would not believe the evil out there that will use faces of children from online. With AI now itās even worse. Congrats on a beautiful baby.
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u/aheartofsteel 2d ago
Welcome to the world, tiny human!!! Wishing you both loads of love, happiness and good health!
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u/cfresh12 2d ago
Congratulations!! What a cutie! So much fun for all of you in the years to come!! Very happy for you!
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u/The_Duchess_of_Dork 2d ago
Congratulations, parents! Welcome to the world beautiful baby LJ! We are happy you are here ā¤ļø
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u/Unable-Touch-3903 2d ago
Theyāre perfect.
Please listen to the advice in this thread so that they can continue to be perfect.
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u/Stacysmom87 2d ago
What a precious angel!!!! Big hugsss and welcome to the mom club!!! If you need anything or have any questions feel free to reach out!
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u/Koolmidx 2d ago
Enjoy the cuteness while it lasts, before you know it they stink when they sleep and know everything yet can't remember to charge their phone.
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u/Liquidwombat 1d ago
It wasnāt until I had a child that I experienced the sensation of simultaneously wanting to strangle somebody while also being absolutely ready to jump in front of a car for them
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u/BetaTestaburger 1d ago
Congratulations ā¤ļø I hope you are both well and getting plenty of rest and snuggles in š
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u/LinaLamont-1450 1d ago
Congrats, but try not to post more pictures of your baby online. We don't know who's looking at them, and it's dangerous.
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u/xX-bbw-sub 1d ago
So beautiful š„°
Please be sure to follow safe sleep practices, as I noticed several hazards in this photo (Iām sure as a momma youāre keeping a close eye on him). If you have any questions your local hospitals should have medical professionals trained specifically in areas of safe sleep and infant safety.
Congratulations, momma! Enjoy it, it truly does go by faster than you think!
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u/sittingonmyarse 1d ago
I donāt know about you, but every time I had one that small, I just looked in the bassinet and thought āgood Lord what did I do? Iām going to break it.ā Congratulations! Enjoy the ride!
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u/rustyseapants 1d ago
Do Parents Invade Children's Privacy When They Post Photos Online?
Don't post your kids online, they don't have any rights to privacy?
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u/DrF4ther 2d ago
Hopefully he doesnāt grow up to be like you pandering to online strangers for validation because youāre not getting enough elsewhere.
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u/alofogas 1d ago
Right? I couldnāt imagine posting my baby to Reddit. Absolutely mind boggling to me. Idk why this trash sub is being recommended to me anyways.. Iāve muted it before bc I hate this subreddit the most out of all the reddits. Bs.
Cute babyā¦ bad, bad idea.
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u/PotentialCareless324 2d ago
Donāt you have a wife or girlfriend? Enjoy the baby with them. Happy people donāt post stuff like this on social media especially reddit.
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u/crazymastiff 2d ago
Iām child free and donāt get all gushy over babies. They make me rather uncomfortable, but damn. Thatās a cute baby. Congrats!!!!
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u/chrismalga22 1d ago
cost of raising baby: About $293,000 from birth to age 17 (an average of $17,235 per year) for a two-parent, middle-income family with two children, according to the first national estimate in over a decade
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u/ChocolateIll743 2d ago
Adorable š„° Wishing you and your family all the happiness , joy and love .
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u/lIlHYPERIONlIl 2d ago
Congrats random stranger, I wish both of you both of you nothing but the best in your life as you both grow ā¤ļø
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u/Drakar_och_demoner 2d ago edited 2d ago
Grats! Best feeling in the whole world. :)
Just a heads up, read up on having blankets in the crib with babies. I would outright avoid them because they've been linked to SIDS.
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u/cannapuffer2940 2d ago
Welcome to the world little one. I hope your life is full of joy and love and success. May you wake up each morning with a smile on your face. May you fall asleep with pleasant dreams. May all that you hold bring you happiness. May you make somebody else's life, special because you are in it...
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u/TemporaryKitchen6916 1d ago
Beautiful baby!!!! No bib or blanket in crib dear! Turn the heat up or swaddle when in crib.
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u/Renovatio7000 1d ago
Congratulations! You have leveled up. Itās the best thing ever. Strange camera makes bassinet look 5 feet deep.
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u/rationalboundaries 2d ago
Just so you know...you posted about an hour ago and (almost) 100 internet "strangers" stopped in to welcome LJ & offer congratulations & safety hints.
You & LJ are not alone, today or any day! People of Reddit "available" almost 24/7/365 if you need advice, encouragement, a good laugh. Internet full of videos & advice to make the most of crazy days of "4th" trimester. You're both doing great!
Welcome to the World, little man!!